The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
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Tag: mindful

How Do You Respond to Upsetting, Annoying, and Disappointing Things That Happen?

Not the initial, visceral response, but what you do next. I’m about to publish my first new book in 2 years. This is super exciting because this book is the conclusion to the series I’ve been working on since 2015. Saturday morning, before departing for an all-day event 2 hours away, I checked my email. The eBook variation – available for pre-order – had been canceled. WTAF? They claim I didn’t upload the final file in time. But I’m completely

How Do We See More Clearly That It’s Not a Race?

The human race is not, in fact, a race at all. Nearly every message you receive, no matter the source, is a constant reminder that you need to go go go. Keep going. Always doing. Rest is for the wicked. You can sleep when you’re dead. And so on. The idea of the “rat race” created this notion, long ago, that life is a constant race. Being first. As such, gets a whole lot of emphasis and is given importance.

Why Are Intentions and Feelings Frequently Misaligned?

No matter your intentions, you have zero control over anyone’s feelings but your own. Lots of people approach things with good intentions. But what does that mean? It means that you might say or do something that’s not intended to be hurtful, mean, offensive, or otherwise upsetting. You have good or neutral – not bad – intentions. How come, even when your intentions are neutral or good, you still cause hurt to someone? Because you can control the feelings of

Why Didn’t You Know What I Thought You Should/Would Know?

Communication is the key to everything in all relationships. Have you ever thought that you told someone something or held a conversation that you didn’t? Did you ever go through – in your head – a whole discussion, then forgot that it never truly occurred?  And then, have you gotten mad at the other party because they didn’t know what you thought that they should and/or would know? Odds are, either you’ve experienced this – or been on the receiving

Why Not Find Your Joy Where You Find Your Joy?

Don’t let anyone rain on your parade. People love to knock things. Especially online. Everywhere you turn, someone has derogatory comments or criticism regarding things that bring people joy. For example, I am loving the Ahsoka series from Star Wars nearing the end of its initial run. Yet I’ve seen multiple posts about why it sucks, what’s wrong with it, and so on. Sorry if it’s not bringing you joy the same as it’s bringing me joy. An even better

I’m a Human Being – Sitting at My Desk, Fingers on My Keyboard

A new mindfulness realization dawns on marble head. My therapist told me about a book called Clinical Dharma: A Path for Healers and Helpers by Dr. Stephen Dansiger. She said it had been helpful to her, and she thought it would be helpful to me. In this book, the author talks about applying Buddhist principles to clinical practices – and beyond. Specifically, this relates to the Noble Eightfold Path. Some of it has resonated with me, some not as much.

Do You Think You’re the Only One Feeling Uncertain?

Spoiler alert – you’re not the only one. Though we tend not to talk about it in this way – COVID-19 changed the world. First, we learned that many people, in the face of a public health crisis, will take extraordinary steps to protect themselves, those they care about, and even total strangers. We also learned that many people will take advantage of a public health crisis for personal gain, are horridly selfish, self-centered, and that they couldn’t care less

When You Get to the End, Will You Celebrate or Regret?

Life is full of choices both made and not made. No matter what happens between now and tomorrow, your life will come to an end. Sorry if that’s a very downer statement. But it’s a simple truth for everyone everywhere. It doesn’t matter who you are, where you come from, your social status, wealth or lack, or any other factor you can think of. Life ends for everyone. You can look at this as a real bummer. You may also

Changing Your Life Is Only as Difficult as You Make It

How difficult do you make it? When it comes to finding the best ways to complicate my life, I’m an expert. This tends to come from overthinking things, overanalyzing, self-doubt, uncertainty, fear, and similar factors. Why? Sometimes it’s because of the idea that if it looks too good to be true (or too easy) it probably is. Other times because I’ve long believed that nothing worth having is ever easy. Then there are external factors like the opinions of others,

Why Is It That Uncertainty is Always So Certain?

How can you recognize, accept, and even find positivity in uncertainty? I’ve written time and again that the one and only constant in the Universe is change. It’s the only constant, but by no means the only universal truth. There are others. These include the fact that every single person on the planet – you, me, and everyone – will experience these three things: Birth, life, and death. The simplicity of this notion can feel harsh to some. But on

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