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How Can Anticipation Serve You?

Anticipation can be a double-edged sword.

One the one hand, it can be exciting, full of thrill and unknown wonder.  On the other hand, it can be nerve-wracking, full of dread and unknown horror.

Anticipation is an emotional response to a situation ahead of us.  As such, like all the other emotions we can feel, we can determine HOW this will feel.

AnticipationPathwalking is about choosing for ourselves our own, individual way.  It is living life to the fullest, making choices for how we will experience life.  As such, part of the reason to walk a given path is in order to reach a particular goal at its conclusion.

Anticipation of that goal can help to drive us along.  It can provide encouragement, it can help us to make the small choices that crop up along the way.  The goal a Pathwalker sets is something that will bring them contentment, fulfillment and happiness.  Anticipating that can be exciting.

Some things, however, can be deeply negative to anticipate.  Confrontations, giving and receiving bad news, owning up to mistakes.  Sometimes this is about anticipating how another person involved in this might react, and other times it’s about how it might effect our lives and the paths we travel.

Both aspects of anticipation can involve an increased heartbeat, breathing faster, feeling as though you might burst out of your skin at any moment.  The positive is exciting, and it creates a sense of audacity.  The negative is scary, and it creates a sense of anxiety.

Positive anticipation can be an amazing sensation.  But the negative is one of the worst feelings we can experience.

Change may be constant and frequent, but for many it is still scary.  Even when we are taking action to create change, it can still be unnerving.

Anticipation can be a liar and an opponent.

In The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho’s Alchemist says, “Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.”  That fear is a matter of anticipation.

Frequently we find ourselves in a position to do things that we might anticipate are going to be awful.  We get unexpectedly called into the bosses’ office.  The doctor wants to go over test results.  We have to share news with someone that might cause hurt.  When we fear that this is going to be awful, we can build it up to be utterly terrifying.

Yet more often than not, the concern and fear are worse than what actually happens.  We are so convinced it is going to be awful and cause us or another to suffer, the anticipation of that proves to be far worse than the event itself.

I’ve done this many times myself.  The challenge is to recognize it for what it is, and to work on redirecting my thoughts and feelings.  If consciousness creates reality, then why would I do anything that might create something awful?

The other issue with anticipation comes from it being about a thing ahead.  One of the challenging aspects of walking my own path is that in order to be aware of my thoughts, feelings and actions, it’s important to live in the now.  When the now has direction to a then in the future, holding on to too much anticipation of how great it will be may keep it forever in the future.

This is a paradox that frequently comes up along the way.

Anticipation can be a helper and an ally.

When we anticipate that things ahead are good things, the excitement that this can generate can drive us.  Rather than simply traverse a path to get from point ‘a’ to point ‘b’, anticipating what is to come can build up our energy.  It can provide encouragement along the way.

We are all human.  As such, we are going to have both good days and bad days.  Even when we are striving to walk our own paths in life, there are days this is challenging.  We stumble, we have a hard time meeting obligations, and we find ourselves faced with uncertainty along the way.  When that happens – and it will happen – anticipation of how the achievement of reaching our goal is going to feel in the here-and-now can pull us through.

Excitement in the moment can move us along and help us to get where we want to be.  I don’t know what it will be like to become a best-selling author or to teach conscious reality creation in seminars and really impact people along the way.  However, I am excited to find out.  I anticipate it will feel amazing, and hugely empowering.  I may not be there right this moment, but anticipating what that feels like, and then feeling it now, will help to make it manifest.

At times this can be super challenging.  But I believe that it is completely worthwhile.  We have a choice when it comes to anticipation.  Ally or opponent.  I know which I would prefer.

What are you currently anticipating for yourself?


This is the three-hundred twenty-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

After more than 6 years of Pathwalking, I have launched a Patreon to garner support for these works, and more.

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How Does Love Matter?

Love is far simpler than we tend to make it.

Storytellers across the ages have been informing us that love is this grand, complex, amazing thing.  And while it certainly can be, in truth it is much less grandiose.

I have frequently written here about the ability we all possess to manifest the things we want in life.  We are, at our ultimate core, energy.  Energy vibrates at various frequencies.  Low frequency vibration draws low, negative things to us.  High frequency vibration draws higher, positive things to us.

