Posted by: Titaniumdon | March 29, 2017

Pathwalking 274

Surrendering to the Universe is not easy.

If, like me, you are almost obsessed with the how and why of things, then simply surrendering to the Universe is a particularly loaded concept.  It gets even more complicated if you are a skeptic or cynic.

What does it mean to surrender?  It means you have to have faith.

This, too, can be a really loaded concept.  We are frequently seeing around us people who are allowing their so-called “faith” to dictate any number of unsavory actions.  Intolerance, outright hatred, fear-mongering, terrorism and various other atrocities in the name of “faith” are all over the mediascape of the world.

Even more distressing, at least to me, are those who express so publicly their blind faith.  They deny science, they disregard certain aspects of modern medicine, they strive to force their “faith” into the public sector where it absolutely does not belong.  We are constantly exposed to these forms of so-called “faith”, which manages to cause chaos, discord and all kinds of negativity.

The difference between the faith involved in surrendering to the Universe and that espoused by those I mention above is tremendous.  They share a name, but they do not share the same intent, nor the same positivity and love.  That mentioned above is largely fear and lack based, but the faith of surrendering to the Universe is love and abundance based.

Yes, those who claim the kind of faith that allows them to deny science may think they are coming from a place of love, but in truth they are coming from a place of fear and lack.  Why else would they be so afraid that science may prove that which they believe to be wrong?

How does the faith of surrendering to the Universe work?  As I frequently write, consciousness creates reality.  You have a thought, you put your feelings into it, and then you take intentional actions.  Once you have done this…you let it happen.

This is the complicated part.  You’ve put the notion out there, you’ve felt it, you’ve taken actions…and yet there is still a waiting period.  This is where you have to surrender to the Universe, and this can be particularly challenging.

Surrendering to the Universe is not about just waiting for things to happen.  Yes, it may involve waiting, but it’s not like you are expecting money to rain from the sky or some other surreal, virtually impossible act to occur.  There is intent.  There is expectation.  There is belief and faith that what you have asked for, what you have set in motion will come to pass.

I have written before that there are no limits to the reality which our consciousness can create.  However, while there are no limits, there are our core beliefs, our current reality, and the shadows of our past that can and will affect our ability to work with this.

When I was severely injured, I thought only about being completely healed.  Yes, I knew the doctors were unsure just how completely I would recover, but I thought only about total and complete recovery.  I felt what it would be like to be whole and uninjured.  I took action, in pushing every single therapy session to and beyond my limits.  I knew it would not be instantaneous, so I surrendered to the Universe that it would be so, as quickly as possible, setting no expectation of time but that it would be how I expected it.  And it was.  And it is.

There is reality to this.  I had amazing doctors and therapists.  But even they were impressed by the speed and totality of my recovery.  I have some wicked scars, and my body looks funky in an x-ray…but unless you see that or I tell you about it, you’d never know.

I had unwavering faith that I would be healed in the end.  When I set that in my mind, I surrendered that to the Universe, and it was done.  This was in a dire circumstance.  Surrendering to the Universe does not have to be in response to something extreme.

Let’s say I want to acquire more money.  I need to think about abundance, and money coming to me.  I need to feel what it will feel like to have that money, and to do things with it that make me feel good.  Then I need to take intentional, inspired actions to set this in motion.  Surrendering to the Universe is not about expecting it to rain hundred-dollar bills, it is having that unwavering faith that your thoughts, feelings and actions will consciously create your desired reality.

If you are requesting creating a reality you do not believe to be realistic for you, surrendering to the Universe will do nothing.  You have to be conscious of your beliefs, and if you don’t believe that this can be done, well congrats, you are correct.  Skeptical about the conscious creation process?  Cynical that you can have what you desire?  No amount of surrendering will let this work.  You have the car, you have the key, but the battery is dead.  It may click, it may wheeze, but it won’t start.

Surrendering to the Universe is turning the key and knowing the car will start.  No hesitation, just power-up.  Yes, it is as easy as that…and at the same time, it’s not.  Until we gain real consciousness about the Universe being joyful, abundant and positive, surrender will be ineffective.  But when we do see the world in this way, when we do come to know at our core that this is how it works, we can build anything we want to.

