Everybody Wants Kindness, Compassion, and Empathy
They are not, contrary to popular belief, scarce or lacking.
Sometimes it feels like it’s all spinning out of control.
I like to think that I’m a reasonable, thoughtful person. So how come it feels like I’m few and far between among people?
First, there’s an important truth to consider. Bad news sells. Keeping the narrative negative puts eyes on websites, attracts viewers and readers, and makes the owners of the parent companies money. In truth, this is mostly thanks to increasingly runaway capitalism, a fear-based society, and an increasing lack of accountability for fact versus opinion.
Because of this, it feels like that’s the dominant mood. Salacious stories of people doing bad things, scandals, and clickbait increasingly get attention and make someone money.
Is this really the truth of society? Have people become this dominantly sad, depressed, and discourteous? It sure as hell feels that way.
Yet I believe that’s not the truth. Why? Because everyone desires kindness, compassion, and empathy. Unfortunately, too many outside influences make them appear to be lacking, scarce, and something you must compete for.
What if the truth is that they’re abundant and the competition is a lie?
Most competition is bullshit
Let’s be honest. Most competition, as we are shown it, is bullshit. It’s a lie.
If you’re playing golf, tennis, or participating on a game show, you’re competing with others. Pro sports and the like are competitions. Otherwise? You’re not truly competing with anyone.
While there is a degree of competitiveness in acquiring jobs and dating, it’s not competition. There are lots of job opportunities and relationship possibilities out there. What’s more, no two people desire exactly the same things. Hence, the competition in those arenas is, by and large, bullshit.
This is part of where the weaponization of fear totally comes into play. Multiple types of authority figures will tell you that “they” are competing with you for this, that, or the other thing. If you don’t compete with “them” you will lose what is rightfully yours. This, of course, is utterly untrue.
Most of the groups lumped into “they” and “them” are not competing with you. They’re not trying to take away what belongs to you. In most cases, they want what you’ve had all along (like body autonomy, equal rights, loving who they desire, and living without fear for life and limb). Yet the narrative frequently creates false competition.
Why? To create disharmony and discord so that you will support this or that person/industry/party. So that you’ll give them your money. To encourage you to follow their lead and not give much thought to the truth.
The truth? What truth? This truth:
Everybody wants kindness, compassion, and empathy.
Everybody wants kindness, compassion, and empathy
It doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from. When it comes to yourself and your life, you desire to receive kindness. You want people to be compassionate towards you. You desire empathy for who you are, your goals, ideals, beliefs, values, and whatnot.
Unfortunately, the biggest problem with this is that many people don’t recognize that to get kindness, compassion, and empathy, they must be given. You set yourself up to not receive them when you don’t give them.
First, let’s recognize this important fact. Kindness, compassion, and empathy are in abundance. They are infinite. There will never be a lack, insufficiency, or scarcity of kindness, compassion, and empathy. They are in abundance beyond your comprehension.
Secondly, everybody desires to receive kindness, compassion, and empathy. However, not all recognize them for what they are. So much time is viewed as being in competition, and so many false narratives about lack, scarcity, and insufficiency are put forth, that they drive people to think they’re limited. That’s not true, as they are abundant and infinite.
Thirdly, nobody is any more or less deserving of kindness, compassion, and empathy than anyone else. The wealthy aren’t more deserving or worthy than the poor. Heterosexuals are equally deserving as homosexuals, bisexuals, asexuals, and all the rest. People of color are as worthy and deserving of kindness, compassion, and empathy as white people. Everyone is worthy and deserving.
FYI, this applies to the planet, animals, and virtually everything you can think of. Kindness, compassion, and empathy for everything is never bad.
Even the worst, most awful, and hateful people you can think of want them. They just believe too much in competition, who is worthy and deserving, and other artifices to see their true nature and abundance.
Practice giving
To get more kindness, compassion, and empathy, practice giving them.
I am not recommending that you ignore poor treatment, horrible people doing awful things, or anything of that nature. Besides, do you have any real impact outside of your immediate surroundings? Nope. This is about friends, family, coworkers, that poor cashier who just got yelled at by the asshole in line before you, the stranger struggling to get the door, and the like. Give them more kindness, compassion, and empathy.
The more you can give without, the more you can give yourself. I don’t know about you, but I’m my own worst critic. Nobody is as harsh towards me as I am. It’s easy, thus, to be less kind, compassionate, and empathetic towards me as I should be.
You’ll see that the more you give, the more you will find to give. Then, ultimately, the more you give, the more you get.
Practice locally. Because in truth, you have such a limited reach that this is where you can do the most good. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by practicing this.
Seeing that everybody wants kindness, compassion, and empathy isn’t hard
It’s all about practicing mindfulness of your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and approach to direct your actions.
When you recognize and acknowledge that everybody wants kindness, compassion, and empathy – and that they’re not lacking, scarce, or insufficient – you can give more. Knowing that giving more gets you more in return, feels as good to give as to get, and that there is more than enough to go around, you can be kinder, more compassionate, and more empathetic towards everyone you know and directly encounter (yourself included).
This empowers you, and your empowerment can empower others around you.
Consciously choosing your approach to life towards positivity or negativity – from the vast cylinder that exists between them – shifts life in a way that opens greater dialogue. With a broader dialogue, you can recognize, explore, and share where you are between the extremes and how that impacts you here and now.
Choosing thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions for yourself employs an approach and attitude of positivity for realizing amazing potential and possibilities for your life.
The better aware you are of yourself here and now, the better you can choose and decide what, how, and why your life experiences will be. When you empower yourself it can spread to those around you for their empowerment.
Thank you for coming along on this journey.
This is the five-hundred and forty-fifth (545) entry of my Positivity series. I hope that these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog, and spread the positivity.
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