Like attracts like.  That is the Law of Attraction.  Yes, I know some people consider this notion to be total hooky-spooky, new-agey, hippy-dippy, crunchy granola bullshit.  Lots of different books and self-help and spiritual guides have been written about this idea, some more, some less credible than others.

LoveThe thing of it is, when you actually experience this notion for yourself, you can’t help but believe.  I have had too many experiences over the years where I know that I succeeded at consciously creating my reality.  I had a thought, gave it unwavering feeling, and took intentional actions that got me where I needed and wanted to go.

Pathwalking is taking actions to move the thoughts and feelings into reality so as to manifest what we want for our lives.  I have written before that I see three ways to live.  Be a passenger in the car that is life and life live you; curl up in a ball and await death; get behind the wheel of your life-car and take life out for a spin around town.  Pathwalking is choosing roads to traverse as you move through life.

Some days are easier than others.  One of the best ways to manifest our desires is to work with love.

Love is high frequency.

Returning to the notion of the frequency of vibrations, the highest frequency is love.  For many, though, this idea makes it seem largely unattainable.  I have a lot of single friends who lament that today is Valentine’s Day, and they haven’t anyone to love.  Except in reality, love is much easier to find and feel.

We have been led to believe that love involves choirs of angels singing and various other shenanigans.  But love is much, much more than that.  Love is in the people we call friends and family, pets, arts, and numerous every-day happenings.  Love is constantly surrounding us, but because we hold these oversized notions of what it can and should be, we frequently misunderstand it.

When closely into this, you will see that we choose to use a lot of alternative words and phrases to talk about love.  For example, The Force.   Yes, I know this is science fiction, but that doesn’t mean the message isn’t valid.  As Obi-Wan said of The Force, “It’s an energy field created by all living things. It surrounds us and penetrates us; it binds the galaxy together.”  This is a perfect description of love in its purest form.  It’s everywhere, all around us.  We just have to recognize and engage with it.

We live in a society that frequently focuses on lack, scarcity, and competition.  The truth is, however, that we live in a universe of abundance, plenty, and compassion.  Recognizing the high frequency vibration of love opens us to receive this message, and to create more incredible things.

Unfortunately, it’s all too easy to lose sight of this.  So much negativity, hatred, contempt, greed, and a lack of empathy is expressed all across social media, it can be discouraging.  But because like attracts like, we can change it.

You have more love than you realize.

Today is Valentine’s Day.  I am going to state, certainly not for the first time, that I am not a fan of this particular holiday.  One of the things I dislike the most about this holiday is the expectation of artificial acts and expressions of love.  This is not a one-day-a-year thing, love is everyday.

Love is a much simpler construct than we tend to recognize.  It is the sun warming the world; the rain watering the flowers; the wind billowing the sails; a song bringing tears to your eyes.  It is almost unimaginable how vast the concept truly is, and how much it encompasses.  Love is a force for creating Positivity.

You are loved.  Doesn’t matter if you are married, dating, single, whatever.  You are loved.  The Powers-That-Be helped your core energy into the meat suit you’re roaming the planet within because you provide a value to the world.  Maybe you know what it is, and maybe you don’t, but you matter.  You are loved.

When we better recognize that we are loved, we become better empowered to consciously create reality.  That is why love is the highest frequency we can vibrate at.

There is one really important thing I want to clarify here.  Many people will tell you that they have been hurt by love.  Love stinks, is blind, deaf, dumb, and infuriating.  The truth is, however, that love cannot be the source of hurt.  Feeling a lack or scarcity of love is where we find and create hurt.  Also, when we mistake other emotions such as lust, obsession, longing, desire, and worship for love, they can be sources of hurt.

Further, we have far more control over how we feel than we generally take.  We tend, however, to let things linger that we should let go of.

Love empowers.

We all have things happen to us along the way that will cause us to feel bad.  The severity of some of these things will also cause feelings to linger.  Some are easier than others to let go of.  But there are things that happen to us that make us feel deep sadness, which it can be difficult to shake for any number of reasons.