My last thought on the topic of surrendering to the Universe is this: Why not?  I don’t want to live in a reality of lack, of intolerance, of fear and division and anger.  Despite happenings in the world at large, I believe, because I have made this happen many times before, that consciousness can create a better reality.  When my reality is better, I can help others to find a better reality for themselves.  I would rather believe that we can improve the world each individually than that we are trapped by our circumstances.  Silence the inner critic and surrender to the Universe.

What do you believe in strongly enough to surrender it to the Universe?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Posted by: Titaniumdon | March 27, 2017

Positivity: Community

Community is about finding belonging.

We all want to belong.  We all want to find a place where we can have our people, surround ourselves with the like-minded to share experiences.  That is how you form a community.

Some communities are wide-ranging and spread out over a broader spectrum of interest, like a specific city or town.  Some are more specific, like a religious institution.  Some are particularly specialized, like a club or volunteer organization.

It’s certainly possible to be a part of multiple communities.  But finding community helps us to find others who share interests with us, and help overcome the sense of loneliness most people feel along the way.

Though not every community is for everyone, it’s important to remember that just because you don’t share the same religion or nationality or hobby, that doesn’t make anyone else lesser than you.  What gives me a sense of belonging may feel utterly alien to you, and vice versa.  It’s important to keep this in mind, because sometimes our sense of community goes from simply exclusionary to intolerant, and from that intolerance we develop misunderstandings that frequently get exploited by others to divide and conquer us.

Having a community we can call our own, however, allows us to share any number of thoughts, feelings, and even actions between one another.  We get to express ourselves in a similar manner, and share our belonging with people who have at least this much in common with us.

Why do we need so much to belong? I think it’s a matter of human nature.  We can only think for ourselves, we are all unique individuals; but we are social creatures, to a lesser or greater degree.  We like to have somewhere comfortable where we feel as though we can be ourselves, but in a similar way to other people, and share the sense of belonging that creates.  Despite all of us being the same in our human nature, the size and variable geography of this world frequently feels too big, too impersonal for most.  So we find more manageable communities to be a part of, some by choice and some by time and place and largely random circumstance.

There is incredible positivity in finding a community you can call your own.  Feeling as though you belong somewhere feels good, and the positivity that comes of feeling good allows us to build bigger and better things for ourselves.  When we individually feel good, it’s easier to do things that help others out there feel good, too.

Having communities we feel a part of gives us strength when we need to remember that we are not truly alone.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that there are numerous communities with different attributes which we can become a part of, we have an amazing tool to create belonging.  When we belong to a community, we create a shared space in which we can build more good, and when we feel good we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred sixty-fifth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Posted by: Titaniumdon | March 24, 2017

Crossing the Bridges: Best Laid Plans…

Do you beat yourself up when you fail to follow-through on something?

Do you spend time berating yourself, getting upset over mistakes and failures to launch?  Do you start to feel bad, to spiral negatively when you had all the right intentions but then don’t complete your plan?

Most people do.  I know I do.  I get annoyed with myself, and start to feel bad when I make a plan and then I don’t move on it.

Last week I had an excellent vacation.  I was away from my life, and got to know some folks better whom I’d known only peripherally, and made some new friends, too.

I also fully intended to use last week’s vacation as a rallying point to start some new habits this week.  Yup, I was going to live large, to move forward on a number of ideas and plans I had, and to really shift some habits in my life.

Reality met my plans.  It began honestly enough – I did not get home until almost 5am Monday morning, following nearly 20 hours on the road.  I was productive Monday night, and got some sleep.  Tuesday morning, I was still wiped.  But, hey, fencing on Tuesday night…which I attended.  Wednesday morning…still sleepy, my motivation was pretty much non-existent.  Thursday morning I was distracted by my cat, the one who rarely comes out of hiding, and failed to get out the door in time.  This morning…overslept, and failed to get out the door once more.

So much for my morning trips to the gym.  This week is now done.

I could get really annoyed with myself over this.  I have no real excuses, I could have acted on this, I simply chose not to.  Failure to launch, lack of motiviation…doesn’t matter what I call it, the point is that I got as far as planning, again, but did no actions.

Except, I DID take several new actions this week.  I have not played my usual Facebook games in the am, and have actually gotten stuff done, like paying bills.  I have turned off the TV when the wife goes to bed, and made attempts at, if I didn’t succeed at, working on writing, editing and SCA stuff.  I started a new dietary regime, and have been really good about it.  I have been getting decent sleep.  I have successfully meditated now for 4 days in a row.  I have been more keenly aware of what I am thinking and feeling, asking and answering questions of myself daily.

