You Win in Life by Living Life, No Matter What
You are worthy and deserving of getting the win.
A lot of the narrative in the world today is all about the win. You’re a winner or a loser. Take this side, you’re a winner; take that side, you’re a loser. Be like that guy you will win; be like that guy you will lose.
This comes with a huge number of false equivalences, outright lies, and distractions. Then, a lot of impressions get made that create unnecessary competition, division, nastiness, and worse.
The truth is that nobody but you knows what you need/desire for your life. What gets me going might be of no interest to you at all and vice versa. The other big truth is that life is not a competition.
For those sitting in the back, I repeat: LIFE IS NOT A COMPETITION. Baseball, a wrestling match, a spelling bee – these are competitions. The job market, finding lovers, grocery shopping, education, and most other everyday life experiences are not competitions.
The only way to lose is to not live. What does that look like? You let life beat you down, accept you have zero control or power, and choose to be a victim and/or a punching bag.
When you live, you win. You win in life by living life, no matter what.
It’s true even when shit happens
Life is never all good. Not for anyone. Everyone, everywhere, has bad days, suffers loss, has shit happen. Everyone. No amount of money, power, or good karma will guarantee you a pain-free life. There is no such thing. Sorry.
Pain and suffering, however, are not always purely bad. You can learn a lot from a painful experience – mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, some or all the above – and you can learn a lot from suffering – physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, some or all the above.
Everything that happens can teach you something. Failure has led to many an amazing discovery and innovation. Fucking up has saved people from dying or becoming permanently disabled. Pain and suffering have led to adaptations, ideas, growth, and positive change in the aftermath.
Because shit happens, no matter who you are, the choice to grow and change from it is not a given. Some people let it destroy them. Lots of victims experienced pain and suffering and allow that to define them in numerous ways afterward. Many people see themselves as losers and experience more loss than victory from shit happening.
When you give up, let yourself be the punching bag or doormat for everyone and everything around you, you’ve made a choice. Nobody is that way unless they allow themselves to be. You only lose in life when you choose to take the loss.
I’m in no way saying you can or should ignore that shit happens. Far from it. What I am suggesting is that you can choose how to move forward after shit happens.
You win in life by living life
I believe that the meaning of life is to live. Nothing more, nothing less. Live it.
What does it mean to live? It means experiencing life for all its ups and downs. Perhaps you see life as a roller coaster. Some people are afraid of roller coasters and won’t ride them, no matter what. Some relish in that fear. Others see them as a ride worth taking, so they do.
That’s life and the meaning of life. You get one shot in that body, inside your head, heart, and soul, to experience living. The meaning of life is to live by having experiences.
They will be both good and bad. Much of that will be utterly, completely out of your control. If you allow the economy, the government, your parents, your teachers, or anyone else to live your life for you, chances are you will see a no-win situation. When you expect negativity of random happenstance, shit going down, and pain and suffering, you set up obstacles to win in life.
Your mileage may vary. What makes you happy might not make anyone else happy. Who and what you love might be misunderstood by others. So long as you are living life on your terms and being the best you that you can be, you win in life by living life. No matter what.
There is, however, one important caveat to be mindful of.
Nobody lives in a vacuum
You are one of 8 billion people on this planet. Every single one of us has our own unique perspective on life, the universe, and everything. You can’t get along with and agree with everyone. That’s just not human nature.
Not to put too fine a point on it, but everyone loses when you deny, withhold, or otherwise ignore kindness, compassion, and empathy. Selfish is what selfish does, and if you take more than your fair share and don’t give a rat’s ass about hurting others that way, you lose. You do not win when you live life knowingly causing harm to others.
There is no lack, scarcity, shortage, or insufficiency of kindness, compassion, and empathy in the universe. Also, there is not a single human being that doesn’t want kindness, compassion, and empathy (no matter how shitty they are towards others). Giving kindness, compassion, and empathy gets them returned and is never negative or bad. Neither does it in any way, shape, or form make you a loser (despite what Musk and Trump say). It’s empowering and strengthening to be kind, compassionate, and empathetic, and not in any way weak or a weakness.
You win in life by living life, unless you knowingly, with full malice of forethought, do unkind, uncompassionate, unempathetic, hurtful things to others while emboldening yourself. You don’t win in life by making others lose because it’s not a competition, and others are as deserving of living a full, healthy, happy life as you are.
Recognizing that you win in life by living life isn’t hard
It’s all about practicing mindfulness of your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and approach to direct your actions.
When you recognize and acknowledge that to live, to experience life in all its ups and downs, is the meaning of life – and you alone get to experience that – you can do, be, and have things to win in life. Knowing that you only lose by being terrible to others or not acting to live life in your own way, you can win in life by living life, no matter what.
This empowers you, and your empowerment can empower others around you.
Consciously choosing your approach to life towards positivity or negativity – from the vast cylinder that exists between them – shifts life in a way that opens greater dialogue. From that broader dialogue, you can recognize, explore, and share where you are between the extremes and how that impacts you here and now.
Choosing thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions for yourself employs an approach and attitude of positivity for realizing amazing potential and possibilities for your life.
The better aware you are of yourself here and now, the better you can choose and decide what, how, and why your life experiences will be. When you empower yourself, that can spread to those around you for their empowerment.
Thank you for coming along on this journey.
This is the five-hundred-and-seventy-eighth (578) entry of my Positivity series. I hope that these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog, and spread the positivity.
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