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Am I Worthy and Deserving?

I am worthy and deserving of awesomeness in my life.

It’s interesting how often I need to remind myself of this.  There have been many instances where I do not feel as though I deserve to have the things I desire in my life.

Worthy and DeservingCrossing the Bridges is the most personal of my weekly posts.  I am exploring not only my philosophies and approaches to life, but my actual, factual life.

In Positivity I pointed out that YOU are amazing!  Part of the reason for this is because recognition of worth is something we take too often for granted.  Along this same line, Pathwalking involved looking at the empowerment of praise.  Praising can raise our frequencies.  Higher frequencies are associated with better feelings.  I don’t know anyone who doesn’t want to feel good.

For much of my life, I have struggled with my self-esteem.  Some of this is borne of depression, some of it is life experiences along the way.  Recognizing my own self-worth, and deserving of good things has proven to be challenging at times.

While getting outside validation of my worth can help, it’s really a matter of me recognizing my own deserving.  Am I worthy of success, abundance, and overall good things in my life?  Logically, I know the answer is yes.  But feeling it is where the challenge often lies.

Feeling emotions has been a struggle for me most of my life.  Sure, there are several instances from my past I can point to for this, but they do not matter now.  No, I am an adult.  I need to take responsibility for how I feel.  When I am not feeling right, it’s up to me to work in the here-and-now to adjust that.

There is never a quick-fix when it comes to this.

Recognizing being worthy and deserving is not a selfish act.

One of the other issues that comes from this is a fear of being perceived as selfish.  We are socially so inundated by stories of unbelievable greed and selfishness, it’s hard not to see any act that does not help other people as one that’s not selfish.

Taking care of ourselves is not the same as being selfish.  Being selfish comes from a lack mentality.  It’s the notion that there is not enough to go around, so I have to hoard what there is.  Greed is of the same ilk, and a monetary form of selfishness.

When I say I am deserving and worthy of awesomeness in my life, I am also suggesting that you are, too.  But in order to have more to give, I need to have some for myself.

We live in an abundant universe.  This is not an easy thing to recognize, because our society is hyper-focused on lack and scarcity.  Consciousness creates reality.  The more we focus on what we don’t want, the more we are in danger of creating.

I am a good person.  Maybe I am not always the best office worker, and from time to time I can be stubborn.  But I am a good person, with a good heart.  I want to live a life with abundance and prosperity.  Not just so that I can have more of the things I want, but so that I can also give more.

The awesomeness I am worthy and deserving of is both tangible and intangible.

Nobody but you can determine your own worth.  Yet regularly, we turn to peers and loved ones for affirmation.   The thing is, even if they tell us we are worthy, we might not feel it.

This is why I am stating in the open that I am worthy and deserving of a good life.  Because everyone is.

We are worthy even when we screw up.

Every single one of us is perfectly imperfect.  Part of the human condition is that we’re going to get it wrong.  We will cause someone to feel hurt, or disrespected, or unloved.  We will make mistakes.  There will be foul-ups both great and small along the way.  These are the lessons that help us to grow.  They do not lessen our worth.

I have been reciting a new Mantra or Mightiness, as Jen Sincero calls it, for almost two weeks.  As often as I am putting it out there, I need to do so even more.  It reminds me of my worth, and that I deserve to be abundant and happy.

There is always work to be done.  This is actually a good thing, because that work is how we grow.  I have a lot of things I am aiming to do with my life.  I know that I can make them happen.

Abundance and prosperity are things I am worthy and deserving of, just the same as you are.  It is ok to be aware of this.  Awareness is consciousness, and consciousness creates reality.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

This is the sixty-eighth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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Pathwalking 160

Disappointment happens.

It is something we cannot avoid. When there is something we want or desire or have our hopes about – and that thing does not happen – disappointment occurs.

This is a part of human nature. When we have our wants and desires denied us, we become displeased and we cannot help but feel disappointment.

