The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

How and Why Do People Have a Problem with Inclusivity?

Any problem with inclusivity comes from artificial lack, scarcity, and insufficiency. It never ceases to amaze me how bent out of shape people get over inclusivity. No matter what the topic – race, gender, color, religion – you will find somebody objecting to inclusivity. Logically, and reasonably, this makes no sense at all. Why would you want to deny other people their rights, freedoms, and acts of basic human decency? In asking this question lots and lots, I believe I

Are You and Your Life Worthwhile and Deserving of What You Desire?

No matter what it is – you ARE worthwhile and deserving. Everyone has bad days. That’s part of the human experience. Even the happiest, most upbeat, and most positive people have bad days. That’s the yin/yang of the Universe at play. I know how it feels when you’re depressed. That sense of worthlessness, that you are unable to win, that no matter what you do, the Universe hands you shit sandwiches – and hovers over you until you take a

Do You Truly Get to Choose How to Feel After Sh*t Happens?

After your initial reaction – when sh*t happens – you get to choose how to feel. In the United States, tax time is almost here. In case you forgot – you should get on that this week. I do my damndest to avoid math. While I’m not as bad at it as I sometimes think I am – I thoroughly dislike it. When it comes to the insanity that is taxes, I am perfectly happy to spend some money and

Why is The Unknown Path So Damned Scary?

Because it’s unknown – and thus, uncertain. On the one hand, I’ve never been one for plans, lists, and the like. It’s always felt genuine and true to myself to be more improvisational in my approach to life. On the other hand, I’m a Virgo. Sometimes I get utterly ordered and freakishly clean, arrange, and set stuff up. When it comes to choosing and walking a given path in my life, this can be challenging. Loose and ready for anything

What If the Right Path Chosen Yesterday is the Wrong Path Today?

Right and wrong are seldom written in stone. The path will frequently change. How old are you? Do you think that you are who you were when you were 10 years old? How about 20 years old? Do you think you (or your path) are who you were even a year ago? The point is that you are always changing. Sometimes, it’s barely noticeable. Other times, it’s sudden. Some change is desirable – some less so. But change can, will,

How Does Mind over Matter in Mindfulness Actually Work?

Mind over matter is a challenge many people struggle with. I firmly believe that consciousness creates reality. This process occurs through the active practice of mindfulness – conscious awareness, here and now, of that which you control. Specifically – your thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions. Working with mindfulness, you can make choices and decisions to actively, consciously create reality. I’ve done this. More than once. Thus, I know that it’s not some pie-in-the-sky bullshit. However – neither can conscious reality

Why and How Is It Good For You To Ask for Help Sometimes?

You ask for help because nobody can do everything alone. I’m incredibly self-sufficient. I’ve been this way since my early 20s. Asking for help doesn’t come easily to me. This is due to any number of reasons, ranging from control issues, fear of appearing weak, and fear of rejection, to having my self-respect lost both to myself and others. And of course, there have been outside lessons borne of human nature and lack of reliability in some people. Self-care, self-awareness,

What is The Ego and How Does It Control Your Life Experience?

The ego is an almost conscious entity in and of itself. The concept of the ego, as most people are familiar with, originated from Sigmund Freud in 1923. In his paper, The Ego and the Id, he laid out what has become a major foundation for psychoanalysis that’s still applied today. To summarize (probably poorly), Freud’s concept of the ego was focused on the self – between the fun-loving and impulsive Id and the spiritual and ethereal Superego. Freud’s take

Regret Does You No Good – Because You Can’t Unring That Bell

Time may be cyclical, but life moves in only one direction – and regret doesn’t serve you. Regret can be a very sticky topic. And there are lots of things that cause regret. Based on the definition at dictionary.com, regret is a feeling of remorse, a sense of loss, and coinciding disappointment. In other words, the fear of missing out (FOMO) realized. I woulda, coulda, shoulda – but didn’t. The problem with regret is that it’s unactionable. You can’t do

Is It Possible to Both Be Okay and Not Okay?

I’m pretty sure okay and not okay coexisting is rather common. It occurred to me today that while I’m mostly okay, overall – I’m not okay. A lot of different things have happened in the past 2 months that are the reason why I’m not okay. After successfully rolling multiple 20s since the winter of 2020, I rolled a 1 at Christmastime and failed to dodge COVID. Very, very fortunately I had a mild case. This I attribute to being

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