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Why Be Polite?

It costs us nothing to be polite.

When did we become so impolite?  What happened that, as a society, we accepted rudeness, inconsiderate people, and selfishness to be the norm?

Why be polite?Walking through some stores, I was stunned how many people just cut us off, stopped in the dead center of a busy aisle for no good reason, passed dirty looks when I said excuse me, and let their children just run about without a care.  I thought about it, and began to wonder…when did this become ok?

The thing is, that doesn’t matter.  I cannot change how other people act, and I can’t make people pay attention to the world around them better.  What I can do is be mindful of my own actions, and strive to be polite, even when those around me are less so.

Doesn’t it make you feel good when a random person holds a door open for you?  How about when somebody gestures for you to pass them in the aisle?  Isn’t it great when people say “excuse me” or “pardon me” if they cross into your personal space somehow?

Politeness is an incredible form of positivity.  When people are polite to you, it makes you feel good.  Since we are incapable of controlling how other people act, that means that we have the power to BE polite, and give what we want to get.

I know that this can be tough in many situations.  But if, instead of turning to annoyance or anger or frustration with people, we are instead polite, we generate positivity, and keep ourselves in a good space.  Further, we can avoid an unpleasant situation turning into a truly bad matter.

It feels good to be polite.

Positivity 194 - be politeIt really does feel good to be polite to other people.  Even if they are not responsive to you, you know that you’ve made the effort, and as such have done your part to instill civility into the world around you.  As difficult as this can be in some situations, why add to negativity when you can counter it?

Maybe, if we are more conscious about being polite, people will respond in kind by also being polite.  Perhaps, from there, they will think about being polite, and spread it like a virus.  Wouldn’t it be nice to see more good news and more positivity in the world around us?  Being polite is not a bad place to start.

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that it takes as much effort to be polite as not, we can choose to use this tool to generate more positivity for everyone.  When we work harder on being polite to people, even if they do not respond in-kind, ultimately we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we frequently spread that feeling to others around us; as such, we can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred ninety-fourth entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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How Are Our Persons Different From People?

The people who become our persons in this life can be an amazing source of Positivity.

If, like me, you find that overall people make you crazy, you understand this distinction.  What it boils down to is those who we get close to in various ways are persons, as opposed to those who are the faceless masses we refer to as people.

Positivity 192People in this sense tend to drive us nuts.  They cut you off on the road, they elect idiots to office, they disbelieve in scientific facts, etcetera.  Most of us, at least my persons, generally agree that people suck.

Trouble is, we live in a world with more than 7 billion people.  If we all have even a dozen persons, that means that we are surrounded by people.  And we tend not to think well of people.

Dehumanization has been a tactic used to divide and conquer for time immemorial.  All across human history peoples go to war, disagree about religion, possessions, social stratifications, and so on.  Look at the whole NFL protest business happening now.  The protesters are attempting to call attention to injustice and social inequality…but to dehumanize them, their detractors want you to think they are disrespecting men and women in the military.

While it is a great source of positivity to have our persons, looking at people in opposition creates more negativity.  Consciousness creates reality.  What we focus on and think about we tend to draw more of to ourselves.

When we think poorly of people in the general sense, we empower those awful things we don’t want.  We give it attention and energy, and we further expand the chasm between those we call our persons and the general people of the world.

Think better of people.

People vs personsThis is a challenge.  I often comment that people suck.  I get angry about the vast amount of greed, selfishness, foolishness and ignorance constantly brought to the forefront of our collective consciousness.  When we post memes on social media, read and watch news stories, and follow the tweets of the narcissist-in-chief, we get more deeply divided and as such, conquered.

We like, love and respect our persons.  We tend to dislike, loathe, and disrespect people.  I know that before I comment again about how much people suck, I am going to think about how disempowering that is, to both them and me.

Is it possible, if we extend the positivity we generate from our persons to people, we can make the world better?

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.

Knowing that we think much better of our persons than we do people in general, we can get a sense of how we generate a lot of negativity.  When we stop saying that people suck, and let ourselves be divided and disempowered, we can work on thinking about people more like our persons.  Thus we empower them, and empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred ninety-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

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An open letter to fellow Americans

Dear America,

When did we accept hatred as the standard?  When did we decide that after almost a century of progress it was perfectly ok to allow unrestrained racists, sexists, bigots, misogynists, warmongers and fearmongers to be our leaders again?  When did we decide that it was better to praise and follow the blindly faithful and ignorant rather than the logical and intelligent?

How did we get to this place where our choices for leadership from one party includes a zealot and a narcissist and the other side is a corporate shill and an idealist?

The one side became polarized over the past 30 years or so because they allowed special interests, religious fanatics and closeted bigots gain control.  And they wonder why they cannot stop this monster Dr. Frankenstein has unleashed on us?

The other side became polarized over the past 30 years or so because they allowed special interests, a lack of conviction and an unclear agenda gain control.  And they wonder why so many distrust the party leaderships’ Chosen One and prefer the idealist?

Do you want this country to return to segregation, to the failed principles of separate but equal?  Do you want the corporate bosses to be your slave masters again?  Do you really want to see those who are poor and disabled and hurting simply left to die?  Do you want to allow the greedy to destroy this planet so they can turn ludicrous profits that never trickle down to anyone else?  Do you want to live your life in fear?

This is what you have to take into consideration when it comes to the election this year.  I am not just talking about the Presidency, I am talking about ALL of those up for reelection.  Congress has become an obstructionist mouthpiece of those who pay for their elections.  Special interests and corporate hacks have taken control, and they will not stop until the rich are so rich that they can afford to leave the planet they are destroying, while the rest of us let them take everything we hold dear and wonder where it all went wrong.

Fear is not a healthy basis for a system of government.  Hate, exclusionism, greed, racism, bigotry, misogyny and sexism are all just alternate versions of fear.  Fear enslaves us to the will of others, and those who have the power continue to make it clear that they want only to garner more power.

Please stop being afraid, America.  Please stop fearing change, stop fearing the unknown, stop being afraid of anyone and anything different from you.  Please remember that our Declaration of Independence that was the blueprint for the forming of this nation says,  “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that ALL men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

America is not a land of Christians only.  It is not a land of Whites only. America is not a land of men only.  It is not a land of rich only.  It is NOT a nation of exclusion – American was founded on the principles of inclusion.

Building walls to keep out those who are different is not American.  Creating laws that forbid marriage is not American.  Creating laws that belittle ANY citizen, black or white, man or woman, gay or straight, religious or atheist is NOT American.  We are a nation of tolerance, we are a nation of freedom, we are a nation of inclusion…and it is time that we reclaim that.

Please release the fear, America.  Isolating ourselves, registering those who hold different beliefs and limiting resources for only the wealthy is what this nation was founded to stand against.  What we choose this year will reverberate very differently from our past choices.  We can reclaim our nation from the greedy, from the special interests, from those who don’t care about us but only about themselves…or we can give them even more power, and disempower ourselves and let America truly cease to be great.

Fear is not the answer.  Fear is un-American.  Please, please examine this and consider if you want to empower the people who only take, and are giving nothing back to you but fear, death, poverty, and war.

Is being American about being afraid?  No.

Please stop being afraid, America.  For the sake of us all, for the sake of our children, do not let fear make your decision in these elections.

With Respect,

A concerned American.

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