The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

You’re Not a Bad Person and Nobody Hates You

Unless you intentionally withhold kindness, compassion, empathy, and hurt/harm others. Everybody has their own beliefs, values, and habits. No two people think absolutely, perfectly alike, or in sync. Opinions are like assholes, so everybody has one (unlike assholes they frequently have more than one). Concepts of good and bad are fluid and ever-evolving. Today’s good guy is tomorrow’s villain and vice versa. People change. The pendulum swings in both directions. It’s very easy to get caught up in all the

You’re Not The Only One Who Feels That Way

It helps everyone to recognize and acknowledge this truth. I think it’s quite obvious that we’re in the middle of a massive mental health crisis (and for the sake of brevity I’m putting mental, emotional, and spiritual all under the aegis of mental health). This is especially true in the United States. First, there was a narcissistic President elected (Trump) who induced anxiety and caused division in ways we’re still dealing with (especially with him somehow running for reelection despite

Everybody Wants Kindness, Compassion, and Empathy

They are not, contrary to popular belief, scarce or lacking. Sometimes it feels like it’s all spinning out of control. I like to think that I’m a reasonable, thoughtful person. So how come it feels like I’m few and far between among people? First, there’s an important truth to consider. Bad news sells. Keeping the narrative negative puts eyes on websites, attracts viewers and readers, and makes the owners of the parent companies money. In truth, this is mostly thanks

You Can’t Turn Off Your Brain

You can, however, change your mind. One of the biggest misconceptions when it comes to meditation is that you need to turn off your brain. Quiet the mind, silence the chatter, and so on. This is, of course, almost impossible to do. Sure, you can get some peace and solitude of mind for a time. But you can’t turn off your brain. The meditation that I practice is mindfulness meditation. I know, as such, that my brain is going to

You Can’t Make Them Understand

But you can be understanding and have an impact that way. People can change. But only if they desire to. When they don’t, they won’t. Sometimes you’re forced to change. Circumstances utterly outside of your control force change. A fire burning your home to the ground changes where you live, getting fired or laid off changes where you work, being dumped changes who you have a relationship with, and the like. You can’t do jack shit about these. They happen,

The Meaning of Life is to Live   

But what does it mean to live? You are here. Maybe your life is good, maybe not. You might be having a great day, an awful day, or simply a “meh” day. Things happening now or ahead might be incredible, or they might be scary. You are here. Anything is possible from one extreme to the other and everywhere in between. Are you just going through the motions? Does your rote and routine dominate your life? Or are you having

Life’s Choices and Decisions Are Yours to Make

There are always choices and decisions being made. According to multiple sources, human beings make over 30,000 choices A DAY. That is a lot of choices. But for the most part, you don’t make them consciously. Let’s face it, if you did, I think you’d probably go mad. Thirty-thousand-plus choices, per day, add up fast. That means that in a 30-day month, you make 900,000 choices. Hence, per year you’re making more than 11 million choices. It’s a very good

How are Gratitude, Mindfulness, and Positivity Linked?

Gratitude leads to mindfulness and empowers you to do almost anything. Distraction is everywhere that you turn. The internet and social media, while great means to learn and grow, are also dangerously distracting and disruptive. I can’t tell you how many times a brief glance at Facebook has turned into 10-30 minutes of mindless scrolling. Text messages, email, radio, TV, and other instantly accessible information sources can take you on a tangent before you fully grasp how distracted you are.

Why Is It Usually Easier Said than Done?

I’m striving to live one day at a time as best I can. I’ve been writing about positivity every Monday for more than 10 years. I’m frequently exploring new paths to positivity, new ways to view it, different perspectives on what it is and isn’t, and more. There are three reasons why I share these ideas. The third is often the most challenging. In the face of being only human and reacting to matters that come up personally and impersonally,

It’s Good That Today is Just Another Day

It sure beats the alternative. Life can be confusing. Moments of amazing, moments of awfulness. Good things and bad things are happening with little or no fanfare. It’s utterly unpredictable. Today could be a holiday. Or it could be a weekend. Perhaps today is a day you’ve looked forward to with excitement, or today could be a day that you’ve long dreaded. Anything is possible. No matter what your perspective is, no matter what day it is as you’re reading