What if I Suck at This?
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You have permission to suck.
A lot of people feel that they need to always succeed, always win, always get it right. However, that is, in truth, impossible. Things will not work out as planned, outside influences will change how a process works, or some other unexpected thing will interfere. Hopefully it all goes as you want…but there are times where, no matter what you are doing, it won’t.
Accept it for what it is. But maybe more importantly than that, allow yourself to suck.
While you have permission to suck, this is not carte blanche for you to do a half-assed job, or to give less than one-hundred percent to consciously create reality, or anything else you are doing. No, this is permission to accept that on your path, you may not always be awesome. You will screw up, you may find yourself not fully capable of achieving what you seek to, and you will simply suck sometimes.
What does this mean? It means that even though you are making the effort, you are allowed to suck. Nobody but you expects you to be totally perfect. As such, you are permitted to be imperfect, and even to suck at whatever you may be working on doing.
This is not an easy notion for a lot of us. We believe that we have to do it well, do it right, and that we can’t suck at it. Yet no matter what actions we may be taking, there are going to be times that we are imperfect. We are not going to get it right, and likely someone is going to determine that we suck.
And that is the real crux of this. Nobody sets out to get it wrong. More often than not, we really didn’t.
You may be permitted to suck…but really, you don’t
Most of the times that we feel that we suck, it’s not actually about us. It is really about how we think other people around us are perceiving us.
Sucking is a perceptional thing. We generally apply it to other people, in response to things they are doing. Seldom do we apply it to ourselves, save in self-deprecation, whether serious or humorous. And to be blunt, we shouldn’t.
Unless you are intentionally doing something half-assed, without energy, or poorly, you do not suck. You may not get it right in the eyes of other people…but you cannot change that, either. You have ZERO control over how other people perceive you.
We human beings have a REALLY hard time wrapping our minds around this notion. We believe that the impression we make on other people is important, and as such tend to strive for approval. Nobody wants to be disliked, thought of badly, or otherwise dismissed.
Yet in reality, what matters most is how we treat ourselves. Along that line, how we think of ourselves matters a great deal.
This is not selfish. Yes, it may feel selfish, in especial if you believe that you need to give of yourself all that you have, and more, to be the best person that you can be. But if you believe that you suck, and that you are worthless and a failure, where are you actually giving from? Do you have enough to truly share, or are you sacrificing to be so giving?
Sacrifice is not noble. Nor is it a reflection of whether you are a good and deserving person or not. No, sacrifice is a message of lack, and tells the Universe that since you believe there is not enough, you can do without.
That is unnecessary.
Permit yourself to suck…because you don’t
We are going to mess up. We are going to make mistakes. Each and every one of us is going to screw things up, and someone is going to judge that, as such, we suck. That’s ok…because nobody is perfect. If you have done your best, and put in all the effort that you can, you are permitted to suck.
But what is more important to recognize is that you don’t.
I know that you expect a lot from yourself. You believe that if you don’t represent as you should, you are not worthy. It is important that you should know that you are amazing, and that you are worthy and deserving of all accolades, accomplishments, and successes you earn along the way. You don’t suck.
Nobody is perfect. That’s a general aspect of the human condition for us all. We are perfectly imperfect in our own ways. But unless we don’t truly make an effort, go in half-assed or half-heartedly, or actively seek to do a bad job, we are worthy and deserving.
There are people outside of us who will disagree. In their estimation we are not worthy, or deserving. That’s their opinion…and in truth, it doesn’t matter. You cannot please everyone, so why bother? Are you doing your best? Giving your best efforts? Putting in work and energy and heart and soul?
Are you being true to you? Because that is what matters most.
Consciousness creates reality. Our thoughts, empowered by our feelings, motivating our intentional actions, build astonishing things. We deserve them all.
Yes, you have permission to suck. Because the truth of the matter is, you really don’t. You are a deserving, worthwhile person…and I believe in you.
Believe in yourself.
Can you see that while you have permission to suck, you don’t?
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