If You Fall Today Get Back Up Again Tomorrow

You’ve done it before and will do it again. Nobody lives an absolutely, 100% perfect life. Nobody. Every person on the face of the Earth has crappy days, experiences stress, contends with shit on various levels, and feels bad.  Everybody who lives, has lived, or will ever live, will experience this truth. Sometimes this is not due to anything you did or didn’t do. Shit happens. You have zero control over anyone or anything else in the Universe. So that

Judgment Does Nobody Any Good        

Being judgy is easy but, like blame, fixes nothing. Spend any time whatsoever reading or watching the news or browsing social media, and you will see example after example after example of judgment. Some of it is meant to point out problems and place the blame where, admittedly, it belongs. Other elements of judgment come from seeing some less-than-ideal people receive their comeuppance. Sometimes it’s a matter of seeing what someone else is going through and either judging yourself better

There’s More You Can’t Plan For Than You Can Plan For

No plan survives contact with the enemy. My wife and I recently bought a house. There are a whole lot of different reasons why we chose this path after years of explaining why we were against it. We managed to find a house that was almost everything we wanted. We have a wrap-around porch, it’s a Colonial/Victorian house that’s had the bathrooms and kitchen updated, and a lot of other work done, too. It passed inspection, we closed, and then

Positivity and Positive Thinking Are Not the Same

This is massively important to understanding empowerment. It is very easy to confuse positivity with positive thinking. They are not, however, at all the same. Positive thinking is, frankly, one-dimensional. It is thought and thought alone, and lacking all other elements of conscious awareness. Why does that matter? Because to practice mindfulness, and make any real use of positivity, you need to include more than just thought. You need feeling, intent, approach, and action, too. What’s more, a great deal

New Space, Same Shit

A change of scenery is not a magic bullet. My wife and I have just moved into a new home. Despite incredibly uncertain times, political insanity across the country, an insane economy, and all else, we bought a house. For the first time in more than a decade, my office space is wholly my own (as in not limited by being a rented apartment space or a shared space in the home). As part of that, before moving in, I

The Power Of Not Worrying About What They Think

You can’t control what they think, can you? When I was a child, my parents got divorced. Because I was an especially sensitive child, this made me question my fault in my parent’s separation. Despite therapy, I managed to cut myself off from a large number of emotions until many, many years later. I was a ginormous geek as a child. FYI – this has not changed at all, I’m still a ginormous geek. This, coupled with my Jewish heritage

Working With Your Limited Control

What you control in life might be limited but it’s still a lot. I don’t know about you, but it looks to me like the world has gone completely nuts. How else can you explain the results of the US election and the majority voting for the guy who plans to make their lives unnecessarily miserable? While this is difficult to not pay attention to, it does put a spotlight on a harsh truth. You have little to no control

How Not To Let The Haters Win

Kindness, Compassion, Empathy, Hope, Positivity, and other tools. Many people are feeling uncertain, concerned, and afraid right now. After the US election, a party that has shown very little morality, ethics, or basic human decency is poised to control all three branches of the government. They have laid out an ugly, hateful, disturbing set of plans and roadmaps that will potentially marginalize, disempower, and take away fundamental rights in the guise of false morality and other bullshit. Many people are

Choices, Decisions, and Your Life Today

The present is where you have any and all control. The world has gone from a place of some uncertainty to an extreme amount of uncertainty. Even if you don’t live in the United States, the election of Trump to the Presidency is disquieting at best, and horrifying at worst. Trump and his enablers are a force of reactionaryism, chaos, and uncertainty. Many threats to the long-established government and social structure are cause for a lot of speculation. What will

Is Positivity Possible in The Face of This?

Non-toxic positivity is always possible, but… I’m not going to lie. Writing about positivity, in the face of the US election results, feels disingenuous. How this is where we’re at is surreal, scary, and thoroughly disheartening. The degree of uncertainty resulting from this is staggering. Trump made a lot of threats and promises of retribution, dismantling necessary agencies, and further disempowering women, the LGBTQA+ community, POC, immigrants, and pretty much everyone who is not white, cis-male, and wealthy. Worse, the

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