How Does Toxic Positivity Actually Differ from True Positivity?

Toxic positivity is disempowering and does more harm than good. I am a big proponent of positivity. We live in a fear-based society, constantly bombarded by negative messages. Because they are so predominant, more positivity is the best offense to combat them. But all too often, positivity gets carried too far and turns toxic. And toxic positivity disempowers and makes the negativity worse. How? By mistreating negativity. Like it or not – negativity IS. Bad things happen. Shit goes down.

Do You Get Back Up and Focus on New, Stronger Confidence When You Fall?

Everybody will fall from time to time. How you get back up, however, is a choice. Last week, I began a couple of new freelance gigs. This has been excellent. I am enjoying doing both. They are quite different from one another – and each completely in my wheelhouse. What’s more, they feel very much as if they are part of my path. However, in getting adjusted to a new timetable and the requirements of these new gigs – I

Do You Grasp Your Life to be Lacking or Abundant?

Lacking or abundant – you get to choose how to experience your life. This seems like a lie, right? That lack or abundance is a choice? The short answer is that it is. The long answer, however, is much more complex. First, I want to share my favorite Einstein quote, because it’s an important part of this. “Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.” That, to me, means that reality is what you and I believe that

How Does Journal Therapy Work?

I forgot how powerful journal therapy can be. Let me start by stating that I am in no way a medical professional, therapist, or the like. All of what I know is based on many different life experiences over the years. From the mid-90s through about 2004 I journaled regularly. I have multiple formerly blank books filled with many thoughts, feelings, intentions, and ideas from that period. When I maintained those journals, I was writing as little as weekly and

How Do You Wear Your Scars?

Scars can be sources of pride or regret. What do you choose? Everyone has scars. It’s true that some people have no physical scars to show. But emotional, mental, and spiritual scars are just as impactful. Visible or invisible, scars are a part of life for everyone. Some are very superficial while others run deep. Scars are like receipts – they’re proof of purchase for life. What does that even mean? Nobody lives in a perfect bubble. Period. Everyone has

Choose When You Get to Choose

You get to decide to choose – or not – when faced with a choice. For the longest time, I was really good at deciding not to decide. I would stand with a choice before me – and overthink the crap out of it. I’d explore every possible “what if?” scenario, fear getting my choice wrong and having to suffer due to that – until the choice was no longer mine to make. Opportunities passed me by. Things happened outside

I Didn’t See That Coming

I didn’t see that coming – but can I choose positivity over negativity for this? Things happen outside of our control every single day. Most are majorly insignificant. Getting cut-off in traffic, having someone hold an elevator for you, unexpected text messages, learning your favorite actor is in a movie, sudden downpours, and so forth. No big deal, these things are frequent occurrences. Some are annoying, frustrating, irritating, and negative. Others are pleasing, encouraging, helpful, and positive. Either way, they

Why Am I Afraid to Succeed?

How does the question “what if I succeed?” evoke subconscious fear? This question has been plaguing my path for a long time. Every time I work on a path I desire to follow – something happens that causes me to abandon it, stop giving it my full attention, and/or self-sabotage. This is, of course, not conducive to success. Why? Why do I always do this? How come I am constantly getting in my own way? What causes me to get

You Can Choose to See Problems or See Solutions

Problems or solutions – the choice for what you see is yours. It is all too easy to see problems in the world. Spend any time whatsoever online and you’ll be bombarded by problems. Financial issues, pandemic issues, politicians being terrible, good people suffering due to bad people, and so on. Problems are everywhere – you hardly need to look for them. Yet most people do. A great deal of our conditioning is problem-based and problem-oriented. Problem-solving, for example, sounds

Am I Lying to Myself?

I don’t think so – but it’s possible I am lying to myself. The only person who can truly know me, in-depth, is me. This is because there is nobody but me here inside of my head, heart, and soul. No matter how much I connect with anyone else – in any way, shape, or form – I’m still the only one in here. The only person capable of getting at my motivations, recognizing my beliefs, values, and habits is

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