The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Self-Care in Action – A Note from Present Me to Future Me

Sharing some mindful self-care by writing a note to my future self. Who you are now is a product of your past thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions. Things that you did along the way made you who you are now. This can be hard to fathom. Aren’t you who you are now, now? The answer is yes – but only when you’re actively being mindful and consciously aware. The only time that’s really, truly, real is right now. This moment,

How Can You Be Both Alone and Not Alone at the Same Time?

Alone and not alone coexist differently from feeling lonely. There are no absolute truths. Even the most well-known, established scientific laws can change. One of the most amazing things about science is how it recognizes that for everything we know, there’s infinitely more that we don’t know. There are always new questions, new ideas, new perspectives, and things beyond our knowledge to be learned. One of the most fascinating notions in science, to me, is that of Schrödinger’s cat. If

How is the Unusual More the Usual Than the Unusual?

Who decides usual from unusual, anyhow? I have never been called normal. Not by any stretch of the imagination. Being unusual is my usual. As a kid, I was different from those around me on many levels – both physically and emotionally. As a teen, because of where I grew up, I was a good head shorter than most of the other boys my age. Unusual tended to be an apt descriptor for me. Like most teens and twenty-somethings, I

Do You Have Some Days You Feel Like You’re Living a Lie?

I believe that everyone has some days like this. Who in the hell am I? That’s the question, isn’t it? Who are you? Then, because that question alone isn’t sufficient, where, how, and why also get tossed into the mix. Everyone makes choices every day. Some are small and largely automatic. Some are huge with massive effects/affects and/or consequences. Whatever the case might be, you will have both good days and bad days. Among these, some good days are life-changing,

Are You and Your Life Worthwhile and Deserving of What You Desire?

No matter what it is – you ARE worthwhile and deserving. Everyone has bad days. That’s part of the human experience. Even the happiest, most upbeat, and most positive people have bad days. That’s the yin/yang of the Universe at play. I know how it feels when you’re depressed. That sense of worthlessness, that you are unable to win, that no matter what you do, the Universe hands you shit sandwiches – and hovers over you until you take a

What If the Right Path Chosen Yesterday is the Wrong Path Today?

Right and wrong are seldom written in stone. The path will frequently change. How old are you? Do you think that you are who you were when you were 10 years old? How about 20 years old? Do you think you (or your path) are who you were even a year ago? The point is that you are always changing. Sometimes, it’s barely noticeable. Other times, it’s sudden. Some change is desirable – some less so. But change can, will,

How Is Empowerment So Easy/Why is It All So Hard?

Creating and/or finding empowerment can be so easy…but why is it also so hard? One of my all-time favorite books is Paulo Coelho’s The Alchemist. If you have not read this book – I can’t recommend it enough. I don’t know that it matters what genres you typically read – this book is just amazing. The central premise is the idea of living every day with purpose – and finding your way even when the way is blocked. This is

Why Is It Good That There Are NO Absolutes in Life?

Because no absolutes means endless possibilities. There are always extremes. For every good there’s bad. Every up has a down. Positivity is mirrored by negativity. Liberals face off against conservatives. Extremes are on either end of a given spectrum (whether you compare via a coin, flexible cylinder, or what have you). The extremes rarely, if ever, exist alone. There’s a ginormous amount of color and grey between them. Yet you’re often being lumped into one group or another. Or getting

What is The Ego and How Does It Control Your Life Experience?

The ego is an almost conscious entity in and of itself. The concept of the ego, as most people are familiar with, originated from Sigmund Freud in 1923. In his paper, The Ego and the Id, he laid out what has become a major foundation for psychoanalysis that’s still applied today. To summarize (probably poorly), Freud’s concept of the ego was focused on the self – between the fun-loving and impulsive Id and the spiritual and ethereal Superego. Freud’s take

How Do Embracing Change and Positivity Go Hand In Hand?

Embracing change gives you control you won’t otherwise have – and that’s hugely positive. There is only one constant in the Universe – change. Change happens all the time. You can’t stop it. You can either ride it out, stand in resistance to it, or do the work to embrace it and take what control is in it for you. Change is scary because it’s anathema to comfort. Or at least that’s the perception. Change will pull you from an