Who Are You Trying to Impress?

There is nobody you need to impress but yourself.

I know that this seems like a lie. But it is one of the greatest truths there is.

There are always going to be people who dislike you, or disapprove of you. When they are acquaintances it’s a very different thing than when they are close friends or family. Some of the ideas we have, decisions and choices we make, actions we take will not align with other people’s values, beliefs, or morality. And this is perfectly ok.

We are each unique in how we think. Every one of us has a different background we come from, and experiences we have had. Because of this, so long as nothing you do is intended to cause harm, screw anyone else over, or destroy the livelihood, life, or experiences of another person, it is, in fact, a good thing.

When we stop trying to do things to win over or impress other people, we can focus on our own needs. The opportunity to make decisions and choices to be happy and live the best lives that we can for ourselves is immeasurable. This is, of course, a tremendous generator of positivity.

I have spent a lot of my life trying to win over people. Making friends, having people like and respect me has always been really important to me. But I have come to realize that, really, that’s not what will make me happy. Only I can be happy with me. The only person I actually NEED to impress is myself. Not in an arrogant, self-righteous way…in a, “hey, I am a loveable, amazing and worthwhile person” way.

Not worrying about whether or not you impress other people is a matter of self-care.

No need to impress the world

Some people think that their worth is wholly based on what the world thinks of them. That they have to impress people around them to have any value or even meaning in their life. But true happiness comes from within, not from without.

Impress Consciousness creates reality. If you believe that you are only as worthwhile as the impression you make on people outside of yourself, then that will be your truth. But in this abundant universe, you only need to impress yourself, by being a good, kind, empathetic, caring person. If other people do not think well of you, but you strive to be a decent human being, that’s their problem, not yours.

We cannot please everyone, no matter how hard we try. Each and every one of us will have our critics, those who do not believe in us or our ideas, and those we simply cannot win over no matter what.

If they cannot see you for the amazing person that you are, then you do not need that negativity in your life. Be positive. Impress yourself with all the good and amazing things you do.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that there is no need to impress other people in this life, we can work on simply being the kindest, most empathetic, grateful, generous, caring, good and loving person we wish to be. When we stop worrying about how others perceive us, and strive to be the best person we can be, we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

This is the two-hundred and fortieth entry of my Positivity series. It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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