Pathwalking 183
Do you play the blame game?
The trouble with blame is that it assigns responsibility to an outside party for some bad thing, wrong doing or other matter. Often we blame because it is a far easier thing than accountability.
Blame assigns fault away, and does nothing to correct matters. This is where blame is utterly pointless – it offers no solutions.
Things happen to us and around us that are not our fault. We sometimes find ourselves in a situation where our plans get derailed and we certainly did not ask for this. Placing blame in these situations is a pointless activity and a waste of energy.
Consciousness creates reality. Every single one of us has control of our own reality. There are times it does not feel like this is true, and there are moments when it feels like we are spinning our wheels or otherwise scrambling to get things done, but it makes it no less true. We get to choose our reality, we get to make it happen.
I have written frequently about the need to think, feel and act upon creation. It is a conscious action, performed with intent to drive home focus and make the things we want to see in this life. Pathwalking is about not just letting life live me, but taking control of my life and choosing consciously how I want it to be.
Blame is all about giving up control. Blame is passing the buck, giving the responsibility to another party. It is for this reason that blame is a waste of time and energy and should simply be avoided.
Accountability and responsibility are a part of Pathwalking. I am choosing for myself, and I am working to make the life I most want to have. As such, when my paths hit obstacles and roadblocks and any other matters of impediment I have to do what I can to take care of this, because there is no one to blame but me, and blaming myself does not fix problems.
Our society loves to blame. We blame our emotional states on our parents, we blame our financial states on the banks, we blame the big faceless institutions like church and state for any number of woes and issues. Why bother? How does blaming anyone else for any issue in any way resolve that issue? Simple answer – it doesn’t.
Blaming myself for my mistakes, for my poor choices, for my errors and missteps is also a waste of energy. Great, I screwed up and I am not where I intended to be – but blaming myself won’t fix the problem. Instead I need to take ownership, be accountable for whatever the situation is and then figure out a solution.
Blame might actually be an unconscious act. We see blame tossed about in public life all across social media, and if the situation for which blame is being thrown effects us we will invariably agree. Now we’ve added our energy to the blame game, and instead of looking for our own solutions we expend energies spinning our wheels in the mud and going nowhere.
The thing to remember here is that we have more control in our lives than we allow ourselves. We have our routines and our responsibilities to be certain, but the truth is that we also have the ability to be more aware and more conscious. When we take responsibility to be more aware of our own lives and feelings and as such become conscious of them we can create a reality we desire to have.
The so-called “big picture” that is our society should not be ignored. However it would do us all a lot more good if we put more of our energy, our intentions and attention to our own awareness, our own consciousness, and really examined what we feel, what we think and further what we do. If we better understand ourselves and the paths we are on, whether we chose them or not, we can all have more of the joy, love and happiness that we all desire to have.
Another very important reason not to blame is because we need to forgive ourselves. We have all done things we wish we had not, we have all made choices that we wish we could take back. When we blame ourselves and we focus on our errors and the things we are not proud of we give our energy to what we do not want. Since consciousness creates reality, what do you think happens when you put your focus and energy on things you’d rather not have? You wind up getting more of those things, and dig yourself further into places you would rather not be.
Pathwalking is about awakening awareness and recognizing the incredible power that consciousness creating reality allows for. We do not need to be slaves to our jobs, our emotions or responsibilities since we can choose what we want to feel. I know that things happen that will create feelings, but we can choose which of those things to hold onto and which to acknowledge and then let go of. I know that on the one hand this seems way too simple to be possible; on the other hand this appears to require a great deal of effort and self-monitoring. But if you would rather consciously create the life of your choosing, isn’t the work it might involve worth it?
Blame is a waste of time, energy and effort. Don’t get caught up in this game, because you can place that wasted energy into things you actually want and desire instead. Don’t find things to place blame on…instead find things you can give praise to. Praise leads to gratitude, and gratitude is a fundamental building block in the conscious creation of reality.
Don’t we all prefer praise over blame?
This is the one-hundred eighty third entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my personal desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share. Thank you for joining me.
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