Partial success on new habits.  Is this exactly all I had planned to do for myself?  No.  But rather than get mad at myself and get upset about what I have not done, I am instead going to look at what I HAVE accomplished.

Society is obsessed with looking at failure.  Everywhere we turn all we see is failing this and unsuccessful that and such.  The American government is so obsessed with things that are supposedly failing that they want to institute “fixes” that will likely be far worse than what they see as wrong.

The constant bombardment with messages of failure is disheartening, distressing, upsetting, and downright uncomfortable.  Everywhere we turn the message is more and more negative, so much so that when we DO see something about success we comment immediately about the nice change of scenery.

If I choose to focus on what I have failed to do, there is a much higher chance that I will continue to fail at it.  That’s how the Law of Attraction works.  Consciousness Creates Reality, so if I give my focus to what I DO NOT WANT, it’s pretty probable that that is what I will manifest.

If, like me, you tend to beat yourself up when you fail, this can be particularly challenging.  This takes a great deal of conscious, focused thought to change your tone, change your normal reactions.  But I firmly believe that this is a worthwhile act, so I am going to work with that, and do my best to create better.

I do not know anybody who gets every plan right every time.  We all make mistakes, but mistakes should be learning opportunities.  Nobody is perfect.

Last but not least…just because I didn’t follow-through this week, that doesn’t mean I am giving this plan up.  I will continue, every day, to struggle to make this happen, and to have the life I want to be the person I most want to be.  Change takes effort, and I will continue to expend the necessary effort to be whom I want to be.

Can only be here and now, and go forward.  So…onwards and forwards.  As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

GOAL LOG – Week 12:

Diet:  I have been working on a new, low-carb high-protein plan.  Not a diet – a lifestyle shift.

Exercise:  I fenced Tuesday.  I did a ton of walking Wednesday, so that should count.

Meditation:  Four days in a row, never less than 5 minutes.

Gratitude:  I have expressed gratitude for 5 things a day, four days in a row.

 

This is the twenty-sixth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

Posted by: Titaniumdon | March 22, 2017

Pathwalking 273

Change is complicated.

First, it is imperative to acknowledge this statement:  CHANGE IS INEVITABLE.  Things change, because that is the nature of the Universe.

Because time is an illusion, how we perceive change varies.  Some change is quick and hard to miss.  Some is so glacially slow that we don’t realize that change is happening at all.  But everything changes, whether animal, vegetable or mineral.  Everything evolves, shifts, and transforms.

The desert was once a sea.  Seeds grow into plants.  Caterpillars become butterflies.  Children become adults.  Change is inevitable.

For many, this is not a good thing.  They get comfortable with how things are, the life they know, the people they keep around themselves and so on.  Change means that the familiar can be replaced by the unfamiliar, and the unfamiliar represents uncertainty.  Uncertainty leads to concern, to distress, to fear and even worse.

I have written about this many times before.  One of the reasons for this is because Pathwalking is about finding and claiming your own destiny, about making your own way in this world rather than letting it be made for you.  But even when you succeed, change will continue, and you will find yourself needing to change and adapt as well.

Pathwalking, therefore, seeks to effect change.  When you make choices for your own life, you choose how things will change, rather than simply having them be sprung upon you.

Yes, I know that some changes are not desirable.  Nobody likes to lose a job, a relationship, a financial investment and so forth.  Aging can be disturbing and scary; and don’t even get me started on our society and some of the madness going on out there.  But we still have the ability to be in control of our own lives, and our own journeys along our given paths.

One issue a lot of us face is the ease of complaint.  It is so very easy to complain about this, bitch about that, whine and snark with our friends about other people, places and things.  It’s particularly insidious when we are not directly complaining about our own lives and situations, but rather about other people and instances we’re experiencing.

I know that I can get caught up easily in a good snark fest.  Talking about those guys and the things they are doing that are annoying, infuriation, or simply foolish among your friends can make you feel like you’re getting it off your chest…but in truth we are perpetuating it, and taking it to new heights.

What has complaint got to do with change?  Simple – Consciousness Creates Reality.  The Law of Attraction doesn’t care what you are focused on, it will simply take that information and work to give you what you are telling it that you want.

