You Feel What You Feel When You Feel It

Feelings are valid even when they don’t make sense. We live in perhaps the most confounding, incredible, infuriating times imaginable. The human race is connected in ways never before imagined with little to no delay. However, as part of the tools that offer us such amazing connection, humans are more disconnected than ever. This is in part due to confirmation bias being weaponized alongside fear. You’re right that it all sucks and you should blame “them” for it. Because of

Fear Is Always There, But You Can Choose How It Impacts You

Fear is a choice more often than not. In its original incarnation, fear is not a bad thing. That’s because fear in its purest form keeps you alive. Fear of predators, of climbing too high in the trees, of running too gingerly at the edges of cliffs, of swimming too deep into the waves, kept early humankind alive. Really, it’s by the grace of fear that the human race evolved to the place we enjoy now, atop the food chain

They Only Win if You and I Let Them Win

History is not on their side. People do not do well with change. This is especially true when change is swift and feels sudden. The world has, arguably, changed more in the last 100 years than at any other time in history. Arguably, the biggest change is in communications and connectivity. A hundred years ago, you maybe knew what was happening across the state. That is, if you were one of the 20% of the people who had a radio.

How Do I Still Walk My Chosen Path During All This?

Every day is its own. I made a choice to spend way, way less time on social media. Granted, I had already reduced my social media usage over the past couple of years. Now, though, even that time is being cut way down. Yes, you can still find me on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and BlueSky. Hell, despite that new (but not surprising) issues with Meta, I’m doing click-testing with ads as part of a course to help improve my marketing.

When It Feels Like It All Sucks, Can You Find Positivity Anywhere?

Yes, but it probably won’t feel all that positive. If you’re reading this, chances are that today feels like a really awful day. Let’s be honest. A terrible, unkind, hateful, spiteful bigot is swearing an oath we all know he can’t and won’t uphold today. The future of the United States, and the world, feels incredibly, frighteningly uncertain. Even his supporters are feeling the misery, negativity, and depression. He carries it like a badge of honor and doesn’t give a

You Can Choose Your Own Life

Choosing and deciding is how you have any control at all. Unless you’ve been asleep for years, or locked away in a cave, or hiding out on a tropical island somewhere, you know shit has gotten weirder. Reason and logic seem to be increasingly out to lunch. Greed, ambition, and screwing over others to advance yourself seem to be all the rage. Many, many people feel as if they are being wronged by “others”. There’s a great deal of false

Empathy is Not the Same as Sympathy

The world needs more empathy, not more sympathy. I write a lot about how kindness, compassion, and empathy are desired by everyone, everywhere. In fact, there is not a person on the entire planet who doesn’t desire these. It occurred to me that people often mistake empathy and sympathy. This is a hugely important distinction to make because empathy serves to make connection where sympathy creates disparity. The difference is simple. Empathy involves recognizing, connecting, sharing, and striving for understanding.

Your Reaction To Any Given Situation is Your Choice

Maybe not initially, but after that it is. Like it or not, shit happens. And there isn’t a damned thing you can do about it. When shit happens, you’ll react to it. This always comes in three stages. The first stage is your visceral, immediate, automated reaction. What that will look like is situational, dependent on factors including what, where, how, why, and when, and often unpredictable. This can include immediate rage, anger, frustration, joy, surprise, excitement, or interesting combinations

Be Who You Need

You’re more powerful and capable than you realize. Human beings are social creatures. Even the most introverted people still need people (just fewer, more specific people). How you need people in your life is extremely variable. Sometimes it’s simply about knowing someone is there in some way. Other times, you need someone to shoot the shit with. Sometimes you need reassurance, validation, encouragement, or some other external recognition/acknowledgment. Still other times, you need literal assistance from another person. Lots of

New Year To Start Anew – Or Not

It’s okay not to change anything with the new year. Today is the day after yesterday and the day before tomorrow. It also just so happens to be the first day of a new year according to the Gregorian Calendar. One of the enduring ideas of the new year is to make some sort of resolution. A quick search showed that New Year’s Resolutions date back thousands of years. What exactly is a resolution? A resolution is defined as an

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