Yes, I have stated here rather frequently that you feel what you allow yourself to feel. I have also stated that you should never disregard and ignore what you are feeling, but rather let it happen…then move past it.

Lingering on negative feelings will only draw more in. So while you will feel disappointment, how long you allow it to fester and how long you let it be without redirecting, channeling or otherwise acting to do something about it is wholly up to you.

How do you move past disappointment? Myself and a lot of my friends are currently asking this very question. We thought something we had all desired to see happen would, and when it did not we were disappointed en masse. When even a possible alternative presented to us turned out to not be we did not receive any consolation. So here we are, disappointed, and wondering what can we do?

As per usual, I have no simple answers. But these are some ideas I believe that we can all work with.

Redirect. I am feeling disappointment. But rather than just let those negative emotions settle into my life and dominate my actions, I can choose to take a new direction. I can find a means that will help me move past my disappointment, and let me feel positive again.

What will make me feel not disappointed? How can I turn this experience to my advantage? Maybe that which I desired was not as good as I might have hoped for, and now I can go on from my disappointment to build something even better.

I can redirect the disappointment I am feeling to something I can make use of. I can work to build something that will make me feel better. Redirect the feelings.

Channel. Take that negative energy and use it for something else. Use it to start something new. Maybe a new path on the same line, or even a whole new direction entirely. Rather than let the negativity of the disappointing situation gain ground and build up cynicism and bitterness, you could channel that energy into something else.

Channel that feeling into something you can make use of, or into something more positive. Take whatever measures you can to release the disappointment, channel it elsewhere and use that new positive energy to move forward upon a chosen path.

Take action. Don’t just wallow in your disappointment, do something. Maybe you can do something to address the disappointment, in especial when you are dealing with an outside influence. If someone or something let you down, you can take some kind of action to work with it.

There are lots of actions you can take. You can address the person or people who have caused you this disappointment in a constructive way, or you can take an unrelated action to create forward momentum and move past the disappointing situation. There are, undoubtedly, scores of other options to be had.

One note of vital importance. I stated above about addressing matters with constructive actions. This also applies to channeling the negativity and redirecting the feelings. It is important this is a positive approach. If you take on a destructive action, if you redirect your disappointment into rage and if you channel the negativity into different negativity, you will only find new ways to acquire even more disappointment, and worse.

That’s not to say you should not get angry, disappointment can certainly lead to anger, in especial where outside influences beyond your control are involved. Go ahead, be mad…but don’t let it direct you towards rage and destruction…instead release it, and build something even better.

Disappointment is a strong feeling. When you’ve been let down, and more when you are not alone in that emotion, it is easy to let it grow and generate more negativity. Be aware of this feeling, and let it run its course. But don’t hold onto it, don’t grasp at it…use it to do something different, use it to chart a whole new Path.

We are only human. Things are going to happen along the way, with any paths we are on, that will cause us to feel disappointed. It is unavoidable, but rather than let it rule our lives and direct our actions, we can choose what to do with this feeling.

Disappointment happens. The question is, when it happens, how do you deal with it?

 

This is the one-hundred sixtieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Pathwalking 159

You are not the product of your environment. Not unless you choose to be.

I get to choose who I am. I get to decide what kind of person I am, what kind of person I want to be.

No matter my upbringing, the environment in which I live, the social circles in which I interact, I alone am wholly responsible for who I am and who I want to be.

There are a lot of messages out there, often espousing that certain groups of people are bad. Whether that is defined by skin color, religion, gender, nationality or what-have-you, groups of people are being lumped together for the purposes of scapegoating and disenfranchisement.

The thing is, we are all individuals. We are not products of any certain doctrines unless we choose to be. We can choose what kind of a person we want to be, and we can choose whom we wish to be associated with along the way as well.

Let’s begin with a paradox. Nobody’s perfect, and everybody’s perfect. Perfection, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. We are all terribly flawed, but at the same time we are all completely perfect.