Love can temper this.  This is because love is an emotion of empowerment.  When you recognize that you are loved, you can employ this to feel better.  It is through feeling loved that we can overcome anything, whether it’s physical, emotional, or spiritual.  When we see that we are loved, we can move mountains.

When you see that love is unbelievably abundant, you can manifest just about anything you can imagine.

Do you recognize and know, really KNOW, that you are, in fact, loved?


This is the three-hundred-twentieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

After more than 6 years of Pathwalking, I have launched a Patreon to garner support for these works, and more.

Please take a moment to subscribe to my blog (even if you did so before the blog was reformatted).  Fill in the info and click the submit button below and receive your free eBook.  Thank you!

Why is Feeling Joyful Important?

One of the goals of Pathwalking is to enhance the things in life that make us feel joyful.

I want to work on choosing the life I most desire to lead.  Consciousness creates reality, and I want to choose the reality that brings me joy and happiness.

JoyfulThis can be particularly challenging, especially in today’s society.  We are bombarded every day with horrid, awful, ugly, unpleasant things.  Terrible people, selfishness, greed, and a deluge of messages about lack and scarcity.  Maybe, if we are truly fortunate, for every ten pieces of negative information we receive one piece that’s positive and uplifting.

Because the overarching narrative of our society is one of insufficiency and deficiency, it is really important to keep focused on our own, personal awareness.  Being mindful of what we are thinking, feeling, and from there acting upon is key.

One of the issues that this brings up is selfishness.  Many of us have been raised to put others before ourselves.  That can be family, friends, coworkers, anybody.   We believe that the needs of the many always outweigh the needs of the one, and put ourselves last.  Or worse, when we do something for ourselves, we have to resist the feeling that we are being selfish…or else do twice as many things for other people to make up for it.

Finding things that make us feel joyful is not selfish.  Why?  Because when we feel joyful, we spread that to others.  Like sorrow and grief and all the negative emotions, holding onto and expressing positive emotions is contagious.

What’s the difference between joy and happiness?  For the purpose of this post, it boils down to the abstract versus the emotion.  The concept of happy is broad and vague.  Joyful, however, is a more readily defined emotional state.

Joyful thoughts, feelings and actions create happiness.

What makes me happy is not necessarily the same as what makes you happy.  Perfect example – fencing.  I have been fencing for more than half my life now.  Almost without fail, if I am having a bad day, when I fence it makes me feel happy.  I take great joy in fencing, and while it is slightly less when I am not at my best, it’s still there.  Similarly, writing makes me happy.  I love spilling words out of my head and onto the page or screen.

There are people who find fencing ludicrous and silly.  I know people who find putting down words thoroughly challenging, and unpleasant.  What makes each of us feel joyful and develops happiness varies wildly.  But the importance of manifesting things that make us happy is almost immeasurable.

It is easy to get lost in the seas of social media.  Twitter, Facebook, and don’t even get me started on the rabbit hole that is Pinterest.  However, when we start to focus on the negativity, and see all the greedy, selfish, terrible people in positions of leadership and authority, it can be really hard to find things that bring us joy.

But that makes it even more important that we pause, and be mindful and aware of our thoughts, our feelings, and subsequent actions we take.  If we are holding onto negativity, we tend to create and draw more to us.  How many times, when you felt bad, did you manage to keep finding things to make yourself feel even worse?  That’s conscious reality creation…or, when we are not being mindful, unconscious or subconscious reality creation.

As I traverse the paths of my life, I strive to find opportunities to develop and experience more joy.

Creating joyful things draws more joyful things out.

Neglecting ourselves for the sake of others and sacrificing our goals, our happiness, and anything else is not the noble notion many give it.  Why?  Because it makes the following statement:  Because there is not enough, I will go without.  When we sacrifice our time, energy, money, and so on for other people, we tell ourselves that it’s noble and good in order to counter the negative feelings sacrifice tends to produce.  When we give and give and give of ourselves, but then do no self-care, we deplete what we have.

If the universe is abundant, aren’t we, as extensions of the universe, also abundant?  Yes…but while the universe is made of infinite energy, the energy contained in the meat-suits we occupy on this planet is finite.  This is why we rest, meditate and sleep.  We need to restore our energies, in order to have enough on any given day.  When we sacrifice ourselves, we deplete that energy, and if we deplete too much we get depressed, sick, and even so ill as to threaten our physical existence.