A lot of what we complain about in other people is change.  We see them behaving badly, or otherwise contrary to what we thought we knew of them.  We may be disappointed, we may be confused, or we may simply be amazed by the change we see.  But the thing of it is, this is change which we cannot control.

I can only change things about myself.  I can change my style, my body, my job, my friends, my location, my choices.  All of these things will change, no matter what happens, sometimes subtly and other times abruptly.  I can choose whether to foster changes, or let them sneak up on me and just happen.

Change is complicated, but largely due to our beliefs that we can do very little about it.  In truth, we can create our own changes as we desire, on many different levels, and we can use that to our advantage on any path we walk.

Unhappy with your weight?  Change it.  Displeased about your hair color?  Change it.  Miserable at your job?  Change it.  Finished with your partner?  Change it.  You have the power, but only you can choose to wield it.

I am working on making changes that I feel will help me to not only walk the paths of my choosing, but also to leave me a happier, healthier, better prepared and capable person.  I have decided to not let change just happen as it will, but to consciously take control and effect those changes to get the outcome I desire.  Since change is inevitable, I might as well use that to my advantage.

We all evolve.  You can disbelieve the science all you want, that doesn’t make it any less true.  Evolution is change.  Humans have more power to choose how they change than any other creatures we are presently aware of on this planet.  I believe that if more people realized this, rather than allow the undue influence of certain parties, we would all be happier, more complete and certain that the Universe isn’t out to get us, but does in fact love us.

Change is complicated, but largely because we make it so.  What change do you most want to control?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-third entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Posted by: Titaniumdon | March 20, 2017

Positivity: Never Too Late

It is never too late.

You are only too old, too poor, too uneducated, too uninformed, too fat, too short, too little or too much if you believe it to be true.  So, too, is the concept of being too late untrue.

Time is only an illusion.  Our perception of time is frequently shifting, changing, and though we look to clocks and calendars, we see and feel it to be fluid and unexpected.

Ever notice how there are times when it feel s like you’ve covered a distance in far fewer minutes than should have been the case?  Ever completely lose track of time and find that you have been going at something for either far longer or far shorter than you thought?

This is why it is never too late.  Hey, normally I post Positivity in the morning.  Today it is in the evening.  Yes, it took me all day to come up with what I was going to write about, because I have been on vacation and I am back at work and not fully recovered…but it is not too late to get this out there, and to share it with you.

We are masters of excuses about why we have “missed an opportunity” or “run out of time” or are “too late”.  I can’t go back to school, I have a job and thus no time; I am too old to find a soul mate now; I will never have the money I need to travel; I could have done that while I was young, but now it is too late.

These things are only true if we believe them to be.  If, however, we focus on what we WANT, rather than what we DON’T WANT, we can build better, more positive, more amazing things for our lives.  It is only too late when we convince ourselves that that’s the way it is.

We frequently read about the 90 year old who runs her first marathon; couples getting together in their sixties; people starting singing or acting careers twenty years after high school.  How are they different from you or I?  Because they didn’t believe that it was too late, and they went ahead and did the thing they wanted, desired, and intended to do.

This requires only a little thought.  If you catch yourself discussing how it is too late for you in whatever way, shape or form has come to mind, change it.   Believe in the power of it never being too late, of there being potential, endless possibility, and feel the positivity that this can create for you and those around you.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that it is never too late, you can still do things that you might think you have somehow run of out the ability to do.  When we feel that it is never too late, and we see we can still create nearly anything we desire, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred sixty-fourth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Posted by: Titaniumdon | March 17, 2017

Crossing the Bridges: Planning into Action

Planning is all well-and-good.  It’s the actions that I find frequently challenging.

The purpose of this particular blog is to share personal accountability as I do the things I do to live the life I most desire to live.  Positivity is specifically sharing positive things to combat negativity while Pathwalking is more specifically about the mechanics of my conscious reality creation process.  Crossing the Bridges is my personal journey, and the challenges as I take it.

I have written about challenges in the process of crossing the bridges, figuratively getting stuck, literally self-sabotaging and such.  One of the other challenges I face with this is taking the inspired actions in order to complete the manifestation process.

