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Positivity: Tears

Tears, you may not realize, are a surprising tool for positivity.

Whether tears are being shed in happiness or in joy, or in sorrow and sadness, they are still a tool for Positivity.  Because tears cleanse.

When you are so filled with joy that you could burst and you begin to cry, it is an experience of ultimate release.  So powerful that you are overwhelmed, and so moved.

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When you are sorrowful or sad and you begin to cry, it is an experience of ultimate release.  So powerful that you are overwhelmed, and so moved.

Release, relief, whether from sadness or happiness, is still positive.  Why?  Because once you have had that release, you are now free and open to tremendous amounts of positivity.

There is nothing like the release that tears can bring.  So much pent up energy that your system has to give.  While there are many vents we have to release that pent-up emotion, tears are particularly powerful.

Yes, you can shout, scream, throw punches, break stuff to release that energy.  But tears cleanse like nothing else can.  Tears open you up in a way that no other physical act can.  They are an ultimate creator of freedom.

Why is positivity important?  Because we all want to feel good.  We all want to be hopeful.  We all want to experience exceptional things in life.  But there are going to be instances that create emotions in us so strong that we can’t just hold onto them.

Energy can neither be created nor destroyed, it just changes form.  Emotions are a part of that energy, but they can create a build-up that needs to be released.  That’s tension.  Sometimes the release is obvious, like a laugh, or a sneeze, or that moment when you are with a partner and realize they want to be kissed as much as you want to kiss them.  These are releases of energy.

Tears are an energy release.  The body becomes so full of either positive or negative energy that it must be released.  Like any overpowered engine, something has to give so that the system does not break down.  That is what tears are.

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Once tears flow, the energy is released.  It does not matter whether that was positive or negative energy that caused the tears, now that they are released you can start anew.  Positivity can be created, and you can renew your efforts and change your direction.

There are going to be times when we all need release.  Letting go of any overage of energy opens us to more possibilities for positivity.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we all need to liberate excess energy, whether from joy or sorrow, we can be freer in doing so.  When we accept the need for that release, and we allow the tears to flow, once the energy excess has been released we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred thirteenth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Positivity: Repetition is not Insanity

Albert Einstein said, “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

This is so very simple.  If you try the exact same thing time and again with no variations, you will get the same results.  That’s a big part of what scientific testing is all about.

Every single week I post Positivity.  Is it insanity?  No.  Why?  Because I am not doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

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I am always looking for new things to be positive about.  I am constantly exploring new ways in which to create positivity.  I am trying variations on the theme every week because I think we need more positivity in the world, and I strive to present some.

I will concede that this could be considered insanity.  I post this every single week, and have been for more than two years now.  Has the world become more positive?  I think you could easily argue the exact opposite.

That’s not important, however.  I have not given up.  I work every week to introduce some positivity into this world because even if I make myself feel more positive, that improves the world.  Every.  Single.  One.  Of.  Us.  Counts.

I don’t present these posts on positivity every week hoping for a great big, universal epiphany.  Sure, I would love to garner thousands of followers and lucrative writing deals from my work, but this is more important than that.  Even on the days when this beacon of positivity is submerged in the depths of negativity, it is still a beacon, and it is still something to be shared and to do my part to help make more people feel good.

I may be doing this thing over and over again, but never in quite the same manner, and I have no expectations of results.  So perhaps it is insanity, or even folly to post positivity every week, but I do not believe that is so.

We can always find things to be positive about.  We can break free of the shackles of negativity, we can be a ray of hope in the sea of despair.  I know that seems hard to believe sometimes, but it doesn’t make it any less true.  Finding positivity lets us be empowered, and when we are empowered we can feel good, and when we feel good we can spread that to those around us.

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I have no intent of stopping giving you thoughts on positivity every week.  Partially because this is selfish – I need to remind myself to be more positive, too.  I believe that this is a service to my friends and loved ones to show us all that as bleak as things may appear, there are bright things that we can feel good about, and we deserve to feel positive and feel good.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that it’s not insanity to try something like finding positivity to better our lives, we can continue to take new approaches to the same issue.  When we accept that it can be repetitive, and that the results may not be grand but are still worthwhile and important, we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred twelfth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Positivity: Holidays and Celebrations

Everyday can be a holiday.

