Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation, Mindfulness, and Other Matters
Yes, we can change anything. But it begins with ourselves. This weekend, two dear friends got married. Both, in the time I have known them, have changed in many ways. And the journey to get to this place together was not easy for either of them. But surrounded by friends and family, they pledged their love and lives together. Who you were is not who you are. And who you are is not who you will be tomorrow. That’s the
Believe it. You’ve got this. You’ve made it before – you will make it again. There’ve been many times when I was pretty sure I couldn’t get more lost than I was. I am not being entirely literal, here. This is about making plans, choosing paths, and deciding things – but then having it go sideways. Or unexpectedly not work as planned. You might know this. You get that feeling like you’re lost, like nothing is working, and you can’t
I shouldn’t do that, but I do. Lack of willpower? Distraction? Something else? Let’s explore. I know that I have an addiction to carbohydrates and sweets. Bread, cookies, pasta, candy, ice cream – everything that is bad for my overall health. This is why we tend to not keep bread, ice cream, and a lot of pasta in the house. However, my wife loves to bake, and bake for our friends – so these things still find their way here.
What you could do if you believed in yourself is not just words on a motivational poster. In my experience, do you know who we tend to have the hardest time believing in? Ourselves. Look at who people tend to believe in. Talking heads, politicians, oligarchs, demagogues, and leaders with fleeting power on multiple levels. And that’s just the individuals that people believe in. What about abstract entities and intangibles? People believe in countries, sports teams, religions, God, ridiculous conspiracy
Positive intention gives us hope and is practiced with mindfulness. Lots and lots of people are struggling. After 2 years of a seemingly never-ending pandemic, an ugly, pointless war in Ukraine, the dark impact of reactionary conservatives in politics and business, and increasingly illogical anti-science and anti-reason campaigns, I know I’m exhausted. And so is virtually everyone else I know, too. No matter how strong you are, you can only take so much. Everyone reaches a point of saying, “That’s
Staying strong is a choice. But some days – you can’t be strong. For the second time in 2 weeks, I have been directly exposed to COVID. Last time I tested negative. And this time I have tested negative again. But that doesn’t make it any less distressing. I am less worried about myself than about my wife. Not to overshare – but my immune system is stronger than hers. For more than 2 years, we’ve all lived in this
Yes, you absolutely should take time off – and here’s why. I am terrible at taking time off. There is a certain sense of guilt that comes with what are my obligations. Even those that are self-imposed. When I don’t meet those expectations, I feel bad. That can turn negative on a dime, and before you know it the brain weasels start chittering. You’re bad, you are worthless, what do you think you are doing? etc. For this reason, taking
To get where you desire to be, what are you doing? I ask myself this question more than I feel like I should. Perhaps I’m alone in this. But then, maybe not. What are you doing to go where you desire to be? What does that even mean? For me, it’s about being who, where, how, why, and when I desire to be in this life. This is both a matter of the now, as well as where I will
Both in the now and the long run, being genuine and true to yourself matters tremendously. How do you react when you encounter someone who is a fake? I’m not writing about someone you later learn is a fake. I mean, right from the outset. They put on airs, they seem confident not quite to the point of arrogance – but nearly so – and they come across as not quite right, slightly off, overwrought, and maybe trying too hard.
How do you know if you should still stay the course or leave the path? I’m feeling frustrated. That frustration is directly impacting what I’m doing. But more than that, it’s also taking a toll on my self-image, self-worth, and other thoughts and emotions. Of course, it all comes down to money. Like many people, I have a love/hate relationship with money. I love having it and hate being a slave to it. The constant discomfort based on how much
