How Important is Communication?
Communication is the key to connection – both within and without.
I would, unscientifically, estimate that 90% of all the chaos, uncertainty, and misunderstanding between the peoples of the world is due to issues with communication.
These, like the people themselves, are wildly variable. Some of it is language – both a difference in the language used and comprehension of similar language. I suspect some of it is miscommunication – a lack of nuance, a poorly-stated intention, or general misunderstanding.
And of course, there’s a total lack of communication. Not communicating is a great way to disempower and keep people in the dark.
Human beings are not just social animals – but inherently curious. It’s in our nature to seek out information – sometimes directly, but often indirectly. Thus, we look for answers to questions great and small. And a lot of that comes down to communication.
While how we communicate with one another is super-important, often we neglect the more important internal communication.
What is that all about? Self-talk; mindfulness of your inner head, heart, and soul; being true and genuine to why, what, how, and who you are or desire to be.
While external communication is important to personal relations between people – internal communication is important to how well you know yourself. And if you don’t have a good internal communication process you will more readily fall victim to depression, anxiety, uncertainty, and other negative states of being.
Or – since they are unavoidable, after all – you’ll have a far harder time getting out of these negative states.
How does internal communication work?
The most obvious aspect of this is self-talk. That’s how you think and speak to yourself about yourself.
We all have inner voices that talk to us. All of them, since you are the only one inside of your head, are you. But it doesn’t always feel like that’s true. Particularly when it comes down to brain weasels saying unpleasant and awful things, causing you harm.
When you consider the words “I AM” – what follows is deeply impactful. Thus, negative self-talk – I am an asshole; I am unhappy; I am a failure – all drives your conscious reality creation.
This brings us to mindfulness. Mindfulness is conscious awareness of your inner being here-and-now. Your inner mindset/headspace/psyche self is informed about the world – both within and without – via your six senses, as well as your thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions.
When you gain that conscious awareness, you open yourself to seeing into your subconscious depths. It is there that the brain weasels often are found chewing on old habits, beliefs, and values – which may no longer apply to you.
Internal communication is working with mindfulness and self-talk to direct and control conscious reality creation. Or, frankly, if you are skeptical about this notion and the Law of Attraction – it’s about having control over the one thing you can – yourself.
You have ZERO control over anyone or anything else. But when it comes to you – it’s all yours. But just like a lack of communication without leads to negativity, chaos, uncertainty, and misunderstandings – lack of communication within has the same impact.
If you are not in touch with yourself – or communicating poorly – control slips away.
Subconscious versus conscious mind
Whether you believe in the notion of conscious reality creation or the law of attraction – you ARE creating your life. When you don’t do so consciously – you are doing so subconsciously.
How does that work? Most people develop patterns and habits. They have a way they do things regularly. Routines occur – and can dominate all that you do.
You live by rote and routine – which means that your subconscious is doing the driving. That means that rather than choosing what to do, where to go, how to act and react consciously – you do it subconsciously.
That’s how certain habits get embedded and fail to be recognized. For example, you get uncertain or busy or whatever – and find yourself chewing off fingernails. I’ve done this – and as someone told me to stop, it occurred to me that I hadn’t consciously realized I was doing it.
The subconscious will have the wheel because someone ALWAYS has the wheel. If you don’t take it consciously – the driver is your subconscious.
Because your subconscious mind lacks critical thinking and filters, it will drive you to places you don’t desire to go.
If your internal communication skills are poor – or you are lax about maintaining them – this cedes control to your subconscious. But when you are mindful and consciously aware – you take the wheel and do the driving.
To do this, however, requires you to communicate within yourself.
To know requires communication
You can read all the blogs, books, and the like you come across. They pass through your eyes into your head.
But what happens after that?
The same applies to interaction with people, places, and things. Again, you take them in via your six senses. That may or may not then be coupled with thoughts and feelings.
But what happens after that?
You process the input. That occurs both consciously and subconsciously.
Subconscious processing happens non-stop. Your six senses relay to your internal mechanisms and they register what they encounter. Lots of this has no impact consciously upon you. But then, say you burn yourself – now the conscious mind recognizes pain and you react as such.
That’s passive communication within.
When you take something in via conscious awareness – you are already directing its impact. Does it speak to you in a way that inspires? Does it not just sink into your head, but your heart and soul, too? That’s all communicated actively within – and opens you to how to control the information you glean.
It’s no different than talking to someone and learning who they are, where they come from, and so on. Likewise, it’s no different examining a work of art and feeling an emotional connection to it.
Communications are both internal AND external. What you receive without impacts you within – and what you have within impacts how you communicate without.
This is why internal communication is as important – and maybe more important – as external communication. To build knowledge and share information – communication is the key to everything.
Maybe, just maybe – if we better communicate within ourselves, we can improve how we communicate without. That improves the connections we make internally and externally.
That is not only empowering – but can be spread to change the world for the better.
How mindful are you of your communication within and without?
This is the four-hundred and eighty-fifth exploration of my Pathwalking philosophy. These weekly essays are ideas for – and my personal experiences with – mindfulness and walking along a chosen path of life to consciously create reality.
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