Recognizing the Incredible Positivity of Compliments
There is Incredible Positivity in Compliments
These are fundamental building blocks of empowerment that tend to be underused.
You are amazing. I think you are awesome. You make me smile. I love seeing you. You inspire me. I think you look fantastic. You are clever and creative. I am really happy to have you in my life!
Why is it so hard for people to offer up compliments? For real, how did this become so difficult?
Criticism? No problem, you can get that in a heartbeat. Unwanted explanation and advice? Oh yeah, just post something to Facebook about an issue you are contending with and there it is. Discouragement? In a fear-based society overly focused on lack and scarcity this is a frequent go-to for people.
There is so much power in giving and receiving compliments. Reread the opening line. How does it make you feel to have those sorts or phrases directed at you? Genuinely said, compliments are empowering.
Giving them is as powerful as receiving them. Why? Because it feels good to say things that make other people feel good. There is immense positivity in compliments.
Be a builder, not a destroyer
One of the key factors of compliments is how they build you up. They create positive energy, and they are equivalent to providing the scaffolding and materials to construct incredible things. Specifically, a more incredible you.
This applies to both giving and receiving genuine compliments. And by genuine, I mean more than words, but feeling behind the compliments.
It’s true that words have power…but you can offer people more than words (how many of you now have the song in your head, btw?) to express a deeper depth. You build a more solid foundation with words empowered by feeling.
I can say “thank you” over and over again with nothing behind it, and it will have no real impact. But if I say “thank you” and put feeling into it, make it genuine, it has far more power. Gratitude is one of the most powerful tools in creating positivity in the world, let alone conscious reality creation.
On the other side of the coin, criticism, unwanted advice, discouragement, and even sarcastic compliments are destroyers. It’s like taking a wrecking ball to the construction project and swinging it carelessly.
Even when and if you mean well, the above notions can be super disempowering.
Mindfulness in compliments
I push mindfulness like a drug dealer pushing heroin because it can impact the world on so many levels. When more people are mindful, it opens a greater number of people up to being empowered. Empowered people are better at self-care, self-awareness, and combatting fear with reason.
The best way to turn a fear-based society into a reason-based society is empowerment. Why? Because the vast majority of the fear in our society is utterly lacking in reason. The intangibles of lack and scarcity and insufficient this, that, or the other thing are artificial, created to disempower some while empowering a very select few.
For example, do you really think that there is not enough money for everyone to live comfortably in this world? Just look at billionaires and understand that when they are pulling in hundreds of thousands of dollars a day, that is money that could support dozens of other people without lessening their comforts.
Similarly, when a major corporation pays its executives obscene amounts of money while paying less than a living wage to its employees, it’s not got anything to do with lack or scarcity of money. Yet they work awful hard to convince us all otherwise. But I digress.
More mindfulness opens you up to awareness of your thoughts and feelings. That awareness, in turn, builds up your strength and resolve for reason. Real, genuine compliments empower you and can be used to empower others.
Being empowered opens you up to replace fear with reason. That insight can change the world.
There is no competition
Finally, it’s important to acknowledge that you are not in competition for the intangibles of the world (and really most of the tangibles, too). Criticism, unwanted advice, discouragement and the like tend to be by-products of the anticipated competition for things perceived as scarce and lacking.
This is an abundant universe. It really, really is. I know that it can be really hard to conceive of sometimes, but that makes it no less true. You have so much more power than you realize…and that is why compliments and being complimentary can be a fundamental building block to recognizing the true nature of all you may be capable of.
You are amazing. I think you are awesome. You make me smile. I love seeing you. You inspire me. I think you look fantastic. You are clever and creative. I am really happy to have you in my life. Feels good to read that when you know that I mean it, right? Please take that, and pass it on!
Giving compliments isn’t hard, but it does require action
Knowing how receiving compliments makes you feel, you can be more complimentary to people to pass that feeling on to them, too. When you utilize the power of compliments to build other people up and provide them a source of empowerment that, in turn, ultimately empowers you.
When you feel empowered, your mindfulness increases, you become more aware overall, and that tends to spread to other people around you.
As such, you can build more positive feelings and discover more things to feel positivity and gratitude.
Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. An attitude of gratitude is an attitude of positivity that begets even more good energies – and that, like you, is always worthwhile.
This is the two-hundred and ninety-ninth entry of my Positivity series. It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.
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