Why Fake it Till You Make it?

Because now is the only time you can act upon. I’ve been writing fiction most of my life. My first work, a 50-page illustrated sci-fi story, was completed when I was 9 years old. I tried my hand at multiple other creative outlets over the years, but always found writing creeping back into my life. After self-publishing a couple of my novels in fits and spurts, I took the plunge for real in 2020. That year, I put 6 books

You Can Always Choose to Give Up

But where’s the fun in that? Life can be hard. Some days, you probably wonder why you even bothered getting out of bed. I know I feel that way sometimes. Everyone has days where it feels like no matter what you do, you are behind, failing, losing ground, and/or otherwise struggling. No matter what you do, how much you give, all the ways that you try, it feels pointless and not very worthwhile. The truth of the matter – of

Unconditional Love Comes with No Conditions

Love in all forms is bigger and more empowering than you think. The number of false narratives in the world on the subject of love are many. Much of this comes from the idea that love can cause pain and suffering. Not true. Love, in and of itself, can never cause pain or suffering. By itself, love is the ultimate creator, source of wellbeing, empowerment, and any and every good thing you can think of. All by itself, attached to

How Does Positivity Build and Empower You?

Non-toxic positivity is an essential tool of creativity that empowers you. You are a creative being. It doesn’t matter if you’re an artist or not. You’re a creative being. The nature of creation is so broad and vast that it boggles the mind. Yes, the arts and all the elements of them are the ultimate form of creation, but they aren’t any better or more powerful than any other form creation takes. Making the perfect cup of coffee or tea

Just Be You

Believe it or not, you are utterly worth being. Allow me to state some uncomfortable facts. Many people dislike themselves. Some even go so far as to hate themselves. I know this struggle. I’ve disliked myself on and off for most of my adult life. A lot of this was due to outside messages and influences. I was shown all sorts of examples of how I was imperfect, not enough, insufficient, lacking, and doing it wrong. This could be applied

How to Be The Change

Take control of what you can, in truth, control. Grocery shopping today was not fun. Granted, for some people, this is always a chore and never fun. I, however, enjoy perusing the aisles, both getting what I came for and sometimes discovering something on sale that might be good (uniquely flavored seltzers, for example). Why wasn’t it fun? Because people were being rude. Some were intentional, just pushing past and giving sour looks. Others were utterly oblivious. Zero situational awareness,

I’m Not Responsible for How You Feel

It’s nearly impossible not to come across as callous for this. I work hard not to be an asshole. This isn’t so much about me, as far as I’m concerned, as it is about being kind, compassionate, and empathetic. The world needs more kindness, compassion, and empathy; and giving them all comes with zero cost. This is what matters most. That said, sometimes my words and actions cause hurt. I never set off with the intent of doing this, but

Why is Comparison the Thief of Joy?

Because you set yourself up to experience suffering that way. Comparison is the thief of joy because it’s endless. There is always someone or something you can compare yourself to. That person has it better than you. Those people look better than you do. Their home/car/yard is nicer than yours. Comparison will always find someone for you to see and feel less than. Similarly, comparison can make you feel superior to others. But that comes with a price, because if

Very Little In Life is Either/Or

You seldom experience or live the extremes. Everywhere you look the extremes are being emphasized. Rich and poor. Black and white. Brilliant and idiotic. Exciting and terrifying. Liberal and conservative. Good and evil. Extremes and opposites here, there, and everywhere. Worse than this, many push the viewpoint that you are either/or, for or against this, that, or the other thing. This extreme viewpoint is touted as the only viewpoint and opposite another. What’s more, the notion of either/or being your

Positivity in Politics Again

A perfect example of why we all need positivity. While I was away on vacation, Kamala Harris chose her running mate. Minnesota Governor Tim Walz. A whitey-white guy with an impressive record, morality, progressive stances on equality and rights for all, and a clear sense of humor. For the first time in a decade of some of the most partisan, ugly, awful politics I think anyone has ever seen, here’s a force of positivity. A genuine, positive, pleasant force for