Pick Your Battles and Know Your Allies

What can you do in the face of this madness? How the fuck did we get here? Why do they think starting a trade war will do anyone any good at all? Oh, right, because they only care about what lines their pockets and fuck the rest of us. I’m scared. I can’t deny that. Watching the nation that I call home being ripped apart by this ludicrous, unconscionable excuse for a human being and his sycophants is depressing, horrifying,

It’s Okay to Get it Wrong and F*ck it Up

The surprising positivity in being imperfect. You have screwed up before. You chose the wrong toothpaste, an inconsiderate lover, the wrong time to take a trip, the wrong job, and tons of other things both big and small. Congratulations, you are a human being. Well done. Yet you are constantly being bombarded by messages about perfection, buying “X” to look good, doing “Y” to feel good, and the like, in a way that makes getting it wrong and fucking it

It Helps to Be Able to Improvise

Sometimes, the best way through is to make it up as you go along. When I began to learn melee combat in medieval fencing, a key phrase always stuck with me. No plan survives contact with the enemy. And it’s true. The “enemy”, be it a physical opponent or an intangible like Resistance, is unpredictable. You can’t and don’t know what they’ll do, how they’ll do it, or much of anything, really. Part of this is because you are the

Finding Positivity In All of This is NOT Selfish

It is one of the best ways to handle the insanity of the world. Given the current state of the world and the craziness therein, the topic of positivity looks incredibly disingenuous. People are suffering needlessly. Protections for the environment and other safeties are being removed for no good reason. Those who are supposed to protect us are increasingly joining or siding with those intent on harming us. None of it makes sense. It’s scary, uncertain, frustrating, frightening, and totally

Not Caring What Others Think Is Hard

It’s especially hard when you wish they saw what you are seeing. Reading the news, even from a level of learning the basics to simply stay informed, is increasingly infuriating. I cannot understand how, in less than a decade, the United States went from progressive, having twice elected the first-ever black president, to this reactionary fascist-inspired nightmare. It seemed like we were entering a golden age of reason, of progress, of a world where greater fairness and equality were both

Your Choices and Decisions Are Everything

Your life is made up of the choices and decisions you do and don’t make. No matter what anyone else tells you, you have the ultimate decision-making power for your life. Nobody else can make you be anyone you don’t desire to be. However, there are circumstances that will interfere. All of them are outside of you. For example, given the current political climate in the USA, you might be enby and unable to be your true self at work.

If You Give Up or Give In, They Win

Do what you can to stay strong. I have massively reduced my time on social media. This is to avoid doomscrolling and doing harm to my mental, emotional, and spiritual health. It’s not that I don’t desire to know what my friends and loved ones are doing. It’s that all the bad news, awful happenings, and ongoing ugliness is disheartening, upsetting, and can move all the way over to terrifying. How in the hell did we get here? After decades

Can You Choose to Shift Your Perspective?

Yes, because your perspective is yours to control. Have you ever watched a movie or TV show and wondered why they chose to shoot the scene at the angle they did? Did you experience an overwhelming desire for them to tilt the angle of the shot in one direction or another, zoom in or out, and otherwise change the perspective? The problem with this is that you can’t change the perspective that was chosen unless you tilt your head a

If You’re Not “Woke” You’re Asleep And/Or Controlled

Let’s just cut through the BS, shall we? Awake, or “woke”, means that you’re present and aware. The opposite would be to be asleep, not present, unaware, and open to being controlled. It really is that simple, my friends. You’re either awake and capable of assuming control or asleep and letting someone else do the driving. That’s what it all comes down to. “Woke”, as such, is in no way, shape, or form, a bad thing. Being awake means you

You Feel What You Feel When You Feel It

Feelings are valid even when they don’t make sense. We live in perhaps the most confounding, incredible, infuriating times imaginable. The human race is connected in ways never before imagined with little to no delay. However, as part of the tools that offer us such amazing connection, humans are more disconnected than ever. This is in part due to confirmation bias being weaponized alongside fear. You’re right that it all sucks and you should blame “them” for it. Because of