There needs to be communication. Even an empath is not a mindreader.
Some people are better at reading people than others. The definition of how one reads people, though, it rather broad.
Multiple factors go into reading people. Some are surface, some more in depth. On the surface there is body language, gestures, stances, facial expressions and other visual cues that will inform you as to what someone is thinking.
Reading someone’s emotional state is a lot trickier. Some people “wear their heart on their sleeve”, and all of their emotions are expressed in an obvious, readable way.
Certain emotions are physically expressed so as not to be missed. Screaming in anger or frustration, yelling at someone, crying, laughing, smiling, and similar such expressions convey emotion to anyone in range.
Some people do not share so easily. Maybe it’s because they have been hurt, maybe because they prefer to keep their feelings to themselves…it really doesn’t matter. They prefer to not show their emotional state, and that is something to be respected.
As an empath, I can still usually read someone’s emotions, even when they are not in any way obvious. But reading emotions has limitations, and may not be appreciated.
Reading people’s emotions is no substitute for communication.
Communication is often taken for granted. In particular with the people we get closest to. We have our familiars, those whom we frequently share with and know and understand. One of the intimate aspects of this is subtle, passive, frequently non-verbal tells.
It can become very easy to “know someone’s mind”, and to expect certain behaviors, actions, attitudes and emotions from them. This is a particular matter with the people we are closest to. We get comfortable with one another, and we get into a pattern and a flow and familiarity.
People change. Pure and simple, everyone and everything changes. Most change is slow, subtle, practically invisible. But the nature of the universe is change. Yet we are frequently resistant to change because it is the unknown, it can be scary, unfamiliar, and possibly uncomfortable.
Somewhere along the way much of our society began to view change as something bad. We even have romanticized the notion of freezing time, holding everything in place so that perfection can be achieved. Of course, perfection, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder, and change is going to happen because that is how nature functions.
The caterpillar becomes a butterfly. The dinosaurs became petroleum. Children become adults. The sun rises and sets. All of this is incontrovertible, it is how the universe functions. Without change, we could not grow, we would not learn, we would not be able to be more than we are.
No two people change in the same way. We talk about growing together and growing apart; yet we never do these things in the same way. Even twins learn and think differently, no matter how connected or telepathically linked-up they might be.
Direct Communication Is Important.
No matter how emotionally connected we become with people, it is still vitally important that we communicate with one another. So many of the problems we encounter in this society, not to mention among our interpersonal relations, are due to a lack of communication.
As I am choosing the paths I wish to walk, I know that nobody else can see inside my head. What I am thinking, the notions I am working on, the plans I am making are mine and mine alone. I strive to grow, to change, to learn all the time, and I am working to embrace change.
Pathwalking is not just about embracing change. It is about accepting and working on controlling change. Rather than letting things just happen, you are working on making them happen. You are seeking to consciously create reality, so that you can have the best, most amazing life possible.
This is going to change you. Directed change, but change none-the-less. As such, those who love you and whom you love might not understand this. They might be confused, they might get upset with you, they might resist because you are changing, and they can feel it.
This is why communication is so, so important. We need to share with our loved ones what we are doing, why we are doing it, and where our thought process is going. Yes, we might meet well-intentioned resistance in the process, but that does not lessen the need for open, honest communication.
Even when we are not talking about Pathwalking, we need to be more conscious of what we share with those we care about. Being aware does not just apply to ourselves, in particular when we have people we share this life with in whatever form that takes. This is why communicating what we are doing and how we are changing with one another empowers everyone.
When we work to be better communicators, we become better at sharing who we are, as well as who we want to be. Knowing those we care for as best we can will bring us closer, and that is always a good thing.
How do you communicate with those you care about?
This is the two-hundred ninety-second entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life. I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.
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The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.
If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.
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