They Don’t Care About You
Why do you care about them?
I’m not talking about your family or friends. Though I can make an argument that when you aren’t present with one another, they likely aren’t thinking about you. But that’s not the same, because they still care about you.
Who I am talking about is “them.” Those included in “them” is every police officer, clergyman, business mogul, politician, celebrity, and similar people nearly always distant from you and yours. When all is said and done, they don’t care about you.
No, you might think, but it’s their job to care about me. Sure, you can make an argument that the police are here to “serve and protect” and the like. But in the grand scheme of things, that doesn’t mean they care about you as an individual person. Not unless you are directly involved with them in some way.
The same is true of all the others mentioned above. Clergy care more for the souls of the individuals than the individuals, business moguls only care about what makes them more money, politicians only care about what gives them more power, celebrities only care about what gets them more noticed. You? They do not care about you in the slightest.
Why does this matter?
Consciousness creates reality. Thus, when your focus is on things way, way outside of your control, your subconscious does all the reality creation. To all intents and purposes, you’re ceding reality creation to people who don’t care about you.
When you care about what they do, how they act, and give it a large amount of your time and attention, you disempower yourself. If you spend as little as 5 minutes scrolling through social media, reading a newspaper, or watching the news, how does that make you feel? I’m going to hazard a guess and say angry, upset, confused, scared, uncertain, concerned, and/or a wild combination of some or all of the above.
When you feel like that, it’s very hard to focus on anything good or on those you care about and who care about you. No, I’m not suggesting you ignore those way-outside people completely. But they do not need your admiration, loathing, or attention.
Especially because for the most part, there’s not a damned thing you can do about them.
When you put your focus on people, things, and situations far outside your actual life, you lose sight of what you can and do have. That’s disempowering. And that, really, is the point, of course.
They don’t care about you
Part of why they don’t care about you is because they don’t know you. Unless you happen to be a close personal friend or relative of celebrity “X”, politician “Y”, or business mogul “Z”, all you are to them – if anything at all – is an abstract. A concept. A blip on a radar screen, a line on a chart, and so on.
Yet people get all bent out of shape over these far-away people and ideas like they’ll lose it all if they lose them. But, the truth is, they never had them in the first place.
They don’t care about you because they don’t know you, nor do they want to know you. So, living your life to appease and please them makes about as much sense as living your life for any random stranger you meet on the streets.
Why do you care about them?
They want you to care about them because that’s how they have any sway, power, or control. Ever notice how most politicians, celebrities, business moguls, and the like are all about image? They put themselves out in the world in specific ways so that you care about them, who they are, what they do, and more.
If you focus on these people, things, and ideas way outside of your life experience, you start to believe that they feel about you how you feel about them. The truth is that they don’t care about you, so why should you care about them?
Does caring about them do anything for you, right here and now, where you are? Nope. Does caring about them make them care about you? Not at all. If you show them you care, will they give you the kindness, compassion, and empathy you crave? The answer is usually no.
One caveat
Let’s clear up one important thing here. Not caring and not giving a fuck are very different animals. The former is impersonal and largely harmless. The latter is malicious and unfortunate. Not caring is just recognizing that someone doesn’t know you to care about you. Meanwhile, not giving a fuck means actively doing harmful things to you and others like removing protections, rights, freedoms, and whatever else in the name of **insert your given bullshit reason/person/deity here**.
Since they don’t care about you…
Maybe it serves you better to care about people, things, and connections you can impact and that, similarly, can impact you.
Family, friends, neighbors, and the people you encounter every day. You can care about them and impact their lives. Family, friends, and neighbors should be obvious. The people you encounter every day? Say hi, open and hold doors, let the person with 2 items get in front of you and your 12 items in line, and so on.
All of these are empowering. Empowerment is never bad because it means you are awake, aware, and choosing for yourself the things in your life. When you empower yourself, you can inspire empowerment in others, too.
Be mindful and aware of whom you care about. If your focus, attention, intent, and energy are on abstract people and things well outside your life, change it. Dial it back down and into who and what you can influence, impact, and share kindness, compassion, and empathy with. It might not seem like much, but every little bit counts.
When you see that the abstract “they” don’t care about you, why should you care about them?
This is the six-hundred-ninetieth (690) exploration of my Pathwalking philosophy. These weekly essays are my ideas for – and experiences with – applying mindfulness and positivity to walk along a chosen path of life to consciously create reality.
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