Are You Being Manipulated by Fear More Than You Realize?

Unless you’re being actively mindful, the answer is probably yes. The world is not the giant, insurmountable ball of negativity you read about in the news. Before you disregard that statement, pause a moment the next time you’re in a grocery store, public park, or anywhere else with lots of people. What do you see? Is everyone being terrible to everyone around them? Is it a war zone of people taking, pushing, shoving, and doing naught but harm? Or is

Why Can’t You Undo or Redo It?

The past has come and gone, and change is the only constant. One of the central tenets of the current American administration – if they have any genuine tenets to speak of – is to undo decades of progress. Environmental protections to ensure people have access to clean air and water? Fuck that, it cuts into corporate profits and economic growth. Equal rights for women, LGBTQA+, and people of color? Fuck that, the white men need their shining mediocrity to

Did You Make a Poor Choice?

Guess what? You can make a new one now. Everybody makes mistakes. There isn’t a single person on Planet Earth who doesn’t err, make a poor choice, or fuck up. Not. A. One. You have made a poor choice in your life. I know that because you’re only human, and humans can, will, and do make poor choices. Guess what? You are not alone. So, so very not alone. Everyone. Every. Single. Person. Chooses badly from time to time. Yes,

Is How You Handle Change Yours to Control?

Yes, because nobody else is in your head, heart, or soul. People spend endless amounts of time and money to understand things. Often, finding answers leads to stagnation because of one simple universal truth: Change is the one and only constant in the universe. Nothing, and I mean nothing at all, is static. Everything changes. Sometimes change occurs so quickly that you blink and it’s done. Other times, change is so glacially slow that no matter how hard you look

Why Do I Keep Promoting Nontoxic Positivity?

Because the world doesn’t need more negativity in it. Let’s be honest. We’re living in maddening, frightening, crazy times. The degree of uncertainty we face daily is surreal, to put it mildly. A lot of the progress made toward greater equality, equity, diversity, inclusivity, and the like, is being destroyed by hateful, greedy, spiteful people. Unfortunately, their example is rubbing off on scared, uncertain, disempowered people. There isn’t anything you or I can do about that big picture. We can’t

Today is Another Day Here, and That’s Good

Each day you have is a new opportunity if you see it that way. Today is not yesterday. No matter what yesterday looked like or how it played out, today is a completely different and unique day. Maybe it’s just another day. That, however, is a matter of perspective. Whatever approach you choose to the day, whether you make conscious choices or live via rote and routine subconsciously, today is another day here. Like it or not, you will reach

The Unknown is Only Scary If You Choose to Be Afraid of It

The unknown is not positive or negative; it just is. One reason, possibly the main reason, so many people fall for the lies of people like Trump is fear of the unknown. The world is moving so fast that people feel left behind, disregarded, and like they have zero control over any of it. Thus, the so-called powerful prey upon them and their fears to enrich themselves while fucking everyone else over. This is easy to see when you take

How Do I Balance My Need to Help with What I Can Actually Do?

I need to recognize and accept what I do, don’t, and can’t control. I’m trying to wrap my head around my own thoughts. Between what’s in my head and the information I take in from the world without, there’s a lot there to process. Lately, I’ve been feeling an increasing sense of disconnect. It’s like I’m present, doing my thing, but also drifting. Why? Because the state of the collective consciousness is so scattered and so uncertain, it’s hard to

What Do You/Can You Truly Control in Life?

The illusion of control can be broken by mindfulness. Our collective consciousness is full to overflowing with false notions of control. From the fictional, where powerful sorcerers can control the masses with magic, to reality, where politicians strive to control the masses with fear, the notion of control is incredibly convoluted. The idea that someone can control someone else is the main issue. That’s because, in truth, nobody can control anybody else. You have zero control over anyone else at

How Do You Step Out of a Comfort Zone?

What does it take to find and do the uncomfortable thing? The term comfort zone is a misnomer. That’s because what we call a comfort zone is often anything but comfortable. What it is, however, is familiar. Known. Maybe even vaguely understood. The truth is that a comfort zone is a place that you already know and have familiarity with. It takes shape in both literal and metaphoric terms. Literally, your comfort zone is where and who you are. It’s

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