I have written before about my great skill in planning.  I can make plans ‘til the cows come home.  Yet when it comes to acting on plans, I frequently find myself coming up short, and then getting distressed because of that.

Conscious Reality Creation involves thought, feeling and action.  For the longest time I was really, really good at the thought process.  This is where the planning comes in.  I thought my way through what I wanted, plotted things out…and then stopped.  Some of this was the self-sabotage, and some was my past inability to FEEL what I needed to feel for manifestation.  To this day, feeling is still a challenge, but I am beginning to see that with difficulty in feeling, I am also having difficulty in acting.

I have currently placed several plans on the table, some more than once.  For example, I have been keeping my Goal Log for more than a year in an effort to be better accountable for what I am eating, exercise, meditation and gratitude.   I specifically set goals with the use of that log – daily gratitude, daily meditation, and either fencing or a trek to the gym 3-5 days a week.

It was a great plan.  The execution of the plan?  There has been some movement on this, but it has still been less than intended, and so the desired goal has not been achieved.

What do I want from these things?  Tracking my diet makes me accountable to myself for what I am putting in my body.  In theory, this should have me examining what I am eating for trends and habits, so that I might make changes to improve my health.  In practice?  I write down what I consume, but don’t make use of my own tool I have created.

Meditation?  I intend to meditate daily.  Why?  To improve my mental health.  For a while I was a champion at this…and then it just sort of fell to the wayside.  Maybe once a week I practice.

Exercise?  I am fencing at my usual practice once a week at least.  Other than that, I might get to the gym once or twice.  The grand and glorious plan to get up in the morning, change my habits and go workout?   So far, that’s not happened.  Why?  Partially laziness, partially a long list of excuses, and in part because while I want to improve my health, I am loathe to change my wake-up routine and pursue this action.  I believe this may also be a form of self-sabotage.

Gratitude?  I have probably done best writing out at least 5 things I am grateful for most days of the week.  Yet they might get written out, but I do not necessarily take sufficient time to FEEL them, and to really EXPRESS my gratitude.  I half-ass the process, paying it lip-service, but not really applying it as I should be.

It is important that I state here that this is not about pity, self-deprecation, self-loathing or any such negativity.  This is simply an honest look at how I have made plans without adequate follow-through.  This is not about getting mad at myself for perceived failure, this is about an analysis of what I have already done, and consideration of what I need to do to improve upon it.

How do I follow-up my plans with more actions?  That’s the challenge I am facing right now.  I am, as you are reading this, on vacation.  I am away from my usual routines in many different ways while on this trip, and because there is a lack of familiarity in many aspects of this, I am living very much in the now.   I am hoping I can use the energy of that in-the-nowness of this to reset my mindset, and restart.

Because I can’t fully plan for this trip I am on, I will be totally living in the moment.  There will be almost no time to build a routine, so this can serve as a perfect conduit to step outside of my regular activities, and create some new habits afterwards.

I have been writing for some time about needing to change my habits.  Taking a week away from my usual routines is the perfect opportunity to break from them, and when I return home start something new, rather than fall back into the old habits.

When I am back to my regular activities, will I be able to use this reset to create new habits?  That is the plan…now I need to give it the actions.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

GOAL LOG – Week 11:

This week’s log has not been maintained due to vacation.

 

This is the twenty-fifth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

Posted by: Titaniumdon | March 15, 2017

Pathwalking 272

How do you find the line between being informed, and being overwhelmed by information?

This is the question I find myself contending with fairly regularly of late.  Given all that is happening both in the USA and around the world, I find I need to remain informed, and keep in the know.

However, there are so, so many things happening that this quickly becomes overwhelming.

World news can be pretty crazy, but all the insane political actions happening in America right now are particularly frustrating.  Again, while I strive to not get political when Pathwalking, this is becoming increasingly unavoidable.  Between a President insistent on telling frequent, outright lies, a Congress interested only in their own power and their wealthy benefactors, increased blatant racism and sexism, not to mention the growing divisions in perception across the continent, this can be a total distraction from anything and everything else.

One key thing I am working on keeping in mind is that I can only do so much to effect these things.  Once I have done my part, I can continue to observe, I can write thought pieces on the given situation or open letters to Congress or requests to the disaffected for my blog.  I can participate in marches and protests as appropriate.