How can that be? These are opposites, you can only be one or the other. Are you who you want to be? Are you happy with who you are, or at work on altering the things you want to change? Are you aware of yourself, what you want, what you are thinking? You are a singular creature, a singular intelligence, and in your own makeup you are perfect.

You are also imperfect at the same time. You see someone wealthier, healthier, with a better job or in possession of something you are not. You need to gain or lose a few pounds, you need to make changes in your lifestyle. Flaws to be corrected.

The question is – are these flaws your imperfections, or the perceptions of imperfections on the part of others?

Because we have this amazing ability to control change and to choose for ourselves whom we are and who we wish to be, we are inherently perfect. There are no other animals on this planet who can make such diverse choices (that we are aware of). Our lives are not just survival and continuation of the species, our lives involve growth, change, discovery and expansion.

People see a certain environment and instantly see all who are a part of it to be similar. Even though there is a wide range if disparity amongst those within a given environment they are often still all lumped together. How many people do this with, for example, Muslims, women and homosexuals as groups?

The thing is, just because you are a woman or a Muslim or a homosexual does not mean you are like any other within that particular environment. You are unique, you are perfectly imperfect in your own ways. But more importantly, you choose how you are associated with that group or not.

Deeper than this, how we have been raised by our parents and caregivers may have initial influence in both who we are and who we will be. What escapes a lot of people is that once you are aware of yourself, you can now choose who this makes you.

What does that mean? Do you choose to be a victim or a victor? Do you blame your life circumstances on your parents or others or do you live as you would best choose?

There is never one true way. I have emphasized that all throughout the Pathwalking process. My way is not your way, your way is not his way or her way and so on. What IS universal to it all is that we have choices. There IS a way, there is another way, and we can choose to be in control…or not.

It is important for us each to realize that we are not a product of our environment. While we may take some comfort in being lumped in with a certain group or groups, we must not allow that environment to overcome our personal identity. It is far too easy to get lost in the background, and as such to lose the path.

Yes I am referring to the idea of environment from two distinctly different applications. Nevertheless, the statement remains the same. You are not a product of your environment, unless you choose to be. Take this into consideration when you view others, and before you wind up passing judgments. It is amazing just how important this notion is, and what it can mean to you.

Do you view yourself as a victim, or do you have accountability for who you are and would choose to be?

 

This is the one-hundred fifty ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

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With the choice of any new path, there will be risk.

Most of us spend at least some, often really much, of our time in the familiar. We find a comfort zone, and we do what we can to stay within it. It is a safe place to occupy, and it feels like a good fit.

The problem is, things change. This is probably the most unavoidable fact in the entire universe. Everything will change. It may be unbelievably slow change, but nevertheless change will happen. You cannot evade it, avoid it, resist it nor misdirect it forever.

One of the ideas behind Pathwalking is that it can serve as a mechanism to direct and control change. In choosing our own paths and our own directions, we take control of our lives, and walk paths of our own choosing. As such, we often make change.

But that does not mean we do not get drop out of gear into neutral from time to time. Everybody likes when they can just go with the flow, there is less effort, and less struggle, and once in a while it is truly pleasant to just let life live you. Sometimes it is even very much the nature of your current chosen path to just let it flow, and to ride the current along.

Sometimes, though, we find ourselves too long in that current. We have drifted too far out or too far downstream, and this is not in fact where we intended to be. So now we have to return to the struggle, and it just seems that much harder than it was before.

Keep in mind that change is a constant. It happens, sometimes visibly, sometimes far beyond our controls. Life moves forward, and forward motion is change.

When you find that you might have allowed yourself to become too complacent and too long out of control of your choices and your path, the first thing to do is to take stock. Where am I? How did I get here? Is this where I want to be? If no, what do I need to do to get to where I want?

But the most important thing here to do is NOT to begin self-recrimination. Damn. I totally lost control! There I go messing everything up and failing again! How did I land here, where I tried not to? How did I do this to myself yet again?

