I Didn’t See That Coming

I didn’t see that coming – but can I choose positivity over negativity for this? Things happen outside of our control every single day. Most are majorly insignificant. Getting cut-off in traffic, having someone hold an elevator for you, unexpected text messages, learning your favorite actor is in a movie, sudden downpours, and so forth. No big deal, these things are frequent occurrences. Some are annoying, frustrating, irritating, and negative. Others are pleasing, encouraging, helpful, and positive. Either way, they

Why Am I Afraid to Succeed?

How does the question “what if I succeed?” evoke subconscious fear? This question has been plaguing my path for a long time. Every time I work on a path I desire to follow – something happens that causes me to abandon it, stop giving it my full attention, and/or self-sabotage. This is, of course, not conducive to success. Why? Why do I always do this? How come I am constantly getting in my own way? What causes me to get

You Can Choose to See Problems or See Solutions

Problems or solutions – the choice for what you see is yours. It is all too easy to see problems in the world. Spend any time whatsoever online and you’ll be bombarded by problems. Financial issues, pandemic issues, politicians being terrible, good people suffering due to bad people, and so on. Problems are everywhere – you hardly need to look for them. Yet most people do. A great deal of our conditioning is problem-based and problem-oriented. Problem-solving, for example, sounds

Am I Lying to Myself?

I don’t think so – but it’s possible I am lying to myself. The only person who can truly know me, in-depth, is me. This is because there is nobody but me here inside of my head, heart, and soul. No matter how much I connect with anyone else – in any way, shape, or form – I’m still the only one in here. The only person capable of getting at my motivations, recognizing my beliefs, values, and habits is

Finding and/or Creating Balance with Positivity

Positivity is a great tool for finding and/or creating balance. Nobody has a life that is utterly fair or easy. Everyone has good days, bad days, amazing days, godawful days, and everything in-between. When it comes to my life, all I can control is me. That means I can take charge of my life experience, how and what I think, feel, intend, and act upon. Things can, will, and do happen that will cause me to think and feel in

A Not-So-Bitter Pill to Swallow

Releasing a long-time fear isn’t the bitter pill I thought it might be. For most of my life, the opinions of others have been of the utmost importance to me. I’ve sought approval, recognition, and generally being liked. More and more, though, it’s become increasingly evident to me that this doesn’t matter. At least, not in the way I tend to emphasize it. What do I mean? The short answer is that the opinions of others are not what makes

It’s Not All Doom and Gloom

Yet the media showing us nothing but doom and gloom sells. It’s impossible to avoid. If you read or watch any news source whatsoever – it sure as hell looks like everything is coming apart. Between climate change causing unheard of weather conditions; distressing and authoritarian laws taking away women’s rights; racism, sexism, classism, and a mad mad mad world – the doom and gloom is everywhere. To be honest – we can’t just close our eyes, pretend it doesn’t

Nobody Gets Me – And That’s Okay

Overcoming the desire for people to “get” me is ongoing. I’ve spent a lot of my life trying to make an impression on people. Some of those people are or have been close to me. Family, friends, coworkers, etc. Others have been far more removed. You might be among them. Like most teenagers, I worked hard to “fit in” to this group or that. Mind you, I was never a popular kid – I was (and still am) a geek.

Bad Days Always End

All bad days come to an end – and this is a tremendous positive. Everyone has bad days. Everyone. That’s a fact of life. Nobody has nothing but perfect, good days. Sometimes this is within my control. If I wake up groggy, stumble out of bed, stub my toe, and find I’m already running late – I get to choose if I let this dictate the way the rest of my day goes or not. I decide to let that

When Will Then Be Now?

The question of “when will then be now” is not uncommon along a given path. The other night, we were watching Mel Brooks’ Spaceballs. There is a fantastic scene in the movie where Dark Helmet (Rick Moranis) and Col. Sanders (George Wyner) – while searching for the protagonists – turn to Spaceballs: The Video Tape to find them. During this scene, confused by seeing themselves “now” on the video screen, They have the following exchange. “Everything that happens now is

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