That means that every day we can find something to celebrate.

There are so many holidays out there that have very specific meanings.  Beyond that, there are feast days for Saints every single day.  So why do we only choose to celebrate on these specific days?

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Halloween, Presidents’ Day, Labor Day, Memorial Day, Arbor Day, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, Barthdays…these are just some of the familiar holidays.  Then there are more obscure ones like Talk like a Pirate Day and today being Pi Day.

Why do we reserve celebration for holidays?  Why do we feel the need to slog through the rest of our days, hour by hour, in order to celebrate during just those specific times?  Why do we take such pains to reserve joy?

When all is said and done, I think we all want the same thing, but via different routes.  We all want to be happy.

I don’t mean euphoric, out-of-body, head-in-the-clouds happy, I mean happy as opposed to depressed, sad, low, discontent.  I mean that sense that you are content, lacking anxiety, pleased with life, feeling positive.

Everybody wants to feel good.  Everybody wants to be loved.  Somehow we have been taught that love, joy, celebration, and happiness all come in limited quantities, and we need to hold to them tightly.  Somehow we have come to believe that there is not enough happiness for everyone, so we need to be greedy with ours, and not share because there’s not enough.

This is untrue.  The universe is abundant, and there is more than enough happiness to go around.  Happiness is probably the one thing that EVERYONE is entitled too.  But it’s not something limited, something that has to be earned, it is something to be shared, to be spread, to connect and unite us.

No, you can’t be happy all the time, and that is partially because we need to feel the opposites in order to have balance.  But that does not mean we should only feel happy rarely.  We have the right to feel happy more often than not.  Why do we accept so easily that we need to put limits on this?

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You don’t need a holiday to be happy.  You can celebrate the littlest things if that brings you joy.  Happiness is not to be reserved only for the rich, or only for those who earn it – it is for everybody, and there is more than enough to go around.

So let’s all eat pie this Pi Day to celebrate.  And then Saint Patrick’s Day later this week.  And then Random Happiness Day Just Because – whenever.  Celebrations create positivity, and with positivity we create happiness.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action.  Knowing that we don’t need a holiday in order to have a celebration, we can celebrate whatever whenever we want.  When we find more things to celebrate, we build more good feelings and when we feel good we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred eleventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: Be Happy

I want to be happy.

Don’t you? Doesn’t that sound like a fantastic idea?

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What do we have to do to feel happy?

That’s the challenge we all face. In especial when we’re inundated with conflict and messages of exclusion and hate and fear. Hard to find happy when there are so many messages that are the opposite.

It is time to take back our power and do what it takes to be happy.

It might be something grand, like taking a vacation or relocating to another country or selling off all your possessions and walking the earth. To each their own.

It might be a bit easier than that. Go online and look for silly cat pictures. Watch dogs and other animals do ridiculously cute things. Go outside and sit in the sun. Go outside and sit in the rain. Walk in the woods. Do anything physical. Put on a movie or TV show or any video that makes you feel good, that makes you feel happy. Spend time with loved ones. Eat chocolate. Read a book.

Why do we deny ourselves opportunities to be happy? Because we have come to believe that we don’t deserve it.

We have been taught that happiness is something earned. You can’t just have it, it is not your right it is a privilege. You have to work to be happy. You have to put out effort and struggle and sacrifice to be happy.

This is completely backwards. Happiness shouldn’t just be some reward, it is everybody’s right. We all deserve happiness, we all should be able to find happiness in whatever forms we can. It doesn’t need to be some reward for a job well done or hard work, it should just be something we are all worthy of. We are all deserving of happiness.

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What makes me happy is probably different from what makes you happy. Nothing wrong with that, but we have to recognize that nobody’s happiness should be at the expense of anyone else’s. You being happy does not detract from my being happy, so we should all have opportunities, means and options to be happy.

Positivity builds happiness. Feeling positive leads to feeling good, which is a key to feeling happy. It’s pretty close to impossible to feel happy when you are dealing in negativity.

Claim your happiness. Don’t be afraid, do whatever you can to feel happy.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that we all want to be happy, and it is not something we need to earn, we should take steps to do things that make us feel happy. When we work on being happy, we make ourselves feel good, and in the process we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred tenth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Positivity: Leap Day

Only once every four years do we get this extra day.