Avoid letting such thought patterns take root. First, because they do you no good in making change. Berating yourself for mistakes or for foolish choices or no choices actually holds you in the place you do not want to be. Second, because they are statements of negativity. There is nothing quite like negative energy to prevent any and all growth and change.

Positive energy is more powerful than negative energy. Positive energy creates strength and builds where negative energy saps strength and destroys. That said, it is much wiser to accept that you are not where you want to be and begin to focus on where you want to go. Putting the energy and focus on the how and why of what you don’t want will keep you in that place.

Leaving our comfort zone, in especial when we realize it no longer suits us, is challenging at best. Here you are in this familiar and pleasant place, and now it has to be left behind. It is hard not to think, What if I never feel like that again?

I find that when I am on a path I have chosen and I am walking it as I would desire I am in my true comfort zone. There is something particularly comforting in being not only on a given path, but on that path because I put myself there. Sure, the comfort of the familiar and routine can be nice, but after a while it becomes dull, hum-drum, and unsatisfactory.

Again, that is not to say that SOME down-time along any given path is not a good thing. It absolutely is. The key to this, like so very many things in life, is moderation. Choose Pathwalking time, but also allow some time to let your mind, your body and your spirit get some rest so that you may continue to choose your path as changes occur. Let yourself be prepared to choose what changes you need and want, so that you might be making choices that guide you along your path.

Yes, there is risk when you choose a new path. That is pretty much an unavoidable fact. But life is not meant to be just a day-by-day unchanging event. We are creators, and we have made amazing things of our world. Imagine what else we can create when we focus more energy on a path that might make us content and bring us satisfaction. Imagine what it would feel like to be choosing something that makes you feel good and gives you a great sense of accomplishment.

Yes, there are going to be risks, because that is part of any change. When you are choosing what changes are being made you are taking control, and that will always create a greater reward as you inevitably move forward.

Are you on your path, or in need of taking a risk and making change?

 

This is the one-hundred fifty eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

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What thoughts, feelings and actions will put me on the Path I desire? This is going to be different for me than it is for you, but today I am going to take my first New Year’s Action and share some of it here.

First, let me reiterate an idea I began to explore over three years ago. Lots of people make New Year’s Resolutions. They come up with ideas to make changes and take actions…but they never seem to get past the ideas. Action seldom appears to come from resolutions, at least not for very long.

Thus, rather than make a New Year’s Resolution, instead I have chosen to take a New Year’s Action. As 2011 closed and 2012 began, I decided I needed to spur my active writing. Thus I determined, and blogged about it here, to take a New Year’s Action.

I determined that I would act on writing in my blog weekly. From this notion was borne Pathwalking, and one hundred fifty seven weeks later I am still writing about and honing this philosophy. Three years of weekly blogging. I would call my New Year’s Action of 2012 a success.

So, here I am at the end of 2014, and I find that while I am working to choose and walk my own path, I have reached a point where I need to make changes. For the past couple of months I have been feeling this idea out and trying to determine the best courses of action to take to get there. Ideas are like resolutions in that they may be numerous and bold, but without action they cannot develop.

So it is I need to take some New Year’s Actions. I need to move past the ideas and employ actions to spur the growth and change I desire to see in my life.

I am going to share with you the process first, and then I will share several of my personal actions. Please take note of the fact that the actions I need for myself may not be what YOU need, but I think providing examples from my own path can be useful.

The first steps were covered last week. Identify the answers to these questions: What do I want? What am I thinking? What am I feeling? Am I going to create a reality I want, or a reality I don’t want?

Another important note – the answers to all of these questions are almost never static. They change, they shift, they evolve and devolve according to circumstances. Part of why it is important to ask these questions more frequently than most of us do is to help see when things are changing within or without our control.

Once the answers to the questions have been identified, WRITE THEM DOWN. Putting pen to paper or fingers to keys is an action that helps solidify our answers, and will help us to take a much closer look at just what our thoughts and feelings are and what they mean.

Once this process has been completed, it is time to ask what thoughts, feelings and actions will put me on the Path I desire? When you identify changes necessary to how you think and feel, you will know better what actions are available to you in order to effect change and place yourself upon your desired path.