The danger of crossing the line between informed and overwhelmed is the effect this can have on the path I am walking.  When the politics and the anger over the negativity constantly inundates you, it is unsurprisingly easy to step off your path; or even to cease progress upon it; or leave it entirely.

I want to be in the know, I want to be aware of what is happening; but when this dominates my thoughts, it seeps into my feelings and can impact upon actions I might or might not take.  Suddenly a major outside influence is overtaking my paths, and before I know it I am somewhere I would really prefer not to be.

The challenge now is for me to walk my chosen paths, while keeping informed about what’s going on in the world, without letting these things I can do little-to-nothing about dominate my choices.

I’ve written about this before, but it has becoming increasingly difficult to simply observe and not get emotionally invested.  The utter lack of empathy on the part of our so-called leaders, the outright lies being spread, the greed and corruption of the system frequently being laid bare is difficult to ignore.  I want to remain aware of this, but even just staying in the know can be infuriating in the face of extremism.

Further, there is also to some degree lingering guilt about my personal desire to still walk my own chosen paths.  I am aware that if I do not care for myself and do what I need for me, I have nothing to share or give to help others.  And yet there is still a sense of selfishness in these actions; irrational emotions despite the logic of the thoughts I can’t ignore but need to keep control over.

So – how do I keep informed, but not overwhelmed?  How do I walk my chosen paths, and still help other people and worthy causes and not feel guilty?

First, I have chosen to take a unique break.  As you read this, I am on vacation, having a new experience in a new place, with very few of my usual companions around me.  This is going to put me very much in the now, as I will be in this place at this time, and largely focused on the here-and-now as I have this new experience.

See this week’s Positivity in regards to my thoughts on escaping, and the good that can come of that.

Second, the other component of this break is that, afterwards, I will take the opportunity to use this as a form of reset.  When I return to my regularly scheduled life and responsibilities and obligations, I am going to work on a new approach, striving to change some old habits and focus on the paths of my choosing.  I am going to work on actions to not just return to my usual patterns, habits and routines, but to use the week in the here-and-now to STAY in the now, and form some new habits.

Third, I am going to work on staying focused on the now.  A great deal of the frustration born of the news of the world is less in what is being done right now, and more in what is being presented.  Bills that Congress is deliberating over, the effects of Executive Orders on people and our society, terrible ideas being presented that are not yet here, but are unpleasant to think about as happening.  If I am focused on possible outcomes in an unwritten future, I am giving it energy, and since like attracts like, and consciousness creates reality, doing so is detrimental to my health and desires.

Take a break.  Reset.  Focus on the now.  This combination, I believe, will help me to stay the course on the paths of my choosing, and help me better to find what it is I want from life.  It is important as we walk our paths to not be overwhelmed by the things we cannot control, yet remain informed.  I think I have found my own line between informed and overwhelmed, and we’ll see how things turn out as I strive to change some long-held, well-ingrained habits and regular actions.

Do you know where your line between informed and overwhelmed is?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-second entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Posted by: Titaniumdon | March 13, 2017

Positivity: Escape from Reality

Sometimes you just need to escape from it all.

There are times when you feel so overwhelmed, you just need to get away, escape from your life, escape from your routines, and try something different.

As you are reading this, I am on a vacation in a place I have never been to before, with the medieval reenactment society I have played with for over twenty-five years now.  Yet the majority of the people I will be with will not be my usual family and friends, and I will be only sporadically online and largely away from my usual life.

For a time this escape had me distressed.  I was concerned with the length of the trip, the unfamiliarity of the place and many of the people I will be surrounded by, and stepping outside of and away from my life for a week.  Even when I attend Pennsic in August, I largely go offline, but I am with the same people, friends and family, and I know the site and the area around it like it’s a second home.

I have done this before.  I have escaped to somewhere new to me, and whenever I have done that, despite concerns and trepidation, it has ALWAYS proven to be worthwhile.  Yes, it is important to live life and be aware, but once in a while it is healthy to escape, because in doing so you are immersed in the moment, and hyper-aware of the here-and-now.

Escaping gives us the chance to reset ourselves, to find new purpose, new ways to think.  Escaping allows you to take a break from stressors and reclaim your heart and soul.

An escape allows you to clear you mind, so that you have a much better position to evaluate what you are spending time thinking about, where you are spending energy on your feelings, and to see how your actions, intentional or not, are effecting the outcome that is your life.