There are so many things we can do with an extra day. It is an additional twenty-four hours of possibility, potential, opportunity and all manner of positive things.

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We are all obsessed in this society with time. Linear time in particular. Because we all have schedules for our days we are constantly chasing time.

Time to get out of bed. Time to eat breakfast. Time to go to work. Time for a break. Time for lunch. Time to go home. Time for dinner. Time for that TV show I enjoy. Time for bed.

As such time feels as though it is constantly slipping away from us. We are frequently looking for more time, because we often run into the familiar problem of “I don’t have enough time.”

This year has provided us with a WHOLE EXTRA DAY! That’s an additional twenty-four hours of time! Thus this is an opportunity for us to take advantage of the extra time and use it to do something positive, something that will make us feel good.

It’s just another Monday. This extra day means nothing. If that’s how you want to approach it you’re absolutely correct. I prefer to try to see this as a special day, an extra day upon which I can create something positive, a day of more time that I can take advantage of and find positivity in.

For a select few this is the only day on which they get to celebrate their actual, factual birthday. Imagine being born on a day that only comes about every four years? Sure, you pick a day to either side of this special day to celebrate, but your ACTUAL birthday is only every four years! You get to be considerably younger than the years may tell.

This is all about approach. How do you approach time, how do you see the hours, the days, the weeks and years go by? Is it just an endless, routine, set stream? Or do you seek to find something extraordinary in the ordinary? Just because it’s another Monday does not mean it is not nor cannot be extra special, since it’s a whole extra day of the year.

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Time does not need to be an enemy or a point of contention, it can be something we can all use to create, to discover new things, to explore our world and to build positivity.

Let this extra day be a day to experience some fun, some joy, some happiness. Make Leap Day a special day where you allow yourself to enjoy all the possibility and opportunities before you.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that we have this whole extra day this year, we have an additional opportunity to seek positivity. When we do what we can to make use of all of our time, we can better enjoy our day, and in so doing empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

 

This is the one hundred ninth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Positivity: Words

Think before you speak.

How many times have you heard or read this phrase? How many times has it been directed at you?

I believe if more of us took the time to follow this idea, we would live in a world that is less divisive, less angry, less full of fear.

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All too often people just speak off the cuff. They don’t consider their words, they don’t care just how powerful they may be. Yes, I am very specifically talking about politicians here. So much of what comes out of their mouths is so very phony, so completely false that it is deeply disturbing that we empower them to do anything.

Words are powerful. They can start war or bring peace. They can spark fights or they can calm nerves. What we say is so much more important than we often give it credit, and yet we are frequently watching people flounder because of half-truths, denials of reality and lies.

The importance of being awake and aware in this life is that you don’t just do whatever comes to mind. You think it out, you consider your actions. I recently felt inspired to post this to Facebook:

Encourage instead of criticize.
Love instead of fear.
Suggest solutions instead of pointing out problems.
Be proactive instead of reactive.
Be accountable instead of seeking blame.

If we each take a moment to shift our approach to our life experience to the above, I truly believe we could make the world a much, much better place.

How often do you read posts from people that get you angry? How often do you see things online that make you sad, or fearful, or otherwise disturbed? We have become so enamored of facing off against negativity that we don’t realize how much more powerful using positive statements can be.

This is a matter of approach. Think before you speak in 2016 can also directly translate to – Think before you post. Before you put that negative statement out there on FB or Tweet it or share it across the Googleverse, THINK about the impact you are having with whatever it is. Do you NEED to add to the anger, to the fear, to the loathing, to the ever-present negativity out there?

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Taking positive actions, like thinking ahead before you speak/post/share can change the world.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that words convey immense power, we can choose to use them to build or to destroy. When we consider our words carefully, thinking before we speak or post online, we can make the choice to use words to empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred eighth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Positivity: Expressing Love

I love you.

This is the most powerful phrase in the world. It can lighten our step, it can change our mood, it can make our world better in ways beyond measure.