I have written out MY answers to the questions in the first step, which is my first New Year’s Action. My second New Year’s Action will be to re-ask these questions at the end of each month, and see if the answers are aligning with the path I desire to be upon.

Recurrent New Year’s Actions can be tricky, because like resolutions they can be waylaid, ignored and forgotten. However, because they are actions they get more energy than resolutions, since they go beyond thought and feeling and have motion as such.

Because these are actions, and require more energy, it is best to take only a few. We all have busy lives, so we need to be aware of our time management. When it comes to recurrent New Years actions, I would suggest no less than one and no more than five. Stretching yourself too thin will not help you to get where you want to go.

My non-recurrent New Year’s Action was writing out my answers to the questions of what do I want? What am I thinking? What am I feeling? Am I going to create a reality I want, or a reality I don’t want? What thoughts, feelings and actions will put me on the Path I desire?

My recurrent New Year’s Actions will be, first, to readdress these questions at the end of each month. I am going to share with you also the daily action I will be taking.

Daily I will make time to meditate. I know how this makes me feel, I know what this does for my focus and concentration and awareness, but I tend to not practice. In many respects this is more important than daily exercise or diet alterations, because if I can’t focus my thoughts and feelings the other efforts generally won’t amount to much.

Every day I will meditate for at least two minutes up til as long as I need.

I am not simply resolving to do these things…I am acting upon them. I believe, and I hope you will see why, that taking action is a much more powerful means to an ends, and that you will join me in choosing this powerful tool to help in walking your path.

What actions might you take for the Paths YOU will be choosing in the coming year?

 

Happy New Year!

This is the one-hundred fifty seventh entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Pathwalking 156

What am I thinking? What am I feeling? Am I going to create a reality I want, or a reality I don’t want? What thoughts, feelings and actions will put me on the Path I desire?

These are the questions I need to answer. These are the questions that will allow me to acquire the path I should truly be on, and to get myself to the place I really want to be.

There is one more question, however, that has to be asked. It will provide the over-arching theme of my Pathwalk. What do I want?

Clarity is extremely important. If I do not know precisely what it is I want, then I am not going to be able to make it. I can “walk” whatever path I choose, but if I really don’t know what it is I want, then I’m journeying with no end goal. Yes, the voyage itself is important, but in many respects Pathwalking without an end goal is just the same as making no choices and taking no control over my life.

So – what is it that I really, truly want? What do I desire to be the outcome of this particular path I am on? As one of my actions for the coming new year, I am taking the time to sit down and write out a list of the things I want. Once I complete that list, I will prioritize it, since I know that in all probability this will require walking several different paths. When I know what I really want, I can then start to answer the other questions I have posed here.

What am I thinking? I cannot tell you how often I just let my mind wander. I allow conversations about unpleasant and unhappy things dominate my consciousness, and often rather than redirect the thought process I just let it go. It’s pretty important to Pathwalking that I be conscious of my thought process, because it is thought that leads to feeling and then actions. If I am not mindful of what I am thinking about I am going to wind up spinning my wheels and getting nowhere fast.

The key to this is surprisingly simple on the one hand. I need to take time multiple times a day to ask myself “What am I thinking?” In asking the question, I force myself to take a look at what is in my head. This is difficult on the other hand because my thought processes can be so complicated. If I don’t know what I am focusing my thoughts on it can be tricky to answer this question. But that does not make it any less important. Knowing the answer to what I am thinking will help me to understand or at least explain the next question.

What am I feeling? Chances are I am feeling how I am feeling based upon what I am thinking. If I am thinking about something that upsets me or depresses me or angers me, well it should be no surprise if I am feeling upset, depressed or angry. If I am thinking about something that makes me feel good, strong, encouraged, excited…this translates to what I am feeling.

