The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation, Mindfulness, and Other Matters
How we age – and perceive aging – is a choice we get to make. Birthdays can be a mixed bag for most people. I’m going to generalize here – but most people have 1 of 3 responses to their birthday: Joy Dread Utter nonchalance I’ve seen all of the above among my friends and family. Hell, I’ve shifted between these myself. My 30th birthday freaked me out. But my 40th simply occurred. My 50th is upon me – and
We can choose to learn from pain and suffering. Everyone experiences pain. Everyone experiences suffering. Not just a few people – EVERYONE. Pain and suffering are a part of the life experience for everyone everywhere. Why? Because both are channels for growth. Pain and suffering almost always suck at the time of their occurrence. But afterward, they can teach us amazing and incredibly useful things about life, the Universe, and everything. Pain and suffering are two very different animals. Both
The name implies that scattered attention is scattered. But is it the same for everyone? I have a lot of metaphorical irons in the fire. These include: Working for an amazing entrepreneur part-time Editing existing work to send to the editor Working for an awesome web-training company part-time Writing the first book of my new sci-fi series Various things for my medieval reenactment society A web3/Metaverse game project Putting together my first speaking project It’s exciting stuff. This all works
It’s super important to us and the world to be nice to ourselves. I’ve written it before – I’ll likely write it again. I am my own harshest critic. I also know full well that I am not in any way, shape, or form alone in this. Lots of people I know are most critical when it comes to themselves. While it’s a good thing to be self-aware and give ourselves critical focus for our overall good – it’s way
I shouldn’t do that, but I do. Lack of willpower? Distraction? Something else? Let’s explore. I know that I have an addiction to carbohydrates and sweets. Bread, cookies, pasta, candy, ice cream – everything that is bad for my overall health. This is why we tend to not keep bread, ice cream, and a lot of pasta in the house. However, my wife loves to bake, and bake for our friends – so these things still find their way here.
What you could do if you believed in yourself is not just words on a motivational poster. In my experience, do you know who we tend to have the hardest time believing in? Ourselves. Look at who people tend to believe in. Talking heads, politicians, oligarchs, demagogues, and leaders with fleeting power on multiple levels. And that’s just the individuals that people believe in. What about abstract entities and intangibles? People believe in countries, sports teams, religions, God, ridiculous conspiracy
Yes, you absolutely should take time off – and here’s why. I am terrible at taking time off. There is a certain sense of guilt that comes with what are my obligations. Even those that are self-imposed. When I don’t meet those expectations, I feel bad. That can turn negative on a dime, and before you know it the brain weasels start chittering. You’re bad, you are worthless, what do you think you are doing? etc. For this reason, taking
Self-sabotage is currently staring me in the face. There is nobody better at getting in my way than me. I have an incredible talent for tripping myself along any given path I choose. Somehow, I manage to find a way to self-sabotage. Then, I wonder what happened and how I can stop it from happening again. Over the past couple of years, I’ve gotten better at recognizing it when it creeps up on me. Like a Dungeons and Dragons Rogue
Recognizing who you can and can’t please is a highly freeing, positive act. You may or may not be familiar with this quote attributed to both Abraham Lincoln and John Lydgate, “You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.” If you are a people pleaser – this is a bitter pill to swallow. But
It’s just as important for me to know who and what not to be as who and what to be. Let’s just get this out of the way, shall we? Let’s quote some Hamlet from Shakespeare, “To be or not to be – that is the question.” The question as I am posing it today is more specific, direct, and less philosophical than Hamlet’s query. I share what I do about mindfulness, conscious reality creation, positivity, and the other work
