How Not To Let The Haters Win
Kindness, Compassion, Empathy, Hope, Positivity, and other tools.
Many people are feeling uncertain, concerned, and afraid right now. After the US election, a party that has shown very little morality, ethics, or basic human decency is poised to control all three branches of the government. They have laid out an ugly, hateful, disturbing set of plans and roadmaps that will potentially marginalize, disempower, and take away fundamental rights in the guise of false morality and other bullshit.
Many people are feeling lost, scared, and hopeless because of this. The suffering they fear is truly distressing, so their feelings are utterly valid.
The haters appear to have won. That, however, is not true.
The haters did not win. No, what happened is that people fell for the con -or- still believe the utterly disproven notion that women can’t run a government -or- that their vote doesn’t count so they didn’t bother -or- that both sides are equally awful – or some combination therein. The real winner was a combination of apathy, complicity, misinformation, and the like.
The haters are loud, well-funded, and believe in a false moral superiority. They might think they’ve won, but the truth is that they have not. Why? Because we are still here, and we’re not going anywhere.
We have an arsenal of tools they cannot resist. These include kindness, compassion, empathy, hope, and positivity. They have successfully stopped the haters in the past and they will do so now.
This is how not to let the haters win.
Stand up for what is right
For the record, I identify as a white, cis-gendered, middle-aged, Jewish heritage, mostly straight male.
Allow me to present the following statements that the haters tend to take issue with. Each of these is true.
- Love is love.
- Black Lives Matter.
- No human is illegal.
- Women’s rights are human rights.
- Human-accelerated climate change is real.
- Everybody wants to receive kindness, compassion, and empathy.
All of these matter because the haters will marginalize, disempower, gaslight, and resist these notions and call them names – because that’s all they’ve got. Because they cannot truly object to any of these notions, save from a place of fear based in false beliefs of lack, scarcity, and insufficiency. Fear that there is not enough of this, that, or the other thing to go around.
This is an abundant universe. Pretty much all lack, scarcity, and insufficiency are based on artifice. So there’s that.
You cannot fight hate with hate. You fight it with kindness, compassion, empathy, hope, and positivity. Don’t forget, ignore, or blindly forgive the haters. Fight them with these weapons by being an ally and employing everyday kindness, compassion, empathy, hope, and positivity in your life.
How does that work?
How not to let the haters win
I care about people who are not at all like me. Skin color, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, and the like have zero impact on how I feel about anyone. We are all one, in that human beings all seek to live the best lives we can. We are not here merely to survive and thrive like the rest of the animal kingdom. Humans have a unique and incredible capacity to create and influence this reality.
Some, however, don’t like that. Too unpredictable. Too many variables. What’s more, due to false ideas of lack, scarcity, and insufficiency, they believe there’s not enough to go around. So, they accept roadblocks, obstacles, and the ideas of “it was greater before now” and the like to deal with their fear.
The haters win when they get control and meet no resistance. When they can force people to live as they see fit and they think they can control, they win.
But the truth is that they never win. Ever.
Hate is always a losing proposition. That’s why it’s easy to overcome with reason, logic, kindness, compassion, empathy, hope, and positivity. Overcoming hate, however, does not involve changing the haters and their way.
What does it take? Being kind, having compassion for the struggles people endure, feeling empathy for challenges, maintaining hope just by breathing and living, taking a positive approach to your choices and decisions, finding and/or creating positivity, and the like.
So long as you and I keep giving a shit, stand up for what’s right, and resist the sense of hopelessness and despair, the haters don’t win. Yes, they will probably fuck up our lives for a while, but they only win if you and I give up.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t give up so easily.
The power of kindness, compassion, empathy, hope, and positivity
Haters’ gonna hate is a fact. You can’t change them. They, however, seek to change you and me. While some genuinely and maliciously hate, most are unable and/or unwilling to see beyond what’s right before them from a backward-facing lens.
Hell, the whole notion of Make America Great Again implies that it has ceased to be great somehow. Has it? Only under the people purporting to improve it. Yet, fear of the unknown, progress, and technology shifting the world nearly at the speed of light leaves many feeling disoriented, abandoned, and lost – perfect fodder for control by demagogues and haters.
I am not suggesting excusing ignorance, bias, prejudice, and the like. What I am suggesting is that among those in your life’s circles, practice kindness, compassion, empathy, hope, and positivity. In your daily life be kind, express compassion, feel empathy, approach things with positivity, and never lose hope. Keep going, keep living, and the haters will lose. Lead by example and show those influenced by the haters that what they most desire and need isn’t lacking, scarce, or insufficient. That’s how not to let the haters win.
The truth is that this is going to be a long fight. But ultimately, historically, the haters never win in the long run because they can’t. Rather than fight fear with fear, fight fear with kindness, compassion, empathy, hope, positivity, logic, and reason. You have the power to make choices and decisions to do this. Use mindfulness. That’s how not to let the haters win.
Recognizing how not to let the haters win isn’t hard
It’s all about practicing mindfulness of your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and approach to direct your actions.
When you recognize and acknowledge that the actual haters are few and far between, you can employ practices of kindness, compassion, empathy, hope, and positivity to resist them. Knowing that you can use these tools in your daily life, for yourself and everyone you encounter, you can be a force for good, reason, and logic that ultimately does not let the haters win.
This empowers you, and your empowerment can empower others around you.
Consciously choosing your approach to life towards positivity or negativity – from the vast cylinder that exists between them – shifts life in a way that opens greater dialogue. With a broader dialogue, you can recognize, explore, and share where you are between the extremes and how that impacts you here and now.
Choosing thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions for yourself employs an approach and attitude of positivity for realizing amazing potential and possibilities for your life.
The better aware you are of yourself here and now, the better you can choose and decide what, how, and why your life experiences will be. When you empower yourself, it can spread to those around you for their empowerment.
Thank you for coming along on this journey.
This is the five-hundred-and-sixty-second (562) entry of my Positivity series. I hope that these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog, and spread the positivity.
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