Be Who You Need
You’re more powerful and capable than you realize.
Human beings are social creatures. Even the most introverted people still need people (just fewer, more specific people).
How you need people in your life is extremely variable. Sometimes it’s simply about knowing someone is there in some way. Other times, you need someone to shoot the shit with. Sometimes you need reassurance, validation, encouragement, or some other external recognition/acknowledgment. Still other times, you need literal assistance from another person.
Lots of different things will impact how, why, where, when, and even if you need people. Overall, this is impossible to determine because it just is and simply will be. Everything about needing people is uncertain, unpredictable, and full of unknowns.
This can be infuriating. Yet there is a truth to who you need that you can always, at any time, work on.
Be who you need.
You have more power than you realize
Who are you? Many people treat this as a literal question because of beliefs, values, internal and external expectations, and other factors. The answer, however, is always the same.
Who are you? You are you. You’re the only you that ever was, ever is, and ever shall be. That’s not to say you are unchanging – you’re always changing because change is the one and only constant in the Universe. Yet even when you change, you’re still you.
Where you are, how you are, what you do, how you think, what and how you feel, intentions, actions, and approaches, always change. They might have echoes and similarities along the way, but they’re not the same. You, however, are always you.
The matter that most of us fail to grasp is that that’s enough. Unfortunately, society, advertising, and the expectations of others near and far, all make this feel like a lie. They imply or outright tell you that you need to be better, stronger, faster, wiser, more attractive, richer, thinner, and on and on. You’re set up to never be enough.
That, however, is total bullshit. You are enough. In fact, you’re more than enough.
Many people will tell you that various limitations are your reality. Socioeconomics, gender, race, nationality, education, class, and other constructs limit who, what, where, how, and why you can be. That. Is. A. Lie. You are not so limited.
One way to see this and begin to move past it is to be who you need.
Be who you need
No matter the circumstance that causes you to need someone, some elements never change. For example, you always need who you need to be kind, compassionate, and empathetic. Even someone giving you tough love is doing so (I hope) out of kindness, compassion, and empathy.
The best way to get these is to give them. However, lots of things are making this increasingly challenging these days.
When your so-called leaders are bitter, cruel, self-righteous, and lacking in kindness, compassion, and empathy, this creates a false narrative about what it takes to win. To succeed you must be equally as hard and harsh.
This is a lie. That harshness, cruelty, and other negativity is not sustainable. That’s why they keep doubling down and adding layers – because they can’t be sustained from that. Nothing and nobody can be.
What you need, what everyone needs, is kindness, compassion, and empathy. The best way to get that is to give it. In other words, be who you need.
Beware false equivalencies
It is in no way, shape, or form a weakness to be kind, compassionate, and empathetic. Yet more and more the narrative is that this is too soft, too vulnerable, too easy to get walked all over.
Is it? No. The false narrative claims it is. But it’s not. Even the least kind person desires kindness, they’re just blinded by their own selfishness, narcissism, and the like.
Nobody needs cruelty, hate, or harshness. Nobody. How is it that anyone thinks being awake and aware (woke) is negative? Nobody wants to be asleep at the switch and under the control of anyone else. They just have been led to believe that most of the competition between individuals they’re shown – and the lack and scarcity that come with it – is true. But it’s not. Nearly all the ways you’re supposedly in competition with others are not at all true. Most of what is supposedly in short supply is actually abundant.
“They” are not out to get you. Nobody is actively trying to take what’s yours (except many of those claiming some “other” is your competition).
Do you know anyone who doesn’t desire kindness, compassion, and empathy? I don’t.
Hence, when you be who you need, you open yourself to potential, possibility, and abundance. Because you’re not in competition with anyone else, you can be who you need without hindrance or judgment. That doesn’t mean you won’t be judged or hindered by others, but you can get out of your own way.
This is not easy. But being your genuine, true self rarely is. Since that’s the only person you can be, be who you need to give what you desire to get in life from both yourself and others.
To be who you need isn’t hard
It’s all about practicing mindfulness of your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and approach to direct your actions.
When you recognize and acknowledge that everyone everywhere desires kindness, compassion, and empathy, you can give more to yourself and others. Knowing that the idea that this and other notions of being “woke” are untrue, you can start from here to find and create more potential, possibilities, and abundance for yourself and others and you can be who you need from there.
This empowers you, and your empowerment can empower others around you.
Consciously choosing your approach to life towards positivity or negativity – from the vast cylinder that exists between them – shifts life in a way that opens greater dialogue. From that broader dialogue, you can recognize, explore, and share where you are between the extremes and how that impacts you here and now.
Choosing thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions for yourself employs an approach and attitude of positivity for realizing amazing potential and possibilities for your life.
The better aware you are of yourself here and now, the better you can choose and decide what, how, and why your life experiences will be. When you empower yourself, it can spread to those around you for their empowerment.
Thank you for coming along on this journey.
This is the five-hundred-and-sixty-ninth (569) entry of my Positivity series. I hope that these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog, and spread the positivity.
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