The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation, Mindfulness, and Other Matters
You are NOT an imposition on anyone else. If you feel like you don’t matter or nobody wants you around – you’re wrong. Let me make this completely clear. Unless you intentionally wreck things, act like an ass, hurt people, or otherwise do unconscionable things – you are not an imposition. Further, you matter and people will want you in their lives. I know a lot of people who question this for various reasons. Some are in reaction to trauma.
There is a difference between living today and existing – and it matters. When you look at the outside world – all the stuff going on beyond your direct control – things are nuts. The Presidential election in the US has begun its primaries, and that tends to bring out the worst in people. The UK has left the EU and the consequences of that action are yet to be seen. A nasty virus that could become the next pandemic
Will you be Proactive or Reactive? The choice is yours to make. Life is constantly in motion. You may pause from time to time, and you need to rest and recharge daily. Yet, even so, life is in motion, whether you are moving or still. Every morning when you wake up, you start making choices. The vast majority of these are fairly benign and almost automatic. Get out of bed or hit snooze? Shower or go give the cat attention?
Choose to Be Mindful of Other People’s Joy Your paths will inevitably cross other people’s paths. What makes you happy and brings you joy is not the same for everyone else. For over 28 years now I have been participating in an interactive medieval reenactment society. Through this organization, I have made amazing friends, met people from around the world, and developed some really cool and fun hobbies. Over the last few years, there have been some really positive changes
You Can Only Help You It’s important to be there for your friends and loved ones…but this is more important. There is only one you. The only person who knows what’s best for you is you. Yet if you are a caring person, you are probably a giver. As such, likely you put yourself last. What’s more, it’s all-too-easy to believe that any other option is an act of selfishness. Of course you come last. Other people in your life,
The path I am on has not changed, but I did not expect to end up here. This is, however, an unexpected good situation. While on more than one occasion I have found myself at a crossroads in regards to my life and direction, this is different. It’s not a crossroads, nor a path, but an unexpected destination. And I am trying to wrap my head around how I managed to end up here. For the past 10 months, I
That situation didn’t go how I expected it to, and that’s not a bad thing in this case. You can make all sorts of plans for your life. There are innumerable paths you can choose. Yet no matter the path nor the plan, sometimes it doesn’t go how you expected it to. Sometimes this is not so good. Often, it’s not a bad thing at all. Perfect example. Recently, I applied for a job as a receptionist. No, not the
Action and actions are more powerful than resolutions. My very favorite line from the entirety of Star Wars comes from Yoda. “Do or do not, there is no try.” For a long time, I didn’t fully comprehend what he meant by that. However, after a lot of years of sitting with and studying this statement, I get it. A try leaves room for failure and incompletion. Doing leaves no such space. This is not about the physical act so much
Have a happy holiday. Whatever you celebrate – or don’t – have a good day! This time of year is overwhelmed by holidays. Lots of people celebrate something, be it Christmas, Yule, Hanukkah, A’phabet Day (or No “L” Day), Grav Mass Day, or what-have-you. There are also people who celebrate nothing at all. Whatever the case may be for you, I want to wish you a Happy Holiday. And even if you celebrate nothing at all, have a good day.
Do no harm. When you are walking whatever path you choose it should have no intentionally negative impact on anyone else. Whatever paths you walk in life, you need to be mindful to do no harm. Truthfully, this should be easy. Unfortunately, a lot of the examples of “success” that you see come with a deep, false narrative. This includes notions of shoving people out of the way (literally and figuratively); getting past, around, over, and through other people; “taking”