The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation and Other Matters

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Why the “How” of things trips me up.

Why does the “how” of it all continue to get in my way?

Two weeks ago I discussed the block I encounter between idea and end goal.  I want to be a bestselling author.  The “how” of the process is what keeps tripping me up, and I think it’s time to dig deeper into why that is.

Conscious reality creation works.  I’ve done it many times, and I intellectually understand it.  One of my greatest issues, though, is emotions, which is part of how I keep stumbling.

exploring the howIn no regard do I blame my parents, certainly not after all this time.  When they divorced nearly four decades ago, to protect myself from feeling hurt and taking undue blame for their divorce, I shunted off my emotions.  I was a smart enough kid to tell the psychologist what the feelings should feel like…but I didn’t actually feel them.  This would go on for over twenty-five years, until a different therapist and I unlocked this matter.

Feelings…nothing more than feelings.

Once I recognized my intellectualization of emotions, rather than feeling them, I was able to start changing things.  Thus I began to work on actually feeling, and from there my life changed.  I started to feel a passion for manifesting what I wanted, I started to approach relationships differently, and this is where I began to build the life I have today.

I have come to believe that while thought and intentional action are important to manifesting things, the key is feeling.  You can’t just think and act on something, you have to FEEL it.  You have to feel certain, sure that it will be.  It is necessary to feel that my thought has been made manifest, and let the Universe deliver.

I always want to know how.

I am a curious person.  Understanding how things work has always been a part of my nature.  There has always been a drive to uncover the truth of things, and to really know “how” the universe works.

There are any number of instances where knowing how things work is useful.  I like knowing how an airplane flies, how my circulation system works, how to change a tire and other information.  But when it comes to manifesting through conscious reality creation, figuring out “how” it works gets in the way.

Simply put, every single book I have read or listened to says the same thing.  You begin with thought, then give that thought feeling, and from there take intentional actions to move things forward.  Simple enough, except often exactly HOW this will work is unknown.

I want to be a bestselling author.  That’s my thought.  I strive to feel what that will feel like, feel how it will affect my life, my moods, my thinking, my finances.  I work to feel it in the now, to really be truly aware of what it feels like.  Then, I take actions that tie in, with the intent of making it manifest.

Questioning how.

How is this going to work?  Then how will I turn my existing work into bestsellers?  How do I make money from this?  Then how do I promote myself to get known?  All of these questions begin with the same word – HOW.  Because I cannot see how to get from where I am to where I want to be, I move forward at a snail’s pace, or less.

The Secret sums up the conscious creation process thus: Ask, Believe, Receive.  Ask for what I want, Believe I already have it, and then Receive it.  I know this is how manifestation works…but I still seek to know more detailed HOW.

Is this a lack of faith?

I am a proponent of logic.  Science and reason offer truth.  However, I am all for faith, but not to the exclusion of reason.  Blind Faith was a great band, but is not a great way to approach life, the universe and everything.

The universe is full of infinite possibility.  My faith in this comes from proof I’ve witnessed with my own eyes, and is not blind.  But my need to understand how, seeking logic and reason in the illogical, causes a paradox that complicates my work to live the life I most desire to.

It all ties into my need to feel more thoroughly.  Faith is a feeling.  I need to have faith that this is possible, and that how it will come about is not something to concern myself with.  I need to feel that this is real, that I have achieved it, and believe that it’s mine.  There needs to be faith that I am capable of manifesting this.  Conscious reality creation.

I know that this will not supplant my need to understand how.  That’s a part of my nature.  But knowing that my preoccupation with “how” interferes with my paths is an important step.  I have become aware of this matter.  Awareness is part of conscious reality creation, so I can work with this to move forward.

Think.  Feel.  Actions.

More meditation.  I need to take more pauses in the day to be truly aware of what I am thinking and feeling, and work on keeping my eye on the prize.  I know I can do this.  There is no need for me to know how, I just need to feel it through.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges with me.


GOAL LOG – Week 31:

The goal log has not been fully maintained this week, as I am attending the Pennsic War.


This is the forty-fifth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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When you are traveling upon your path, you should do so with confidence.

Confidence is not just applicable to emotion, but also to thought and action. You can think, feel and act confident, and it is important to recognize the subtle differences between these three forces.

This is a complex concept, in especial as it’s not simply emotional, intellectual, or physical, but covers all three of these fundamentals.

For people who have issues with self esteem, this a particularly difficult notion to content with. Self esteem and confidence are very much tied together.

What IS confidence? defines it thus:


1. belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance:  His lack of confidence defeated him.

2. certitude; assurance:  He described the situation with such confidence that the audience believed him completely.

Confidence is not just something you hold to yourself, it is projected. When you speak of something you believe in, when you express passion for something, when you know all the facts without a doubt you have confidence.

When you choose a path, it is important to have confidence in your choice. If you are uncertain of your choice, if you are uncomfortable explaining what you are doing – the lack of confidence may become apparent, and it can be more difficult to take the journey.

How do you build confidence? This is an important question I have been struggling with for some time myself. It goes hand in hand with self-esteem, which is also something I’ve contended with. Here are some thoughts on creating confidence.

Action. Believe it or not, this is the easiest way to begin to build confidence. Take action. Straighten your posture. Speak clearly and be decisive. Dress smartly. I am a leader in a civic organization, and while I often feel as though I am in way over my head, I work to not let that show. I dress for success, put on a professional outfit and as such show confidence in what I am doing. This helps me to feel more confident, and when others see me this way it helps me see myself as such.

I do need to add a note of caution here. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. It is important that when you are acting in a confident manner, you don’t get cocky. Confidence is dressing smart and carrying yourself with surety, arrogance is being a know-it-all and not allowing for anyone else to have a valid opinion. I think a lot of people who are just trying to show themselves as confident overdo it, and thus come across as arrogant.

Thought. Think confidence. If you are confident that you have a good plan or a wise idea, if you are confident in thinking about the certainness of your path, that goes a long ways towards building confidence. If you think it will fail, if you think you can’t succeed, if you second guess yourself this destroys confidence. Think confidently. Acting confidently, I find, leads to thinking confidently.

This is where you can tell the difference between confidence and arrogance. If your thoughts are confident, but still open to change you’re in the right place. If your thoughts are confident but utterly locked in, you may be on the verge of crossing the line to arrogance. This leads to the last aspect of this:

Feeling. Feel confident. Be certain. Be assertive. Be knowledgeable. Know what you know, and let yourself feel good about yourself. This is where confidence rests. When you think and act confidently it will help you to feel more confident. Unlike a lot of other concepts where feeling comes first, with confidence I have found the feeling often comes last.

When you feel confident, you will find that you can more easily walk any path you choose. You will also be better equipped to handle changes in your path, and to make any necessary adjustments. Confidence also shows other people your faith in yourself.

Once more, I caution you against over-confidence. You will know if you are feeling confident because it will make you feel good. Over-confidence will not make you feel good, it will actually make you feel uncertain and will chip away at your actual confidence. You will also know based on how people are reacting to you if you are coming across as confident or arrogant.

Acting, thinking and feeling confident will help you walk your given path with more clarity and surety. This can be a challenging idea, but it can make everything in your life easier to contend with, good and ill.

Are you confident?


This is the one-hundred fiftieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Feel free to re-blog and share.  Thank you for joining me.

The first fifty-two weeks (Year One) of installments of Pathwalking is available in print and for your Kindle.

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