Five Steps to Change our Emotions
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Each of us has the ability to change our emotions.
Yes, I know that this seems like a lie, but that doesn’t make it any less true. We are each able to control how we are feeling. You and I have the ability to change our emotions.
It’s important that we recognize several facts about how emotions work, and how we are able to make changes to them.
First – yes, things will happen outside of ourselves that will impact how we feel. Someone cuts you off on the road, a news article infuriates you, someone you love passes away, you get dumped, and so-on and so-forth. Any one of these things will cause you to feel a certain emotion. There will be a visceral reaction, and you’ll find you experience a specific feeling.
Second – yes, this feels like we cannot control the emotion. I know how this feels. Something happens, and you start feeling how you feel. You made me sad and that made me angry and I feel hopeless are all reactions to stimuli, and totally valid emotions to have after something has happened.
Third – yes, this feels like you cannot control it…except that you CAN. You and I each get a choice in these matters. Sure, outside stimuli made us feel a certain way. BUT, once it has happened, how long we allow the feeling to linger is entirely our choice. We decide how long to allow this feeling to hang on.
Please note – I am in no way invalidating anyone’s feelings. If you grieve the loss of a loved one, I’m not saying you should “get over it” or such. However, I am pointing out that you can still choose how you are feeling…and more importantly, actions you may be taking because of those feelings.
How can we change our emotions?
Consciousness creates reality. In order to do this, we need to begin with thought, empower it with feeling, and then take an intentional action to make it so.
When we are feeling a way we would rather not be feeling, there are five specific steps, actions we can take, to change our emotions. This is not in any way guaranteed, but any creation being made manifest requires action.
The five steps to change our emotions are:
- Ask: How am I feeling? Don’t just think this, ASK it. Get clear on the specific emotion(s) you are experiencing at this moment. You’d be surprised how often we neglect this.
- Ask: How do I desire to feel? How do you want to feel? I know that if I am feeling negative, I would prefer to feel positive.
- Quiet the mind – We need to reflect on what has brought us to this state, what made us feel what we are feeling, in order to adjust it. This could take just a moment’s pause, or may require a lengthier meditation.
- Release – Rather than hold onto the emotion you do not desire, you have to take an action to release it. Wave it goodbye, thank it for protecting you, visualize it sinking into the ground or flying away. Whatever you do, there needs to be some sort of mental or physical act.
- Take action – You choose the emotion you would prefer to feel, and take some sort of action to replace what you don’t desire. That action could be a brisk walk, a brief cry, a primal scream, singing a song, finding something that makes you laugh, etc. Action is absolutely necessary to drive any change. Action is a fundamental building bock of conscious reality creation.
Why should we change our emotions?
It is true that in order to know the good, we have to know the bad. To recognize positive emotions, we need to know negative emotions. This is a universal truth. But when it comes to negativity, allowing it to linger tends to draw more negatives to us.
Like attracts like. This is what the Law of Attraction tells us. When we focus on something, we tend to draw more to us. Ergo, if you are feeling bad, the longer you hold onto it, the more bad feeling you will draw to yourself.
More importantly, do you enjoy feeling bad? Does anyone? We live in a complicated, fear-based society frequently focused on lack and scarcity. Negative feelings disempower us. They lower our vibrational frequencies, and open us up to finding more things to feel down about.
On the other side of the same coin, positive feelings empower us. The raise our vibrational frequencies, and open us up to finding more things to feel up about.
It’s important to recognize that things are going to happen both in and out of our control which will evoke emotions. We are feeling creatures, this is a part of our nature. Yet we have a choice to decide which of our emotions linger, how they might affect us, and what they cause us to gain or lose.
We can change our emotions. These five steps are tools we have in order to take actions that will shift our thoughts and feelings. When we act, especially with intention, we consciously create change.
I am not denying that this can be difficult. It’s not easy to control emotions. Feelings are intense and powerful. But we can choose to shift our frequency, and improve the reality each of us calls our own.
Do you see how we can all change our emotions to empower ourselves?
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