The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Positivity Doesn’t Invalidate Negativity

One coin, two sides. Positivity and negativity will always both exist. I know a lot of people who think that positivity is a toxic notion. And, misapplied, they’re right. When you use positivity to negate and invalidate negativity – that is a toxic act. We simply cannot exist in a world with zero negativity. Life is all about dualities and paradoxes. Hence, yin and yang, black and white, up and down, and so on. Between these extremes are vast worlds

Choose Your Actions After Your Initial Reactions

The positivity when you choose the actions after your reactions is profound. Let’s face it. Shit happens. What’s more, you’ll encounter happenings that get you upset on the surface without full context. And then you get to decide what comes next. For example, I saw that a friend had done a thing with a group of friends that I was not included in. That got me super upset. I immediately felt hurt, got annoyed that I was left out, and

Whose Life is it Anyway?

Are you living life for you – or someone else? As children, our parents have a lot of expectations of us. But a great deal of this – particularly when we’re young – is beneficial. For example – saying please and thank you, sharing toys with other kids, overall good manners, and punctuality are qualities you carry with you all your life. As you get older, teachers have expectations of you. Learn what they are teaching, do your homework, meet

Do You Know Your Triggers?

Knowing your triggers can be hugely positive. I have made it no secret that I’ve been battling with depression for most of my life. I’ve worked hard over the years on my own, with therapists, and take an antidepressant to maintain my overall sense of balance. For the most part, I maintain an even keel. And I practice at that regularly. I meditate daily, express gratitude for numerous things every day, and focus on mindfulness practices. All these keep me

Bite-Sized Positivity

Every piece of bite-sized positivity is a building block for good. We all know someone that’s constantly smiling. They seem eternally unperturbed. Sunny disposition, happy-go-lucky, perky, a ray of sunshine, and so on. These people are few and far between. And some people find them extremely annoying for various reasons – often lacking reason. They radiate positivity like the sun radiates light. On the other hand, we all know someone that’s constantly struggling. They are the eternal victim, often frustrated

Working With an Attention Deficit

Recognizing this – and what an attention deficit means – is the first step in working with it. For me, I know I don’t have ADD or ADHD. Often, I have what I call ADOS – Attention Deficit Oooooooo Shiny syndrome. I get distracted by something that catches my attention and takes over my focus. I know a lot of people who, as adults, have determined they suffer from either Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD).

Why Do We Stumble on Our Paths?

You stumble because it’s more about the path than the end goal. Today is another day. It is full of potential, possibilities, and other great stuff. If that’s how you perceive your reality. For some, today is another day. But it’s full of fear, distress, uncertainty, woe, and other awful stuff. Both these perceptions are on the personal level. I’m not even going to go into the high-level happenings (such as the inauguration). YOU get to choose – every single

To Not Get Together with Family This Year is Good

To not get together with family this year increases the odds of doing so next year. This is an ugly truth. But, as a result of people choosing to get together at Thanksgiving, the numbers of COVID-19 cases and deaths have been ramping up. This week ends with Christmas, which for many people represents the biggest of family gatherings. However, the pandemic is NOT over. Yes, there is a vaccine – but it’s important to recognize a vaccine is NOT

Breaking New Ground

Intentional change is a matter of breaking new ground. Every day is a new day. Cliché, right? That doesn’t make it any less true. Every single day of your life is different from the day before. To be fair, many days are similar. But that doesn’t mean they’re the same. Because they aren’t. It has taken me a long time to reconcile this. For years, I was always looking ahead from today to tomorrow – while also chewing on past

What is Situational Awareness?

Situational awareness is the knowledge of others and how they impact you and vice versa. As much as I love fencing and one-on-one combat, I have an equal love for melee combat. Melee combat, for those unfamiliar with the concept, involves combat between two or more fighters against like or greater numbers. The dynamics of combat change dramatically when the numbers increase. Tactics for two-on-two differ from one-on-one. Now multiply that by a LOT. Tactics for dozens versus dozens are