The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

What is it about Expecting Both the Least and the Most from Myself?

It’s not expecting the least and the most from ourselves that’s the trouble. It’s the expectation itself. Our harshest critics tend to be ourselves. We set the highest bars, frequently judge on shifting expectations, and give the harshest criticism to ourselves. I don’t know about you, but often, I would not accept the kinds of things I think and say to myself were they to come from someone else. And yet – I know I’m not alone in this. I

When I know I Shouldn’t Do That – Why Do I Still Do That?

I shouldn’t do that, but I do. Lack of willpower? Distraction? Something else? Let’s explore. I know that I have an addiction to carbohydrates and sweets. Bread, cookies, pasta, candy, ice cream – everything that is bad for my overall health. This is why we tend to not keep bread, ice cream, and a lot of pasta in the house. However, my wife loves to bake, and bake for our friends – so these things still find their way here.

If You Believed That You Could Do It – What Would You Do?

What you could do if you believed in yourself is not just words on a motivational poster. In my experience, do you know who we tend to have the hardest time believing in? Ourselves. Look at who people tend to believe in. Talking heads, politicians, oligarchs, demagogues, and leaders with fleeting power on multiple levels. And that’s just the individuals that people believe in. What about abstract entities and intangibles? People believe in countries, sports teams, religions, God, ridiculous conspiracy

What Are You Intentionally Doing to Be Where You Desire to Be?

To get where you desire to be, what are you doing? I ask myself this question more than I feel like I should. Perhaps I’m alone in this. But then, maybe not. What are you doing to go where you desire to be? What does that even mean? For me, it’s about being who, where, how, why, and when I desire to be in this life. This is both a matter of the now, as well as where I will

How Important is it to Know What Is Your Why?

What is your why – in this context – is not about the overarching meaning of life. Every single human life matters. All lives are important. Each and every one of us is endowed with some scientifically amazing attributes. These allow us to experience our world like no other animal on Earth. When we are first born, our lives are lived wholly in the now. All we know is waking, sleeping, and being. During this period, we’re just like the

What Can I Do to Get Better at Letting Go of Past BS?

We all hold onto things that don’t serve us. Letting go challenges us each differently. Over the past month or so, I’ve been focusing more and more on identifying my self-sabotaging behaviors. Thus, I’ve learned that my self-sabotage is born of conclusions I’ve made about myself, other people, and life. I recognize what these conclusions have been (for me, it’s that I’m not worthy, people are capricious and inconsistent, and that life is an unfair uphill battle). Now recognized, I

If Yesterday Sucked Will Today Likely Suck Too?

I get to decide if today will be like yesterday – or not. Every single day I get to make new choices. I’m not talking about what to eat, what to wear, or those types of choices. I’m talking about how to think, feel, and act. Every. Single. Day. But that doesn’t mean I consciously, actively make choices. Often, I just go with the flow, follow my routines, and let shit happen as it will. That’s also a choice. Albeit

What Does the Saying “There’s No Time Like the Present” Truly Mean?

“There’s no time like the present” is a genuine, empowering understanding of the reality of time. Proverb, adage, whatever you call it – you’ve likely heard or read the phrase “there’s no time like the present” at some point. It may seem trite – but it’s quite powerful. Because of the complexities of human thought, we can get lost in ruminations of the past and plotting notions for the future. In truth, we can get so caught up in past

How Can Today Be Made into a Notable Special Occasion?

You can choose to treat today as the special occasion you desire for it to be. Our culture has a major love affair with celebrating special occasions. These include birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, graduations, and many massive achievements like promotions, marriages, births, and so on. The focus, however, often gets rather narrow when it comes to defining a special occasion versus the everyday. People put so much energy, time, attention, and investment into a given special occasion that they ignore all

Bad Days Always End

All bad days come to an end – and this is a tremendous positive. Everyone has bad days. Everyone. That’s a fact of life. Nobody has nothing but perfect, good days. Sometimes this is within my control. If I wake up groggy, stumble out of bed, stub my toe, and find I’m already running late – I get to choose if I let this dictate the way the rest of my day goes or not. I decide to let that