Is Letting Go Empowering?
Letting go has a great deal of significance in our lives.
When we learn to let go of the things that do not serve us, it becomes far easier to cross the bridges between our worlds, walk our chosen paths, and consciously create reality.
We are all energy at our core. All energy vibrates at various frequencies. High energy, high frequency is stronger than low energy, low frequency. High frequencies are positive vibes, low frequencies are negative vibes.
Hence where the idea that feeling low and down are negatives, where feeling lofty and up are positives. These are actual descriptions of our energetic vibrations.
I don’t know the why of this, but I know that a lot of us tend to hang onto our low energy feelings. People spend whole lifetimes hanging onto grudges, memories of slights and hurts, and fears based on past happenings.
Why do we do this? I think because sometimes we want to be able to prove that we were wronged, and to get sympathy for it. Somehow having others share in our disempowering feelings is oddly empowering. Everyone knows someone who is always a victim, and who as such always seeks justifications and sympathy for their victimhood.
I think, however, a great deal of it boils down to our societal obsession with blame. When we can place the blame on a person, place or thing, it feels like we are letting it go. Of course, in truth, we are simply displacing it. Yes, today we explore a little psychology one-oh-one.
Placing blame for the things that make us feel negative means we take no responsibility for this thing. Even when it involves the actions of another, blaming them for whatever it is does not let it go.
Letting go is empowering.
Though it often doesn’t feel like it, we are in control of our emotions. Yes, outside influences are going to cause us to feel certain ways. Getting accepted and getting rejected each evokes and emotional response. One is a positive response, the other is negative. If we hold onto the positive, we feel good, and that in turn will draw more good to us by the Law of Attraction. Conversely, if we feel bad, that in turn will draw more bad to us by the same law. Like energetically attracts like.
This is why letting go is empowering. When we hold onto the negative feelings we have, and we replay them over and over, they get some traction, and tend to draw in more negativity. In particular, feelings of resentment, persecution, deceit and abandonment root pretty deeply into our psyche.
I don’t think people really understand that we control our emotional states. Why? Because it doesn’t feel like it. Emotions are a reaction to stimuli. A thing happens, and there is an emotional response.
However, because we are also creatures with the ability to reason and logic, we are able to not just feel these emotions, but to examine and analyze them. What is this feeling? Is it good or bad? Will it bring more good or more bad to me? Will holding onto this emotion draw in positivity or negativity? Am I being empowered or disempowered by this feeling?
And that is the biggest challenge. While getting vindication for being wronged and slighted may be empowering, holding onto the bad feeling that we want release from is disempowering. Why? Because we hang the release of the bad on someone or something else. When this thing outside of myself happens, I will feel justified and relieved.
Letting go frees us to grow.
Because we have zero control over the thoughts, feelings and actions of others, if we give away our empowerment to them, or to some greater system, we let go of nothing. Instead, we await salvation from without. See the paradox in this? We give all of our energy away to an abstract, even when it’s a tangible person or thing, and because we hold onto that, we hold onto the low energy associated with it.
I am currently experiencing something along this line. There is a thing that is supposed to happen very soon now. Yet just when I think it gets closer, and nearer to completion, it always seems to get delayed. This something will create a pretty significant life change for me, and from there open up a bunch of options.
The something involved here is the end result of a long, painful process. It’s been an emotional rollercoaster, and is full of resentment and disillusionment and a whole host of other negative emotions. Worst of all, though, is an underlying fear that it will not, in fact, reach the desired conclusion, because of past failures to do so.
Just to add another layer of complexity, I have done all I can on my part to manage this. Everything remaining is outside of my control.
The question before me is, do I let the negative feelings associated with this thing continue to play inside my head? Do I let me fears of the worst-case scenarios, utterly outside of my control take root? Or would letting go be more empowering?
I can stress out and worry and fret over this…or I can let it go. Feel resentful and angry or move on? Seems like a no brainer to me.
Letting go is worthwhile, because we deserve to feel good.
Letting go of this is not going to be easy. But when I reason it out like I have above, it’s the better alternative. And, since like attracts like, if I expect the worst of this situation, what do you think I am more likely to attract to myself? It really is that simple…yet, because we’re talking about emotions here, it’s anything but.
There is a choice in front of me. I have to make a decision here – hold onto the negative or let it go.
Breathe deep, let go of the fear and negativity, and reason the emotions to neutral, then positivity. Repeat my mantra of mightiness, and feel it in my bones.
I know I can do this. And for anything you might be needing to let go of, so can you.
As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me.
This is the eighty-second entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series. My collectively published writing can be found here.
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