Focus on What You Can Control

Be mindful when you focus on matters outside of your control. We live in a mad, mad, mad world. Here in the United States, we’ve reached this bizarre place where a lot of people believe in a demonstrably false reality. Despite all evidence and logic to the contrary – they buy into any number of lies told to them by politicians, business leaders, religious leaders, and so on. If, like me, you question things, strive to learn, grow, and evolve

Choosing the So-Called “Easy Path” is not Easy

The “easy path” is what leads many people to depression, anxiety, and the like. What is the easy path? The easy path is the conventional path. It’s doing the expected and shoehorning yourself into a “normal” life. To be fair, there are people for whom this is fine. A normal, conventional life makes them content, happy, and fulfilled. I have nothing but respect for that – and if you are in that boat, more power to you. Unfortunately, I think

Reclaim Positivity

Positivity is always available. Sometimes you just need to reclaim it. For the first time in a long time, my depression has been dominating my experience. Over the past four or five days, I have been feeling more down than up, more negative than positive. I can think of several reasons why I am feeling this way: The sky has been grey for three straight days The temperature has been anywhere from 10-20 degrees cooler than normal for this time

Getting Myself Consciously and Subconsciously Aligned

I know my goals – short and long term – now I just need to get aligned. When I was 9 years old, I wrote my first work of fiction. It was 50 pages and illustrated – and I got a tremendous sense of accomplishment from creating it. Over the years, I continued to write in fits and starts. While I knew my passion was writing, I bought into a whole lot of the notorious lies about it. Most writers

Positivity Doesn’t Invalidate Negativity

One coin, two sides. Positivity and negativity will always both exist. I know a lot of people who think that positivity is a toxic notion. And, misapplied, they’re right. When you use positivity to negate and invalidate negativity – that is a toxic act. We simply cannot exist in a world with zero negativity. Life is all about dualities and paradoxes. Hence, yin and yang, black and white, up and down, and so on. Between these extremes are vast worlds

Focusing Within Gives You More Control Than Focusing Without

I need to put less into focusing on the things outside of my control. We live in a crazy world. After a year that featured massive, necessary social change due to a pandemic, an awful election and ongoing ugliness after it, and massive uncertainty – there is a light at the end of the tunnel. But that light isn’t the same for everyone. For some people it’s daylight – for others, it’s an oncoming train. This is largely dependent on

Choose Your Actions After Your Initial Reactions

The positivity when you choose the actions after your reactions is profound. Let’s face it. Shit happens. What’s more, you’ll encounter happenings that get you upset on the surface without full context. And then you get to decide what comes next. For example, I saw that a friend had done a thing with a group of friends that I was not included in. That got me super upset. I immediately felt hurt, got annoyed that I was left out, and

Replacing Self-Help with Self-Encouragement

Most people could use self-encouragement over self-help. Let’s face it – the idea of self-help has been hacked to pieces for many people. It’s like being in a sudden deluge of rain. You were soaked to the bone after a few seconds – but it continues to inundate you. A lot of people get frustrated with all the notions of self-help. In time, it goes from the simple idea that you are capable of working on your inner being and

You are Enough

Good enough, smart enough, wise enough, etc. You are enough. There is an ongoing notion that there must always be more. More. More! This gets applied to virtually every aspect of our lives. Tangibles and intangibles. We need more money. More time. We need more toys. More love. This sparks pointless competition between people. We look to the homes and possessions of our friends and compare them to our own. Then, we equate success and achievement alongside those comparisons. When

How Do You Suffer Fools?

I, for one, don’t suffer fools easily. Presently, the United States is a nation of surreal paradox. On the one hand, you have some of the finest tech and scientific minds you can imagine. On the other hand, you have people who think the Earth is flat and vaccines cause autism or implant microchips. Some schools teach robotics and advanced math while others teach creationism and refuse to acknowledge ongoing racism in the country. It is very hard not to

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