The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation, Mindfulness, and Other Matters
Your best Intentions are great – until they meet reality. Everybody makes mistakes. Some are big, some small. Most can be forgiven to one degree or another. When it comes to our intentions, it’s very easy to screw up. When you have no intent on causing hurt or harm – and then do – that’s a pain point. To quote playwright Oscar Wilde, “It is always with the best intentions that the worst work is done.” More than once, I
Feeling alone is unpleasant – but what if you’re never truly alone? You are never alone. Why? Because you always have yourself. Ok, before you quit reading, let me further explain. Whether you engage it consciously or not, you have an inner dialogue. Consciously or subconsciously, it’s running in the background of your life, no matter what you’re doing. Inside your subconscious mind are numerous beliefs, values, and habits. Some have been there more or less all your life. Others
Yes, your feelings are always valid. But understanding them is another matter. You’ve probably been in a situation where you had an emotional response someone deemed inappropriate or disproportional. You were overreacting, taking it too hard, overthinking it, or what-have-you. It did not help your situation, did it? Chances are it increased it, or made you more stubborn and deepened the feeling. What’s more, they might have been correct. You were overreacting, taking it too hard, overthinking it, or whatever.
It’s not the rejection you fear so much as the suffering that’ll come with it. Nobody likes to suffer. Suffering – mentally, emotionally, physically, or spiritually – is unpleasant. The pain that comes with suffering – tangible or not – is unpleasant, distressing, uncomfortable, and just plain awful. But do you know what’s worse than suffering? Often – the fear over how and what it’ll be. Frequently, we don’t recognize suffering as our fear. It gets cloaked in another, more
Even unintentional hurt that we are made feel tends to linger. Someone that I care a great deal about hurt me. Let me be clear about several facts in this matter. First – I know it was not their intent to cause me hurt. They were in their own odd headspace, and it made them less receptive to the impact their actions had. Second – Given our history, this should not have come as the surprise that it did. Yet
We all get bad news sometimes. But what we do after we receive it is up to each of us to choose. One of my best friends wrecked an ankle long ago. Like, thoroughly destroyed it. They repaired it with pins and plates, and it served him for nearly 2 decades. But over time, the pain levels associated with that ankle became unbearable. For several years he’s been fighting the constant pain, and it was negatively impacting his life. At
I’ve spent a lot of time working with the question of not taking things personally. Do you know what one of the hardest lessons I’ve had in the past two years has been? Not taking some specific things personally. Such as? How many reads my blog posts get and how many books I sell. Both my blog posts and my books are products. They have been lovingly crafted by me and shared with the world. When people don’t click on
Yeah, that’s a lie. I’m feeling flustered and stressed. But what comes next is on me. Let’s talk about the great big elephant in the room. Feeling stressed. Virtually everyone deals with stress from time to time. Deadlines, pressures to do things from within and without, expectations, and many other things can be stressors in our lives. Even when you seek to carve your own path in life – it is not stress-free. I don’t care who they are –
The answer to how not to give a sh*t more kindly is the theme for my 2022. For all the work I’ve done over the years to not let the opinions, ideas, and perceptions of others matter that much to me – I still care too much about it. As such, often I am concerned in the back of my subconscious about the impression I make on people. How does what I do impact them? Here’s the problem – I
Because choosing positivity empowers you. Every day, you have choices. Get out of bed or sleep in? Oatmeal or yogurt for breakfast? Make or order lunch? Steak or chicken for dinner? Go to bed at 10 or 11? These choices are frequent, constant, and seemingly insignificant. But they are neither inconsequential nor insignificant. Life is all about choices. Great or small, everything you choose impacts everything you do. For example – let’s say you sleep in. And sleep past your