I used to be terrified of this phrase. The implications behind it, the commitment, the expectations. I didn’t want to say it because I know that it can be ever changing, that it can be impermanent, and that it can be as destructive as it can be powerful.

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But that’s not love….that’s fear. Fear is not just the path to the Dark Side, it is a tool that gets used again and again to control, to make people choose things they don’t actually want and that are against their best interests, and it gets used to shape our world.

Love is not fear. But in many respects they are the opposite sides of the coin. One of the many many reasons I think Paulo Coelho’s The Alchemist is a favorite book of mine is this line right here:

“My Heart Is Afraid that it will have to suffer,” the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky. “Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams.”

We are so afraid that in the process of loving we will experience suffering, we skip the love. We fear broken hearts, we fear that love will change and end and that it will hurt. Nobody wants to suffer, and fear is equally as powerful as love. The tug-of-war between these forces frequently can go either way.

I chose many years ago to stop fearing love. Love takes on so many forms and it is so amazingly healing and powerful that even when it crashes and it goes awry, I am still better for having experienced that love.

Fear destroys. Fear tears apart and fear belittles us. Love builds. Love knits us together and love grows us. Yes, I cannot deny love can come with pain…but love is not suffering, love is joy. Love is healing.

I love you. I don’t just write that here as a meaningless homage to the idea of love – I write this because you need to believe it. I DO love you. I may not know you personally, but I love the spark within you. I love what you are capable of, I love you for your potential and the love and joy that you bring to other people in the world. That is what love is – unabashed, unafraid, happiness and joy and ultimate positivity. I write this every week because of my love for you, and because you can never have too much love in the world.

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My friends, my family, my random readers I may never meet, please don’t fear the most powerful phrase in the world. Embrace it, utilize it so we can work together to build this amazing world instead of dividing and tearing it all apart.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that saying I love you can change the world for the better, we have a most powerful tool. When we express our love, in whatever form that takes, we ultimately empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred seventh entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Positivity: Fighting Depression

Despite working to maintain and promote positivity, sometimes depression is unavoidable.

I know how this works. You put the energy and focus into maintaining a positive mindset, you use the many tools available to build positivity – and yet you still get sat upon by the black dog of depression.

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What do you do with that behemoth breathing in your face?

Depression is not something to be denied or ignored. If you have depression, It is a part of your psyche that you treat in one of a myriad of ways, but never completely get rid of. You can keep it under control, you can keep it at bay, but you cannot just eliminate it and have it be gone for good. But you can control it instead of letting it control you.

I have been coping with depression for pretty much all of my life. I know there is a chemical imbalance in my system, and I have it under control more often than not. But we all have moments, we all have triggers that will set us off, that will tip the balance and take away control. Even the best antidepressants can only do so much when that happens.

How are positivity and depression linked together? Because focusing on positivity gives me a light at the end of the tunnel. It makes a place where the darkness that is bouts of depression seems escapable, and where you can find hope and reasons to work through it and return to balance.

I’ve written about many tools we can employ to build positivity. Well working to build positivity is an excellent means to work your way out of depression as well. Expressing gratitude can build positivity as well as pull us out of the discontent depression brings on. Using attitude shifters employed to build positivity can draw us out of that unsettled state and help return us to balance. Knowing there is hope and that there are positive things to be focused on can show us ways to get out of that unhappy state.

You are not alone. We are so very many who are fighting the same battle, wrestling the same demons and working with those same struggles, and we are in this together. That is a positive. I know how alone depression feels, I know how hopeless it can seem – but I also know that it is a temporary state, and that I can move beyond it and find positivity in a myriad of things.

I accept that I will sometimes succumb to depression, and I’ll berate myself and I will curl up in a ball on the couch for a while and shut out the world. But I also know that there are numerous good and positive things out there, and that I can get through this and find them again. I also know that I am not alone, and that we all have the strength and the mindpower to overcome this state and to see that there is always new possibilities, and positive things that will make me feel ok again.

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I know this can seem impossible. I know how much this feeling can suck. I also know that we are capable of amazing things, and that we can and we will be ok. The actions of seeking positivity can work as a natural antidepressant.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that bouts of depression happen even when you work to be positive, you can see how to overcome them. When we know that employing tools to find positivity also can fight depression, we can use the same tools to empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred sixth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Positivity: Resist the Hate

Don’t let the haters win.

