The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
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What Can I Do to Get Better at Letting Go of Past BS?

We all hold onto things that don’t serve us. Letting go challenges us each differently. Over the past month or so, I’ve been focusing more and more on identifying my self-sabotaging behaviors. Thus, I’ve learned that my self-sabotage is born of conclusions I’ve made about myself, other people, and life. I recognize what these conclusions have been (for me, it’s that I’m not worthy, people are capricious and inconsistent, and that life is an unfair uphill battle). Now recognized, I

Do I Adjust My Life’s Path – or – Does the Path Adjust Me?

The answer is Yes. Both the path and I adjust in various ways. The only constant in the entire Universe is Change. I repeat that a lot. Why? Because it can have a truly amazing impact on our life experiences when we recognize, acknowledge, and accept this truth. Everything you know – all the comfort zones you exist in – has changed before. They will change again. And then, after they change – they’ll still change. No matter how resistant

How Might We Use the New Year for New Positivity?

The new year is an excellent time to start fresh – if you so choose. It’s hard to believe that 2021 is coming to a close. Seriously – how are we less than a week from the start of 2022 already? The past 2 years have been utterly unusual for everyone. The global pandemic forever changed the world in ways we still haven’t fully realized. We have seen utter extremes between the best in some people and the worst in

Can Making Choices and Doing What’s Best for You Harm Others?

Doing what’s best for you might harm others – but that’s likely beyond your control. When I was younger, I crowned myself the King of Indecision. I lived perpetually at a crossroads between two points. So that I wouldn’t make the wrong decision, I frequently made no decision. No decision, no harm, right? Wrong. By not making choices and deciding for myself how my life should be – I was the plaything of the Universe. Life lived me – save

How Does Toxic Positivity Actually Differ from True Positivity?

Toxic positivity is disempowering and does more harm than good. I am a big proponent of positivity. We live in a fear-based society, constantly bombarded by negative messages. Because they are so predominant, more positivity is the best offense to combat them. But all too often, positivity gets carried too far and turns toxic. And toxic positivity disempowers and makes the negativity worse. How? By mistreating negativity. Like it or not – negativity IS. Bad things happen. Shit goes down.

Choose When You Get to Choose

You get to decide to choose – or not – when faced with a choice. For the longest time, I was really good at deciding not to decide. I would stand with a choice before me – and overthink the crap out of it. I’d explore every possible “what if?” scenario, fear getting my choice wrong and having to suffer due to that – until the choice was no longer mine to make. Opportunities passed me by. Things happened outside

Don’t Fall Off a Cliff

When choosing your path, sometimes you reach a cliff it’s best not to fall off of. When you decide to take control over your destiny and walk a path of your choosing, there are many obstacles you’ll encounter along the way. Some will be external. People, places, things, and such – both tangible and intangible. They might be major obstacles and roadblocks, or minor. While outside of your control, how you interact with and react to them is on you.

Focus on What You Can Control

Be mindful when you focus on matters outside of your control. We live in a mad, mad, mad world. Here in the United States, we’ve reached this bizarre place where a lot of people believe in a demonstrably false reality. Despite all evidence and logic to the contrary – they buy into any number of lies told to them by politicians, business leaders, religious leaders, and so on. If, like me, you question things, strive to learn, grow, and evolve

Choosing the So-Called “Easy Path” is not Easy

The “easy path” is what leads many people to depression, anxiety, and the like. What is the easy path? The easy path is the conventional path. It’s doing the expected and shoehorning yourself into a “normal” life. To be fair, there are people for whom this is fine. A normal, conventional life makes them content, happy, and fulfilled. I have nothing but respect for that – and if you are in that boat, more power to you. Unfortunately, I think

Reclaim Positivity

Positivity is always available. Sometimes you just need to reclaim it. For the first time in a long time, my depression has been dominating my experience. Over the past four or five days, I have been feeling more down than up, more negative than positive. I can think of several reasons why I am feeling this way: The sky has been grey for three straight days The temperature has been anywhere from 10-20 degrees cooler than normal for this time

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