Be mindful of your mind, be mindful of your heart. They may seem to be speaking different languages, but the truth is that your feelings are usually the result of your thoughts. So I need to ask not only what am I thinking, but what am I feeling? When I pose these questions I need to further take the time to actually answer them as well.

Am I going to create a reality I want, or a reality I don’t want? Knowing the answer to what am I thinking and what am I feeling will help me find the answer to what reality I am creating. If I am thinking about negative things, and feeling negative as I go along I am most likely creating a reality I do not want. If I feel annoyed at something and I am thinking about it frequently, and putting more energy into both thought and feeling…consciousness creates reality, and I am looking at something I do not want.

Mindfulness of thought and feeling will allow me to better focus on just what reality I intend to make. This is a simple statement, but putting it into practice in the everyday world can be challenging.

It is also hugely important to be focusing on what you WANT, as opposed to what you DO NOT WANT. Society is all about fighting against things, resisting things. We put our focus on battling the problems, standing against the bad rather than for the good. When we put our focus on what we don’t want, we actually give that power. Again, if consciousness creates reality, if you are focusing on poverty and war and hate and corruption and so on….is it that big a surprise that there always seems to be more negatives to look at?

We cannot easily change what the media gives us, and the deluge of bad news at our fingertips. What we CAN change, however, is what we individually focus on. If we work on what we want as opposed to against what we don’t want consciously, we can change our own little corners of the world. It will take time, but if more people work for what they want and not against what they don’t want, I believe we will see a difference.

Being aware of whether I am focused on what I want instead of what I don’t want will help me to choose the right path for me. When I know my thoughts, know my feelings, I will know my path. Which leads to the final question I posed:

What thoughts, feelings and actions will put me on the Path I desire? This is going to be different for me than it is for you, but next week I am going to take my first New Year’s Action and share it here.

What are you thinking? What are you feeling? Are you going to create a reality you want, or a reality you don’t want?

 

This is the one-hundred fifty sixth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Pathwalking 155

Be careful what you wish for; be conscious of your thoughts.

Consciousness creates reality. I have stated this here repeatedly, because it is a fact. I have seen proof of this in more than one instance, and I am acutely aware that you have to be careful what you put your focus on.

I know this. I am completely aware of it. When I have used it consciously, I have manifested amazing things in my life. I healed from severe injuries beyond the expectations of medical science, and acquired a car exactly as I envisioned it happening.

So how come I cannot put this to use all the time? Why do I still struggle using my own consciousness to create my reality? Isn’t that the whole point of Pathwalking?

There is a situation in my life at the moment that is not going as I would wish it to. I have fears and concerns about it, and they are dominating my thoughts and stopping my actions. Worse, I am finding my subconscious constantly refocusing on the negative possibilities of this situation, and getting upset and dismayed over things that have not happened, but could.

If I am not careful, my consciousness will create this reality. A reality in which I am forced to question my self-value and self-worth in a manner contrary to everything I write about in Pathwalking. A reality I do not want, a situation that will cause me a great deal of sorrow, anger, frustration, and quite possibly self-loathing.

This is the roots of depression. This is where the mind runs away, and I find myself questioning my ability to succeed in anything I do, my worth as a person, my value to those around me. If I allow this to take hold, if I let this root itself in my consciousness, I am in danger of making it my reality. And I cannot let that happen.

Since I began Pathwalking I have strived to grow as a person, to practice what I preach, to make my own choices, walk my own Path. I want control over my destiny. To some degree, I have it. But to some degree I continue to allow others that power, and I cannot seem to take it for myself.

Why? How come I am allowing myself to build this reality? Why won’t I let myself succeed? How come I am only capable of consciously creating my reality once in a while, but not always? How do I stop the negativity from overwhelming me, and how do I refocus my consciousness to create a better reality?

This has been the ultimate challenge of Pathwalking for me, all of my life, before I even gave it a name. I have lived in fear of failure, in fear of success, in fear of people thinking ill of me, in fear of doing harm, in fear of disappointing the people who count on me. I have often explained the dangers of fear, and how powerful it is…but that does not lessen my struggles with it.

