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Why the Language You Use Reflects Your Approach

Connecting mindfulness more clearly.


Words matter. What you say often reflects your inner being and provides insight into your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and approach.

Approach is a recent addition to my view toward active conscious awareness – i.e., mindfulness. Yet, on close examination, it holds up with the rest of the bits and pieces that go into it.

Thought is where everything that makes you, you, begins. Not only that, but thought is how all things in the world today, yesterday, and tomorrow are made manifest. Thought is the point of origin for everything.

Feeling is how thought is energized. Feeling is made of two components – what and how. What is the name for feelings, like anger and joy. How is the presentation of the feeling, like red-hot anger or butterflies-in-the-stomach joy.

Intentis the why of combining thought and feeling. You had the thought, mixed it with feeling, and now you have intention. This is how you make, do, or be this, that, or the other thing.

Action is the doing. Thought, combined with feeling, and given intention, leads to action. Or not. There’s always a choice. However, nothing can be made manifest with intent if you don’t apply mindfulness to it.

There is, however, another factor that goes into manifestation – big or small. That’s approach. Approach is the direction you face on the flexible cylinder between positivity and negativity. This choice of yours can be the difference between all-in or half-assed.

Language is a big part of approach.

Positivity, negativity, and approach

To be fair, neutrality lives somewhere between the positive and negative. However, neutrality has no energy or anima to it. Neutrality merely is, and from that place, you tend to be subconscious, disinterested, or lacking passion.

Think about it. Neutrality in and of itself is a place of no direction. While this can be a respite from time to time, it’s not conducive to conscious reality creation or doing anything with intent.

That’s why approach matters for mindfulness. It goes deeper than thought and feeling because it’s what they are often based on.

When you create with any intent and mindful conscious awareness, approach can have a huge impact. If your approach is one of positivity – I can, I will, I’m able – you’re putting that beneath but also interwoven with your thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions. Likewise, if your approach is one of negativity – I’ve never before, I don’t believe, I’m uncertain – that’s what lies below it all.

There’s a catch, of course. A negative approach can still energize the other elements, but only when it’s followed with a strong intent – I’ve never before, I don’t believe, I’m uncertain, BUT I’m going to do it anyhow – is empowering.

In the end, it’s all about empowerment. While positivity is stronger when it comes to conscious reality creation and mindfulness, negativity still has energy that neutrality lacks.

The best way to know and check your approach is language.

forearms on a railing, person thinking. language
Photo by Ümit Bulut on Unsplash

Language is not just external

Years ago, I wrote about choosing words with care several times. Words are a concrete form of language. They give names, shapes, colors, and forms to what you’re thinking and feeling.

This is why I’ve also written about using want versus desire. Want frequently comes from a place of lack, scarcity, and insufficiency. Desire, on the other hand, gives more intent and positive connotations to the same concepts. It’s a matter of choice of language.

Neutrality neither wants nor desires. That’s why it doesn’t enter into approach. Of course, there are times and places where neutrality is a wise course of action. Doing something to create, build, change, or just be in general is often not it.

Most people – apparently, not all, however – have an internal dialogue ongoing. This can be quite a jumble of information, but when you work to be actively consciously aware, mindfulness is how you ask the questions to untangle it all and make some sense of it. Language is important here.

The only way to question what you’re thinking, what and how you’re feeling, your intentions, what your approach is, and what actions to take or not is via language. Language in your head or spoken aloud gives you power and empowers you to be who, what, where, how, and why you desire to be.

Recognizing your approach via the language you use helps you manifest anything, big or small, that you’re striving to create mindfully. Using this to your full advantage empowers you and opens the way to choosing and deciding who you desire to be and what that looks like.

From there, who knows what you can do? The potential and possibilities are nearly endless.

Recognizing what language you choose to use isn’t hard

It’s all about practicing mindfulness of your thoughts, feelings, intentions, and approach to direct your actions.

When you recognize and acknowledge the importance of your approach in the manifestation of anything tangible or intangible, you can choose the language you use for an approach of positivity or negativity. Knowing that positivity builds, and neutrality has no energy, language employing positivity in your approach makes you stronger and gives you maximum control to power your choices and decisions for you and your life experience.

This empowers you, and your empowerment can empower others around you.

Consciously choosing your approach to life towards positivity or negativity – from the vast cylinder that exists between them – shifts life in a way that opens more dialogue. With a broader dialogue, you can explore and share where you are between the extremes and how that impacts you here and now.

Choosing thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions for yourself employs an approach and attitude of positivity for realizing amazing potential and possibilities for your life.

The better aware you are of yourself in the now, the more you can do to choose and decide how your life experiences will be. When that empowers you, it can spread to those around you to their empowerment.

Thank you for coming along on this journey.


This is the five-hundred and thirty-second (532) entry of my Positivity series. I hope that these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog, and spread the positivity.

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