Escaping is a temporary act, ultimately putting yourself in the here-and-now.  In this context, eventually you return to the world you departed, but hopefully better for the time you have spent in the present, more ready to tackle whatever challenges life puts before you.

We all need an occasional escape from reality, because anything that generates more positivity is a benefit to us.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that you can escape from it all, you have an opportunity to reset.  When we escape from the stress and concerns and negativity of our everyday lives, we can reclaim control over our thoughts, feelings and actions, and as such we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred sixty-third entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Posted by: Titaniumdon | March 10, 2017

Crossing the Bridges: Overcoming the art of Self Sabotage

Crossing the Bridges can be difficult if you insist on burning them down before you reach the other side.

I have always been a fan of the phrase, “I’ll burn that bridge when I come to it.”  I know the word should be cross, but I think I’m a pretty funny guy, so I use burn instead.

The problem is, I DO have a tendency to burn the bridges, often while I am right in the middle of the span.

This is the subtle, and sometimes less-than-subtle, art of self-sabotage.  I am, unfortunately, something of a master of this art.

What IS self-sabotage?  This is the ability to destroy something without anyone else’s help at all.  I have managed in my life to apply this art to numerous relationships, jobs, opportunities and experiences.

Rather than let things progress as they are, or work to take them where I truly desire for them to be, I have an incredible talent for taking the train off the rails, and only getting part-way to my intended goals.

Why?  Fear, of course.  The single biggest fear I have faced in my life has been my fear of unacceptance, of rejection as a person of worth by those I care about, or worse, those I feel the need to know care about me.  From this fear comes a fear of failure, which might cause people to cease to care about me, and it’s equal and opposite, fear of success.

Yes, I am completely aware that these fears are irrational.  I have written about this numerous times.  Yet even with that knowledge, it is still sometimes a challenge to not let myself be overcome by fear, which is part of my work in being more in the present rather than the past or future.

Many times in my life, rather than fail or succeed, I self-sabotaged.  I have applied this to many, many relationships over the years, as well as several job opportunities.  It’s not that I put in no effort at all, I just put in enough effort to maintain things, or advance them at a completely neutral pace.

Once I learned to identify this behavior, and the habits associated with it, I have done a much better job of staying the course, and not self-sabotaging.  This is still very much a work in progress, but I can point to several times where I have reached the intended end goal.

For example, I finally saw a relationship past just going on dates and sex and overnight stays to living together, engagement, and even a successful marriage.  I decided, rather than wait for an agent to realize how excellent a writer I am, to self-publish my work, and continue writing and having edited more of it.  I started with blogging once a week on a regular schedule, to twice and now thrice weekly.

Even with these achievements, I still do a great job of getting in my own way.  For example, I wrote near the beginning of these posts I would start to get up in the morning and go to the gym before work.  More often than not, I find or create excuses not to go, and so I am still dealing with weight issues and get frustrated by my inability to get into better shape.  I expressed my desire to work more on writing and editing at night after work, yet I am constantly allowing the internet and TV to distract me.

These are, as mentioned last week, in part the result of bad habits.  These poor habits, I am beginning to recognize, harken back to my talent for self-sabotage.  Recognizing this, I have my work cut out for me.

What am I getting at?  I can see now that I need to give more of my attention to my excuses and bad habits, and put some real effort into restructuring them into good habits.  I did not realize before that they were a part of my fears, but now that I can see them for that, I can see that I can change them as a part of overcoming my fears overall.

Fear is a terrible tool.  It gets used against us so frequently by people outside of ourselves, it should be no surprise for me to see that I turn around and allow myself to use it against myself.  I may be my own worst enemy sometimes, but conversely I am able to be my best friend.  I can work with that.

Next week will serve as a reset for me.  I am taking a trip, and it is to a large degree a trip into the unknown.  I am travelling somewhere new to me, with a friend whom I’ve never taken such a long trek with.  I am going to be stepping outside of my comfort zone in ways I have not done in many years, but while for a time I was feeling fearful and uncertain of this choice, I have become excited for the adventure forthcoming.

After I return from my trip, I have an opportunity, rather than falling into my regular habits, to really strive to begin new ones.  I have a chance to face my tendency to self-sabotage head-on, and to truly work to cross all these bridges between where I am now and the life I most desire to have.

