The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation, Mindfulness, and Other Matters
When you celebrate you generate positivity – but this is about you and not anyone else. My father and stepmother got married in 1983. I was 11 years old and remember much of the event. Despite using their anniversary for a long-lost combination lock – I nearly always forget to wish them a happy anniversary. My mom and stepdad got married in 1994. I was 21 years old and remember the small ceremony at the synagogue. While I can tell
Who decides usual from unusual, anyhow? I have never been called normal. Not by any stretch of the imagination. Being unusual is my usual. As a kid, I was different from those around me on many levels – both physically and emotionally. As a teen, because of where I grew up, I was a good head shorter than most of the other boys my age. Unusual tended to be an apt descriptor for me. Like most teens and twenty-somethings, I
I believe that everyone has some days like this. Who in the hell am I? That’s the question, isn’t it? Who are you? Then, because that question alone isn’t sufficient, where, how, and why also get tossed into the mix. Everyone makes choices every day. Some are small and largely automatic. Some are huge with massive effects/affects and/or consequences. Whatever the case might be, you will have both good days and bad days. Among these, some good days are life-changing,
Because positivity is an attitude that can create empowering change for everyone. Why did I start writing about Positivity every week over 9 years ago? Because one Monday, I noticed that every single post from all my friends on social media was negative. Everyone was either expressing concern about ongoing problems in the world at large, personal issues, hatred of Monday and the work week, and so on. A wave of negativity that was akin to sinking to the bottom
Creating and/or finding empowerment can be so easy…but why is it also so hard? One of my all-time favorite books is Paulo Coelho’s The Alchemist. If you have not read this book – I can’t recommend it enough. I don’t know that it matters what genres you typically read – this book is just amazing. The central premise is the idea of living every day with purpose – and finding your way even when the way is blocked. This is
Non-toxic positivity is a creative force for self-care and improvement. The word “positivity” might set your teeth on edge. That’s probably because you’ve been exposed to all the toxic positivity out there. Toxic positivity is the idea that if you think positive – and ONLY positive – your life will be the best it can be. What’s more, toxic positivity rather blatantly disregards, ignores, or turns a blind eye to anything that’s not positive. Positivity in this manner turns anything
Because no absolutes means endless possibilities. There are always extremes. For every good there’s bad. Every up has a down. Positivity is mirrored by negativity. Liberals face off against conservatives. Extremes are on either end of a given spectrum (whether you compare via a coin, flexible cylinder, or what have you). The extremes rarely, if ever, exist alone. There’s a ginormous amount of color and grey between them. Yet you’re often being lumped into one group or another. Or getting
Embracing change gives you control you won’t otherwise have – and that’s hugely positive. There is only one constant in the Universe – change. Change happens all the time. You can’t stop it. You can either ride it out, stand in resistance to it, or do the work to embrace it and take what control is in it for you. Change is scary because it’s anathema to comfort. Or at least that’s the perception. Change will pull you from an
Inundated with information overload, how do you shift your focus to what you can control? Let’s face it – the world is mad. Spend any time whatsoever on social media, watching or reading the news – and you’re bombarded by all the evidence of the madness – and then some. The 24-hour news cycle doesn’t make us collectively more informed. In truth, it makes us more scared, distressed, and unhappy. We don’t know the world around us and what’s happening
Empowerment is not a zero-sum matter. When you’re empowered nobody becomes disempowered. One of the most dangerous false narratives in our society today is around what equates to selfishness. In many respects, nearly every act of self-care, self-focus, and anything else that puts you first is considered selfish. If you don’t give enough time, energy, work, and what-have-you to your family, friends, and community – before self-care – you’re being selfish. This false narrative is the bedrock of a far
