The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

You Can Choose Your Own Life

Choosing and deciding is how you have any control at all. Unless you’ve been asleep for years, or locked away in a cave, or hiding out on a tropical island somewhere, you know shit has gotten weirder. Reason and logic seem to be increasingly out to lunch. Greed, ambition, and screwing over others to advance yourself seem to be all the rage. Many, many people feel as if they are being wronged by “others”. There’s a great deal of false

Asking for Help Does NOT Make You Weak

The power and positivity of kindness, compassion, and empathy It can be difficult to ask for help. This is especially challenging now when so many forces equate asking for help as a weakness, unbecoming, and something to be avoided. That’s simply not true. Asking for help does NOT make you weak. What it does is make you open to receive kindness, compassion, and empathy. I don’t care who you are or what your circumstances might be. You have an innate

You Choose Your Own Adventure Every Day

Even on the days it feels like a slog you make choices and decisions. Consciously or subconsciously, you’re always making choices and decisions. When you allow your subconscious mind to do most of the work via rote and routine, it will feel like you’re not choosing and deciding anything. That, however, is because of the passive nature of the subconscious mind. Everything in your subconscious is passive unless engaged consciously. Your conscious mind has two facets to it. One looks

What Would You Do If You Could Do Anything At All?

No limitations, no restrictions, no caveats, just do the thing you desire to do. Lots of people talk about bucket lists. Those things they would do without restrictions, obligations, financial issues, and so on. Additionally, lots of people have things they will do when they have enough money, lose enough weight, get that promotion, publish the book, dump the dead-weight relationship, and so on. Get that one thing done, the prerequisite must be met, and then you do the thing.

Very Few Choices Are Written in Stone and Can’t be Made Anew

Recognizing and acknowledging this is very empowering. I have long believed that there are three ways to live life. Let life live you. Mostly live by rote, routine, and habit. Let what happens happen. Overall, you just accept what’s given, that things are a certain way, and you make only a few active, mindful choices for the direction of your life. Overall, however, you just roll with what happens around you. Curl up in a ball and await death. While

Mindfulness Isn’t Just About the Mind

The whole body is impacted by active conscious awareness practice. Given that it’s right there in the name – mindfulness – it’s easy to presume this is all about the mind. While that’s mostly true, it’s only a portion of the truth. Everything begins with thought. Thought happens on three levels – unconscious, subconscious, and conscious. The unconscious is how you breathe automatically, digest, blink, and fire the neurons that move the muscles to lift your arm into the air

Why Is It So Hard to Just Be Yourself?

Nobody is at fault or to blame, but neither does anyone tend to teach you this. Two of the most distressing things that dominate our society are the expectations of others and the “shoulds.” Early in our lives, before we’re even scientifically capable of self-awareness, our parents and other family members guide us. Eventually it moves from guidance to direction. Instilling good habits in the young is very useful throughout life. Brush your teeth twice a day, fasten your seatbelt

How Deep Does Your Subconscious Mind Go?

The depths of the subconscious mind are nearly unfathomable. Every human being is of 3 minds. The unconscious mind is not in our control in any way, shape, or form. It is via the unconscious mind that your heart beats, neurons fire, internal organs do their thing, and so on. While breathing is part of this, your control of it is through a conscious act (and for some, the ability to speed up and slow down their hearts). The conscious

Do Your Inactions Speak Louder Than Words?

The intersection of words, actions, and inactions gives us control over our lives and the paths we choose. One of the greatest failings of many politicians is their lack of actions. They talk, and talk, and talk a whole lot about the wonderful things they do or will do – but do nothing actually useful. Frankly, in many cases, their real profession is lying. Hence, inactions speak louder than words. This doesn’t apply to only politicians, business leaders, religious leaders,

What is The Ego and How Does It Control Your Life Experience?

The ego is an almost conscious entity in and of itself. The concept of the ego, as most people are familiar with, originated from Sigmund Freud in 1923. In his paper, The Ego and the Id, he laid out what has become a major foundation for psychoanalysis that’s still applied today. To summarize (probably poorly), Freud’s concept of the ego was focused on the self – between the fun-loving and impulsive Id and the spiritual and ethereal Superego. Freud’s take