Will I use this opportunity to my advantage, or continue to allow my bad habits to dominate?  That is the question before me.  I alone can answer it.

Thanks for continuing to read my ramblings.  You may not know it, but I thoroughly appreciate having you out there, reading along.   As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

GOAL LOG – Week 10:

Diet:  I am still being mindful about what and how much I am eating.

Exercise: One day of fencing, one day going up and down a LOT of stairs.

Writing:  The three blogs got written.

Meditation:  None.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 things two days last week.

 

This is the twenty-fourth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

Posted by: Titaniumdon | March 8, 2017

Pathwalking 271

Empathy is not a weakness.

Empathy is not simply about understanding how someone else feels.  It is about understanding that, like you, other people have feelings, too.

We all have desires, we all have wants, we all have needs.  Some are similar, such as food, shelter, clothing, companionship.  Yet even with the similarities, they still will vary from person to person.   The foods and quantities of food vary, the desired shelter differs, we like different clothing based on our individual tastes, and we don’t all want the same companions.

Empathy is not just about feelings.  But it is very important to acknowledge that everybody feels.  Even the most robotic people we know still have feelings.  They may lock them away, or let logic be more dominant, but they are still there, still present.

The thing about empathy is that we are frequently approaching it from a place of lack, rather than abundance.

What does that mean?  Let’s look at empathy in regards to refugees.  Many people see them as parasites, people who will come in and take and take, and so they push to keep them away.   They believe there is not enough, whether that’s space, food, shelter or jobs, and so they want to keep them out and keep them away.

But if you see empathy as a part of abundance, then we can see in ourselves how awful it would be to lose our homes, lose our way of life, maybe even our loved ones, and be forced to flee.  We see these people not as parasites, but as people much like us, who just want to come and have a new place to call home, a safe place to live and work and just be.  We see that our place, our nation for example, has more than enough space, food, shelter and jobs, and we want to help them and bring them here, as we would want them to do for us were the roles reversed.

That is really what empathy is about.  How do I want to be treated?  If you see a world of lack, then there is an insufficiency of any number of things, tangible or otherwise.  But if you see a world of abundance, then there is more than enough to go around, and endless possibility.

I rarely get political when Pathwalking, but in regards to this topic I feel it is unavoidable.  In addition to the divide-and-conquer attitude of those in power in the United States currently, there is a major lack of empathy.  Repealing the Affordable Care Act will take away the ability for many people to maintain their health, and the reason given for this action is lack of some sort or other.  Where is the empathy for those who are sick, broke, struggling to be well?  Everybody wants to find love and companionship, so how do legal actions that work against LGBTQ people allow for that?  Immigrants?  Refugees?  The poor?  Anybody struggling to make ends meet?  What happened to caring about people?

Even worse, it has become increasingly acceptable to be rude and impolite.  Does anyone like it when people are rude to them, or treat them inhospitably?  Since I am pretty certain the answer is no, then how come people are either tolerating or themselves becoming increasingly rude, disrespectful, and argumentative?

It is not a weakness to be empathetic to other people, because that is simply acknowledging that we do not want to be treated that way, either.  Empathy is sensing how we want to be made to feel, how we want to be addressed, and giving just what we want to get.

Walking your own path is no reason to lack in empathy for others.  My path is not your path, your path is not his path or her path, and our paths are not their paths.  If, however, we are approaching the paths we are on from a place of lack, then we are in danger of lacking empathy for the paths of others, because we could see that there is not enough for all of us.

But if we approach the paths we are on from a place of abundance, we will have empathy for the paths of others, because we can see that there is enough for us all.  What we seek upon our paths differs, and in an abundant universe there is more than enough for each and every one of us.

We all need to see that empathy is a strength.  By being able to put ourselves into other people’s shoes, we can see what makes each and every one of us great.  We can see endless possibilities, and we can work together to remove limitations, lack and hopelessness.

With a bit more empathy, we can work together to build a much better world, and we can overcome the fear, the hate, and the intense negativity of those who prefer us divided so they can conquer.  The golden rule is not wrong, it is the truth of empathy – Do unto others as you would have done unto you.

Empathy is a strength.  Being empathetic towards our fellow human beings makes us better people, better citizens, and most of all better to ourselves.  Empathy empowers.

How do you want people to think of and treat you?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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