Hatred is usually based in fear. Fear of change, fear of the unknown, fear of things and beliefs and ideas that are different. Hate is an extreme emotion that fearmongers love to employ in order to gather followers and to taint viewpoints for their own gain.

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Yes, the ludicrously long election cycle in America is about to get more focused, and a lot of what has already proceeded this is a ton of hatred, fear, words to inspire terror and hopelessness and anger to drive people to vote from a dangerously unstable emotional space. But we have the power to not let this be the dominant force of change – we can use positivity to take a different, proactive stand.

Yes, this thing may appear to be a huge, insurmountable juggernaut. How can I have any effect on that awfulness? By working towards finding positivity, and by looking at all the great and positive things in our lives. When we focus on the positives and give that our energy and attention we always find more.

Once we start to see and experience more positivity, we experience more good feelings, which can lead us more to happiness and joy. When we become empowered by these feelings, we have more ability to inspire and empower others.

The hardest part is to not give in to the haters. It is really stunningly easy to fall into hating the haters, and with that continue to build on that same negative energy. Division is what they want, and we need to work harder to unify and share more than divide and take.

Before you share that inflammatory article about how tremendously awful that guy is, try instead to find a positive article about someone you support. Instead of feeding the hate by hating the haters, let’s work on redirecting this conversation and draw more attention to the good, to the things we want instead of the things that we don’t want.

I know that this may come across as sort of crunchy-granola hippy-dippy, but that doesn’t mean it’s not still a good and valid idea. Do you like the feelings that the haters make you feel? I know that I don’t. I would much rather feel good, feel positive, feel like we live in a world where we have hope and possibility instead of fear and nothing but terror and destruction.

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Let’s try to find positivity wherever we can. Instead of trying to best the haters at their own game, let’s change the game to one that more people want to play.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that hating the haters only creates more negativity, we can choose to change the message and be supportive of views that are positive. When seek out and work more on sharing positives than negatives we build up more good feelings, and from this we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred fifth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

Positivity: Helping Others

We all need help from time to time. So, too, do other people around us.

The incredible amount of Positivity that comes from helping others is tremendously powerful.

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Whether you are lending a hand to a friend or a loved one or a total stranger, the power of giving can create a huge cache of positivity.

There are a couple key things to keep in mind when it comes to giving. First – know the difference between giving and sacrificing. Giving is an open idea, whereas sacrifice is closed. Giving comes from abundance where sacrifice comes from lack. Positive giving should not require you to sacrifice for another.

Second – know the difference between giving because you desire to be helpful and giving in the expectation of reward. When you give because you have plenty and want to share you will generate nothing but positivity. When you give because you expect to receive back something for what you have given, you could actually create negativity if there is disappointment.

Yesterday, following a rather impressive blizzard, I helped several of my neighbors clear snow. I shoveled, I brushed off cars. For a handicapped neighbor I even moved her car for her so the plows could clear the lot. I could have just taken care of our cars and our portion of the lot, but chose to help out my neighbors. No reward, nothing but the positivity of assisting other people around me to ease their burdens.

I was not sacrificing my time, my health, nor anything else in helping. I was offered a reward for helping the one neighbor, but turned it down because I didn’t help her for anything other than to provide assistance.

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I am not perfect, I am not holding myself up as any pillar of the community, I just wanted to share this particular example because this is positivity generating help for others.

The third thing to note when it comes to helping other people – be mindful of takers. We all know those people who take and take and take and never show gratitude and never give back. They do as little for themselves as they can, and they try to take a mile for every inch given. I am not suggesting that you don’t give for the sake of giving to these people, just that you be aware that you will receive no thanks and expectation of sacrifice for the other’s sake.

Everybody needs help from time to time. But when you can give help the positivity it builds spreads, and as such builds more positivity.

Finding positivity is not hard, it just requires action. Knowing that giving aid and assistance and helping others can build incredible positivity, we can strive to be helpful. When we give from a place of abundance and expect no reward nor make any sacrifice, we empower those we assist, and further we empower ourselves. When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings. We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings. When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for. Gratitude leads to happiness. Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude. Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred fourth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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