The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

Support – Does It Mean What You Think It Means?

Actions speak louder than words. Lots of people will tell you that they support you. They might offer platitudes, tell you about all the ways they’re supporting you, and/or claim they’re being supportive by doing this, that, or the other thing. But then, when you get down to it – are they taking actions that genuinely support you? Let’s say you have a “friend” who always must one-up you, always seems to find some way to belittle you, or in

Do You Need to Do Impressive Things to Make a Difference in the World?

No. You just need to do the best and be the best you can. I’m a big fan of audiobooks. When I recently came across Chris Hadfield’s An Astronaut’s Guide to Life on Earth and saw he was also the narrator, I had to download it. If you’re unfamiliar with Colonel Chris Hadfield, he’s a Canadian Astronaut who’s been to space 3 times, the last as commander of the International Space Station (ISS). He’s also an excellent singer, songwriter, and

Why and How Is It Good For You To Ask for Help Sometimes?

You ask for help because nobody can do everything alone. I’m incredibly self-sufficient. I’ve been this way since my early 20s. Asking for help doesn’t come easily to me. This is due to any number of reasons, ranging from control issues, fear of appearing weak, and fear of rejection, to having my self-respect lost both to myself and others. And of course, there have been outside lessons borne of human nature and lack of reliability in some people. Self-care, self-awareness,

Can You Practice Self-Care While Still Caring About Others?

Yes, you absolutely can practice self-care while still caring about others. I’d like to debunk a few myths here. First – self-care is NOT selfish. Period, end of story. Yes, elements of self-care might appear selfish from without. Saying “no” for your mental health, refusing to participate in the drama of others, and no longer doing things that hurt you mentally and emotionally will appear selfish to others. Note – true selfishness involves intent. Malice of forethought. An action taken

Replacing Self-Help with Self-Encouragement

Most people could use self-encouragement over self-help. Let’s face it – the idea of self-help has been hacked to pieces for many people. It’s like being in a sudden deluge of rain. You were soaked to the bone after a few seconds – but it continues to inundate you. A lot of people get frustrated with all the notions of self-help. In time, it goes from the simple idea that you are capable of working on your inner being and

You Only Can Help You

You Can Only Help You It’s important to be there for your friends and loved ones…but this is more important. There is only one you. The only person who knows what’s best for you is you. Yet if you are a caring person, you are probably a giver. As such, likely you put yourself last. What’s more, it’s all-too-easy to believe that any other option is an act of selfishness. Of course you come last. Other people in your life,

Working With the “Well-Meaning”

This post contains affiliate banner links. For more info, see my disclosures.   What do you do when the “well-meaning” friend or loved one offers “helpful” advice and commentary? If you are working on creating a unique, non-standard life experience for yourself, it has all sorts of pitfalls, trials, challenges, and obstacles along the way. When this is your why, and you are striving to consciously create reality by choosing your own path in life, it can and will impact

How Are We Stronger Together?

This post contains affiliate banner links. For more info, see my disclosures.   We are stronger together than we are apart. That’s the reason why so many of those “in power” choose to emphasize and create division. If we are divided, we are a lot easier to overcome. When I am fencing one-on-one against someone my equal, it could go either way. When facing two on one, even if they are not as skilled as I am, it’s going to

What is Self-Help?

This post contains affiliate banner links. For more info, see my disclosures.   The key to self-help is right there in the name. Self.  Help.  As in you help your self. Ironically, despite this idea of working with ourselves to help ourselves, people still seem easily inclined to give up their power, and turn to others to improve their lives. There are certainly plenty of times where we need the help of others.  Doctors can treat illnesses and prescribe needed

What is Selfishness?

This post contains affiliate banner links. For more info, see my disclosures.   Selfishness is not what you think it is. This can be particularly challenging, because a great deal of the way in which we perceive our universe attributes much to selfishness.  And while there are certainly some tremendously selfish people out there, much of what people see as selfish is not. I want to begin with a broad definition of what selfishness is NOT.  Selfishness is not taking

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