Do You Already Know What’s Best for You and Your Life Experience?
You already know – you just don’t know because it’s too simple to be believable.
For over a decade, I’ve been actively exploring how to be the best me that I can be.
One of my greatest strengths is my desire to help others do the same. Why? Because all of us are on this planet together. At the very least we must coexist.
But tolerance isn’t enough. We’re capable of more and better. That’s because everyone has a deep-seated desire for kindness, compassion, and empathy.
No two people in the entire world are alike. That means that we are 8 billion unique, singular individuals. However, all of us have some basic needs – and I don’t mean food, shelter, and companionship.
Everyone desires kindness, compassion, and empathy. Everybody has the desire to be respected for who they are and treated with kindness, compassion, empathy, and dignity.
Unfortunately, because of a lack and scarcity narrative dominating the collective consciousness of society, many feel there’s not enough for everyone. If you give it away it will run out.
It’s true that if you cut down every tree on the planet – and plant no new seeds – wood will run out. But the intangibles – feelings, thoughts, emotions, intentions, kindness, compassion, and empathy can’t run out. They have an infinite supply.
What’s this got to do with the question – do you already know what’s best for you and your life experience? Everything.
Is it really that easy?
If you watch TV or pay any attention at all to advertising, you’re constantly inundated by messages that – unless you have this, but that, or use service “X” – your life is wanting. The lack of this, that, or the other thing makes you less.
They’re nearly always material things. The car, the house, the job, the jewelry, and so on.
But sometimes they’re immaterial. Yet, they’ve been made tangible in various ways. The muscle-to-fat ratio of your body, the friends and lovers you can and can’t get, your sexual performance ability, and the like are all made out to be make-it-or-break-it, best for your life experience things.
Do you need any of those things? Truly? No. I’m not going to deny that having money and some of the trappings of wealth aren’t amazing. They – and more than them, the freedom they allow you – certainly are. But they are not what’s best for you and your life experience.
What is? Finding anything that makes you feel kindness, compassion, and empathy. Having someone let you know they empathize with you, treat you kindly, and work with you compassionately.
That will make you feel as if you belong. And even when you aren’t entirely a part of a given community – that sense of belonging and feeling there is kindness, compassion, and empathy is what’s truly best for you and your life experience.
Why is this what’s best for you and your life experience?
First, because there’s an infinite supply. No lack, no limitation. And it will never run out.
Second – because nobody on the whole planet is truly alone. Even the most reclusive, introverted people are never utterly alone. You always interact with others. Sometimes more, sometimes less.
When you stop and consider what makes you feel calm, centered, and simply okay – it’s not about anything big or important. It’s about feeling like you are where you are, when you are, and why you are. It’s knowing that you’re treated with kindness, compassion, and empathy. Because, when all is said and done, that’s what you need the most.
And it’s not unusual for that to come from yourself, too.
Your harshest critic is likely you. And you are probably the least kind, compassionate, or empathetic toward yourself. I know that’s my problem. I often say less-than-nice things to myself. Unkind, uncompassionate, and unempathetic things I’d never let someone else get away with.
So why do we let ourselves get away with this?
Because you tend to believe the false narratives about the often complicated things that are best for you and your life experience. And so do I.
The narrative is so dominant, in fact, you often don’t even see it for what it is.
What’s more – kindness, compassion, and empathy seem way too simple to be what’s best.
The KISS principle
When it comes to tactics, I was taught long ago to apply the KISS principle. KISS -= Keep It Simple, Stupid.
The word “stupid” isn’t an insult – it’s the notion of the level of simplicity the KISS principle implies. Make it stupid simple. Don’t add complicated elements, over-planned expectations for how the opposition will react, or dependence on anyone or anything outside you.
Why? Because the only thing you can control in the slightest is yourself. There’s not a damned thing you can do about someone else, the weather, or any random happenstance. All you control is you and your actions, reactions, and the like.
Humankind loves to overcomplicate things. Why? Because people think too simple is unworthy. It’s unevolved and how can that be? But when it comes to what’s best for you and your life – why would that change? How would that not remain simple?
Do you NEED the biggest, most expensive car, watch, phone, or whatever? Must you be perfectly proportioned to be acceptable to the world? Are you less without these things? No.
Look inside yourself. Do you desire kindness, compassion, and empathy? I do. I suspect that you do, too.
How is that not too simple? Because when all is said and done, that’s all you really need.
To be fair – there are other, equally simple things that are best for you and your life experience. But kindness, compassion, and empathy are as good a starting point as any.
Do you know anyone who doesn’t desire kindness, compassion, or empathy in their lives?
Finding you already know what’s best for you and your life experience isn’t hard
It’s all about working with mindfulness of your thoughts, feelings, and intentions to direct your actions.
When you pause and look inside yourself, you’ll see that nothing material is truly what’s best for you and your life experience – what’s best is immaterial and intangible. Knowing that the material is not what’s best for anyone – yourself included – you can give more kindness, compassion, empathy, and the like – which in turn opens you to get more as well.
This empowers you – and in turn, your empowerment can empower others around you. Then that can expand to change the bigger picture matters, too.
Taking an approach to positivity and negativity – from the vast cylinder that exists between them – shifts matters in a way to open more dialogue. In that form, you can explore and share where you are between the extremes and how that impacts you here and now.
Choosing thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions for yourself employs positivity for realizing amazing potential and possibilities for your life.
Lastly, the better aware you are of yourself in the now, the more you can do to choose and decide how your life experiences will be. When that empowers you, it can also open those around you to their empowerment.
To me, that’s a worthwhile endeavor to explore and share.
Thank you for coming along on this journey.
This is the four hundred-and-sixty-eighth entry of my Positivity series. I hope that these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog, and spread the positivity.
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