The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
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If You’re Empowered Do Other People Become Disempowered?

Empowerment is not a zero-sum matter. When you’re empowered nobody becomes disempowered. One of the most dangerous false narratives in our society today is around what equates to selfishness. In many respects, nearly every act of self-care, self-focus, and anything else that puts you first is considered selfish. If you don’t give enough time, energy, work, and what-have-you to your family, friends, and community – before self-care – you’re being selfish. This false narrative is the bedrock of a far

Did You Know That Your Identity Is Largely Artificial?

Your identity is labeled via artifice mostly tied to your egoic self. Identity is complex. How you identify yourself varies depending on circumstances and situations. Student. Parent. Child. Friend. Lover. Coworker. Boss. Man. Woman. No matter which of these apply, they seldom apply all at once. And what’s more – all of them are artificial. Additionally, your identity will change constantly. Some of that change is wholly under your control. But much of it will be viewed and commented on

Why You Don’t Need to Love Yourself but DO Need to Like Yourself

It’s because you are always with yourself, all the time. But that’s just the start. Nobody is ever, truly, alone. Why? Because no matter where you go, there you are. Or in other words – you always have yourself. Here’s the thing – your entire life, you have yourself. That means that you have all that you are, good, bad, and otherwise, always with you. For many people, that’s disconcerting. You have yourself – but isn’t that a lonely proposition?

Is It Normal To Question The Path That You’ve Chosen to Take?

It is not just normal to question the path, but necessary. At the start of the pandemic in 2020, I had an opportunity present itself to me. I was in the position to pursue the path I most desired to take. That was writing full-time. This excited me. So, I redoubled my efforts. That led to me publishing 3 books in 2020. An idea sparked a new direction for my writing. Rather than writing by the seat of my pants

What Do You Do When You Feel Like You Can’t Win?

When you feel like you can’t win you always have options. The past couple of weeks have not been good. I got COVID. Even though I took lots of precautions and was as vaccinated and boosted as possible – I still got sick. However – it was no worse than a cold, and there seem to be no lingering effects. Vaccines work – thank you, science. Right on top of that, my mother-in-law had to be hospitalized. Without oversharing, she’s

How Much Can You Trust Your Gut Instincts?

Trusting gut instincts depends on mindfulness here and now. Thought and feeling can be easy to define when you’re mindful. Conscious awareness, here and now, lets you know what you’re thinking and what and how you’re feeling. But what about gut instinct? And how is that defined? For me, gut instinct goes deeper than thought or feeling – and is a combination of both. It’s a certain, instinctual awareness that exists somewhere deep within. I can’t explain in words how

Are the Best Intentions Sometimes Not Enough to Avoid Conflict?

Your best Intentions are great – until they meet reality. Everybody makes mistakes. Some are big, some small. Most can be forgiven to one degree or another. When it comes to our intentions, it’s very easy to screw up. When you have no intent on causing hurt or harm – and then do – that’s a pain point. To quote playwright Oscar Wilde, “It is always with the best intentions that the worst work is done.” More than once, I

Why Should You Admit To Being Selfish When You Are?

Everyone will be selfish from time to time – and admitting to it is empowering. You most likely strive to be a decent human being. It doesn’t matter if you have lofty goals and huge ambitions – or just want to live a life you’re more often content than miserable with. Odds are, you’re a decent person. Sure, you’re flawed. We all are. Nobody is perfect, save that everyone is perfectly imperfect. That means you will mess up, fail, get

When the Ongoing Work Gets Tedious Is It All Still Worthwhile?

Despite the ongoing work feeling never-ending and tedious – yes, it’s still worth it. Who I am today has taken me a long time to forge. What’s more, there’ve been numerous false starts, mistakes, errors, and total fuck-ups. Yet here I am – who, what, how, and why I desire to be. But that’s not the end of the story. It’s never the end of the story until literally, the end – as in the death of the current meatsuit

Can You Practice Self-Care While Still Caring About Others?

Yes, you absolutely can practice self-care while still caring about others. I’d like to debunk a few myths here. First – self-care is NOT selfish. Period, end of story. Yes, elements of self-care might appear selfish from without. Saying “no” for your mental health, refusing to participate in the drama of others, and no longer doing things that hurt you mentally and emotionally will appear selfish to others. Note – true selfishness involves intent. Malice of forethought. An action taken

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