The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Why Can’t We Always Have Positivity in Life?

Because change is inevitable – and positivity coexists with negativity. We live in a world of opposites and extremes. But the important thing about this is that we exist within the opposites and extremes. Very few people exist at any given extreme. Near, perhaps – but seldom at. This is why comparing extremes and opposites via a coin misunderstands the breadth and depth of this reality. It’s not a coin, it’s a cylinder with vast space between the given extremes.

Is It Really Worth the Effort?

You alone know if it’s really worth the effort – or not. What is “It”? That depends, I suppose. Various things that we can experience will qualify as “it.” Might be something big and scary or small and mundane. “It” might be getting up early to go for a walk. Or it might be applying for that dream job you’ve always wanted. Maybe “it” is finally cleaning out the walk-in closet in your bedroom. Perhaps “it” is taking the time

Why and How Does Genuine, Real Positivity Build Things and Empower?

Because genuine positivity is a creative force that will build things and empower us. Positivity is not a permanent state of being. That’s because, realistically, there is no single state of being for anyone. That’s just the way it works. We all go through various states of being depending on any number of circumstances both in and out of our control. Toxic positivity tends to postulate that always being positive in mind, body, and spirit is the end-all-be-all. But that’s

The Zen of Positivity

True positivity is Zen. Many, many years ago, I was introduced to the idea of Zen when my best friend handed me the book Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind by Shunryū Suzuki. FYI, if you have not read this book, I highly recommend it. Why? Because Zen is an ultimate state of calm, peace, and being present in the here and now. It’s often joked about and even made fun of. But it’s a very good place to be because it’s

When We’re Not Nice to Ourselves How Do We Expect a Nice World?

It’s super important to us and the world to be nice to ourselves. I’ve written it before – I’ll likely write it again. I am my own harshest critic. I also know full well that I am not in any way, shape, or form alone in this. Lots of people I know are most critical when it comes to themselves. While it’s a good thing to be self-aware and give ourselves critical focus for our overall good – it’s way

Really, Truly, Anything is Possible – Anything at All

Anything is possible And that means a lot right now. Today is the 4th of July. Independence Day in the USA. Sadly, I am not feeling much like celebrating the nation. Too many steps backward, too many divisive forces doing worse and worst things. It’s a real challenge to feel like celebrating at all in this environment. But at the same time, I am not going to get all pessimistic about it. I considered titling this blog “Is this one

After This Latest Insanity – Can Positivity Still be Found?

Yes, positivity can still be found. But it will probably be strictly personal. At the end of last week, the highest court in the United States did one of the most horrific things I could imagine. They took away the right of a person to choose what they do with their body. (Let’s be clear – if you think Roe v Wade was ever about the unborn and abortions – you are not paying attention). This was not the only

Can We Really Do Much of Anything to Change Anything At All?

Yes, we can change anything. But it begins with ourselves. This weekend, two dear friends got married. Both, in the time I have known them, have changed in many ways. And the journey to get to this place together was not easy for either of them. But surrounded by friends and family, they pledged their love and lives together. Who you were is not who you are. And who you are is not who you will be tomorrow. That’s the

When I know I Shouldn’t Do That – Why Do I Still Do That?

I shouldn’t do that, but I do. Lack of willpower? Distraction? Something else? Let’s explore. I know that I have an addiction to carbohydrates and sweets. Bread, cookies, pasta, candy, ice cream – everything that is bad for my overall health. This is why we tend to not keep bread, ice cream, and a lot of pasta in the house. However, my wife loves to bake, and bake for our friends – so these things still find their way here.

What is Positive Intention and Why does it Matter?

Positive intention gives us hope and is practiced with mindfulness. Lots and lots of people are struggling. After 2 years of a seemingly never-ending pandemic, an ugly, pointless war in Ukraine, the dark impact of reactionary conservatives in politics and business, and increasingly illogical anti-science and anti-reason campaigns, I know I’m exhausted. And so is virtually everyone else I know, too. No matter how strong you are, you can only take so much. Everyone reaches a point of saying, “That’s

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