Do I believe in Pathwalking? Yes. I find that I still allow myself to get caught up in mundane problems and I still allow outside influences to have an effect on my path more than I should. Moments of brilliance surrounded by long stretches of not choosing for myself and allowing my path to be dictated by others.

How do I break this pattern? How do I well and truly let go of the fear and walk my path? With the coming new year, I need to take new actions. I do not believe in resolutions – the idea is insufficient, there needs to be action to make it fly. I need to take the proper time to choose for myself, to take control of my destiny, and to build the reality I want.

It is never easy. I cannot begin to tell you how nice it would be if it were. But that does not make it any less possible. I know there are actions I can take that will allow me to truly walk the path I want to be on, and I know I can take ahold of my consciousness to create the reality I desire.

Knowing is the first step. Now I need to FEEL it. When I feel confident, when I let go of the fear and I flood my thoughts with love, with strength, with self-belief instead of self-doubt, then I will be truly aware of the Path I desire, and it will be my job to take action and walk it.

That is the final key. Action. I can think and feel the reality I want to consciously create, but if I do not act, then it does not happen. All the failure, all the things I fear take hold, plant themselves in my consciousness, and I return to this place of doubt and dis-ease Pathwalking was in part created to take me past.

It is time to stop wanting all the things, and well and truly choose the path I desire to follow. It is time to accept the doubt but let it pass, to face the fear and walk right through it, to hear the outside influences, judge their worth or lack but not let them dictate my actions. I can take control of my sub-conscious by being more aware, and turning my focus away from what I DON’T want, and instead see what I DO want.

There are thoughts. There are feelings. There are actions. I know this. As I move forward into the new year I will be sharing my personal process with you. With your support I know that I can take Pathwalking to the next level, and I can create my reality as I most want it. Maybe as I bring you come along for this journey I will help you to do the same for yourself.

What am I thinking? What am I feeling? Am I going to create a reality I want, or a reality I don’t want? What thoughts, feelings and actions will put me on the Path I desire?

 

This is the one-hundred fifty fifth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

Positivity: Overcoming Trials

Some days you feel sorely tested.

I just had such a day.  I went to work, and I was confronted with multiple difficult situations that really tested my patience, my crisis management skills, my people skills, and my diplomacy.  It was the kind of moment that left me utterly drained, sapped most of my energy and made me question why I even continue to do this job.

I got home from work exhausted.  It took several hours for me to recover from the incredible emotional, energy draining situation I had experienced.  I was low, moody, and just plain cooked.

So where is the positivity in this?  I came out on top.

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I managed to manage the situation, handle the difficulties, and come out on top.  I did what needed to be done, kept a cool head, and showed myself that I could deal with a difficult and distressing episode.

Most days have their ups and downs.  Some days more things go right, more things go your way, and you come out feeling energized and happy and full of life.  And then, conversely, some days more things go wrong, more things go against you, and you come out feeling drained and discontent and lifeless.

Positivity is seeing that even after a bad day, difficulties and tests and struggles, I am strong enough to recover, and face tomorrow.  Not only that, but I am able to regroup and claim my own level-headed place for myself once more.

I am not alone in this.  You are also capable of this.  No matter the difficulty, big or small, direct or indirect, you can handle it.  You can come out of any situation and you will come out on top.

You are going to have terrible days like I just had.  But know that even if you have another day like this, you will still have another day.  You got through today, you will get through tomorrow.  And who knows – this might just get easier when you see it for what it is, and know you are stronger than you believe yourself to be.

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Accept that you will have days that are more bad than good.  But know that you can handle them, you can leave them behind, and you can have good days to bank against the bad days.  That is Positivity.  No matter how you are tested, you will live to fight another day, even when it feels like way more effort than you want to give.  You will get another day.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that even when you are faced with many trials and tribulations, you can handle and overcome them all goes a long ways.  Know that despite negative things that happen, you will still find Positivity.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the fifth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.

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