Crossing the Bridges: Self Promotion vs Narcissism

There is a fine line between narcissism and self-promotion. The former is when absolutely everything is all about YOU, and in no way beneficial to anyone else.  A narcissist practically screams, “Look at me! LOOK AT ME!  See the things I am doing?  Pay attention to me!” The latter is somewhat about you, but it is also about sharing.  There is some benefit for other people.  A self-promoter says, “Hey, I did this thing.  Please take a look at it. 

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Decide to decide. I cannot tell you how many times in my life I have found myself at some crossroads or other because I refused to decide to decide. Decision making is only challenging if you choose for it to be so. For a lot of my life, I was the King of Indecision.  I totally should have bought myself a crown. When I made the decision to take action for the New Year, nearly five years ago now, it

Positivity: Changing Habits

Habits can be changed. What is a habit?  A habit is a thing you do regularly, to the point where it is almost involuntary.  You just do it, hardly thinking about it.  It is your way. Some habits are neutral, like bathing and napping and using the blinker in your car to signal lane changes.  Some are good, like holding doors for people, changing empty toilet paper rolls and picking up litter.  Some are bad, like smoking or always interrupting

Crossing the Bridges: Life in Multiple Worlds

I feel as if I live in multiple worlds sometimes. See if this is familiar for you in any way. First, there is Professional Me.  I hold a job, I pay my bills, I do the necessary things one does to live in this society.  I also happen to be involved in civics, as I serve as President of a local Chamber of Commerce. Second, there is Author Me.  I keep this blog, I write and edit novels.  I constantly

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How do you want to feel? This is an important question I do not think we ask of ourselves enough.  Not only do we not ask of ourselves, How do I feel?  But neither do we ask, How do I want to feel? It is easy to forget that when all is said and done, I and I alone am responsible for how I feel.  Period. Whether or not I feel good or bad, happy or sad, anxious or excited,

Positivity: Words Matter

Words matter. What that means is that what you write or say can have an impact, positive or negative.  Do you build or destroy with your words?  Inspire or terrorize?  Spew love or hate?  Give or take? People often forget just how important the words we use are.  Sometimes we fear the power of certain words and phrases, but neglect that there are always options. There are more than 200,000 words in the English dictionary, when you include the obsolete

Crossing the Bridges: Introduction

I am something of a modern Renaissance Man. First and foremost, I am a writer. Almost five years ago I began Pathwalking.  This is my personal philosophy on how to choose my own destiny, so that I might live the life I most desire to have. I started Positivity more than two-and-a-half years ago.  One Monday morning all I saw was lamentation for the new week, and a deluge of negative posts across social media.  So I decided that I

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Everything is energy. At its core, in its simplest, most elegant form every single thing you can see, touch, taste, and smell is energy.  Every one of us, no matter our skin color, ethnicity, gender or other chosen identifier is energy. The earth, the sun, the other planets in the solar system and everything, absolutely everything, is comprised of energy.  Both science and spirituality agree on this point, though they might use different phraseology to explain it. Since every single

Positivity: Unconditional Love

I love you. Doesn’t matter who you are, it does not matter how I know you.  I love you.  I love you for your humanity, for your intelligence, for your strength, for your weaknesses, for your heart and soul.  I love you for being. Why are we so very frightened to say these words?  When did the notion of love become so complicated?  Why is love broken down into so many subdivisions and categories and so full of stipulations and

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Life is only as complicated as we choose to make it. Last week I began to explore the many ways we move far away from the relatively simple things we actually want for our lives.  For most people, these include finding love, peace, joy and feeling good.  Previously I postulated that as children we instinctively understand this, but as we grow and develop we start to add layers and steps and these things get complicated. What are some ways in

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