Is Positivity More Than a Feeling – But Rather, an Attitude?
Positivity is more broadly defined than just a feeling – it is a whole attitude and approach.
How we experience life is a matter of attitude and approach.
This is a choice every single one of us gets to make every day. Hence why it can be utterly subjective and highly variable.
Trouble is, people often don’t see that their overall approach isn’t neutral – but tends to be positive OR negative.
And often – because of how we’re inundated by downer news and information – negative dominates our subconscious thought processes.
However – we have the power to take control of this. We can choose to work with mindfulness to be empowered to decide if we prefer to be approaching life through positivity or negativity.
First, though, we need to recognize that we have the power.
You control your approach and attitude
Though it often feels like this is not true – you, ultimately, control your overall approach and attitude in your daily life.
I know that it regularly seems like that’s total bullshit. But it IS the truth.
How can that be? Because when all is said and done, YOU are the only one in control of you.
What does that mean? It means that when it comes to how you approach life and your chosen overall attitude – you are in control.
How do you take that control? Mindfulness.
In the simplest terms – you’re the only one inside your head.
What that means is that you’re the only one thinking your thoughts, feeling your feelings, intending and acting as you do. Nobody else can do any of this for you. It’s all on you alone.
Mindfulness is your conscious awareness, here and now, of your thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions.
That conscious awareness will tell you if you are in a positive or negative headspace/mindset/attitude.
However, please note this: It is never one-and-done. Moods change and shift, the unexpected will change your attitude and approach, and various situations and experiences will impact you regularly.
And – it is impossible to be positive ALL THE TIME.
True positivity isn’t toxic
Many things happen over which we have ZERO control. We get fired, dumped, blamed, disparaged, and otherwise treated poorly. People disappoint us, betray us, make mistakes, and even die. And there isn’t a damned thing we can do about this.
That’s why it’s impossible to be positive all the time. Because bad things WILL happen that we cannot control. But after those things happen – how long we hold onto them and allow them to dominate our mindset/headspace/psyche is wholly up to us.
However, this requires mindfulness. Because when we’re not mindful, it’s our subconscious that does the driving.
What does that mean?
It means that when we’re inundated by negatives and don’t work to be consciously aware of them – they can dominate our subconscious. Before you know it, you’re thinking about negativity and feeling bad about life, the Universe, and everything.
It takes very little time on social media to encounter negativity. Upsetting memes are everywhere, people are constantly sharing terrible political happenings, stories of scary world occurrences, and so on. What’s more, lots of people innocuously share their lousy experiences and doings – not realizing that they are contributing to the negative collective consciousness.
This is why I choose not to share minor bad things that I experience, spend less and less time on social media, and focus on positivity, conscious reality creation, and mindfulness. Because doing so is a choice on my part to not be an added source of negativity in this world.
I know bad things happen. And I do feel negativity plenty. But I choose not to focus on that – lest I use it as my conscious reality creator. Or worse – a subconscious creator.
You create your reality – consciously or subconsciously
I know that it can be super hard to believe – but like it or not, you create your own reality.
Every single person on Earth has their own perspective on reality. It’s colored by who, what, where, how, and all other elements that make us up. Hence why some people appear to live in a reality wickedly different (and seemingly surreal) from our own.
Yet you are the master and creator of your life experience. You have more power than you realize to control what life is like for you. Often, that gets lost because it seems simultaneously both too simple and too complicated to believe.
But we are all empowered to create reality. Specifically, our own, personal life experience.
When we don’t do that consciously, we do it subconsciously.
What does that mean? It means that when you don’t work with mindfulness to be consciously aware – here and now – you let your subconscious mind take the wheel. Life lives you – and you experience its happenings from the passenger seat.
If you are not mindful of the info you’re taking in – and you’re overwhelmed with negativity – you wind up in a negative place.
This is why positivity is more than a feeling. It’s an entire experience that dominates our wellness and wellbeing – if we choose to be cognizant of it. When we don’t – unless we are being careful about what we consume – odds are that negativity is dominating our experience.
It’s good to be aware of the bad things in the world. We need negativity to recognize and appreciate positivity. But it needn’t be our primary, overarching life experience.
We choose if life is all doom and gloom – or instead, potential and possibility. I know which I prefer. What about you?
Recognizing an attitude of positivity isn’t hard
It begins with mindfulness of our thoughts, feelings, actions, and intentions.
Knowing that positivity is not just a feeling, but a whole attitude and approach, we can see how that impacts our life experience. When we work to take a more positive approach, be consciously aware and mindful of this – we open ourselves to greater potential and possibility. And that ultimately empowers us all.
When you are empowered, your mindfulness increases, you become more aware overall, and that gets reflected and spreads to other people. This creates a feedback loop of awareness and positivity – a feedback loop everyone can take part in.
Then, together, we build more positive feelings and discover further reasons to feel positivity and gratitude. That becomes the impetus to improve our lives for the better, help overcome the overwhelming negativity of any current situation, and generate even more positivity and gratitude.
An attitude of gratitude is an attitude of pure positivity. That positivity can generate even greater positive energies – and that is ultimately empowering for all.
Everyone is worthy and deserving of all the good we desire.
This is the four hundred and third entry of my Positivity series. It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone. Feel free to share, re-blog, and spread the positivity.
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