When we take care of ourselves, we have more to share.  This is applicable to the spiritual, emotional and physical levels.  When we do joyful things we build up our reserves, and become more capable of giving more.  When we have more, we can give more.  It’s a stunningly simple concept we still feel we can mostly ignore.

It is not selfish to care for ourselves.  There is a fine line between giving and giving away from a lack mentality.  Giving comes from the heart, and makes us feel good.  Giving away comes from the head, and we have to tell ourselves we’ve done good to counter feeling bad.  Sound familiar?

Let go of any guilt feeling joyful might bring.

This is one of the larger issues we are facing as a society right now.  When so many people have it so bad, how can I feel joyful?  We see all this negativity, and when we find our own positivity, we might just find ourselves feeling guilty for that.

There will always be someone who is experiencing loss, grief, sadness, depression, distress, and every negative emotion you can imagine.  Empathy and compassion are important, but that does not mean we should not do things for ourselves that make us feel joyful.  Why?  Because the law of attraction states that like attracts like.  Feed the negative, it grows.

Every single one of us has had an experience where we were feeling good, and then someone grieving or injured or otherwise hurt happened by.  Suddenly, we feel guilty that we feel good when they feel awful.  This is empathy.  It’s a natural feeling, but we do not need to cease to be happy for them, but rather empathize, show compassion, and let go of the guilt.  Eventually those people will be past their unhappiness, and then your joy can help make them feel good again, too.

Be kind.  Be loving.  Let yourself find joy in the paths you are walking.  Consciousness creates reality, and when we are joyful we can manifest amazing things.

What makes you feel joyful?


This is the three-hundred-nineteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

After more than 6 years of Pathwalking, I will be launching a Patreon to garner support for these works, and more.

Please take a moment to subscribe to my blog (even if you did so before the blog was reformatted).  Fill in the info and click the submit button below and receive your free eBook.  Thank you!

How Do We Work Together?

We are stronger when we work together than when we work apart.

Pathwalking may be an individual act, but that does not mean it happens in a vacuum.  Humans are social creatures.  We have people whom we interact with every day on every imaginable level.  Working with each other instead of against one another can take us even further than we might hope.

Work TogetherModern society has an unfortunate tendency to work from a divide-and-conquer approach.  We are inundated with messages of lack, insufficiency, and competition.  We are divided along every imaginable line, from race to gender to height to religion to nationality to education, and any other trait you can conceive of.

Because of the pervasive messages of greed and hoarding, we find it increasingly hard to believe that this is an abundant universe.  When we are told over and over again about how we need to take for ourselves before this, that or the other thing runs out, we become divided further.

I have written before that Pathwalking is not a selfish act, but every path we may be taking is unique to us as individuals.  My paths are not your paths.  Certainly there might be similarities, but they are still not the same.

Most importantly here, though, is recognizing that as we walk our individual paths, and work towards our specific goals, we aren’t denying anyone else theirs.  Me acquiring the things I want from life doesn’t prevent you from doing the same.  That is what living in an abundant universe is all about.

Because we are stronger when we work together, we have the ability to offer each other assistance, support, and love along the paths we traverse.  This empowers all of us, and that is good for everyone.

Work together as individuals.

Celebrating our diversity is a good thing.  We are, each and every one of us, unique creatures.  We look different, we think, feel and act differently from one another.  Yet we are also social creatures, and we are abundant across this planet.

Our diversity is not something that should tear us apart, it should help us to work together.  Celebrating what makes us each unique is an opportunity to learn from one another, and to grow not only as individuals, but as a society.  Celebrating our diversity will let us work together more, and develop abundance.

We will always find things to disagree about.  Again, this is part of human nature.  Empathic people think, feel and act differently from non-empaths.  There are people who work from the heart, and people who work from the head.  People can be emotional, logical, illogical, and everything in between.  The number of things available to separate us are stunning, but are not greater than the number of things that bring us together.

How is that possible?  Because this is an abundant universe.  There is more than enough of all the things we desire.  Lack, greed and insufficiency sells better than abundance and prosperity for all.  I believe this is why we are so frequently bombarded by such.

I wrote about community recently, and how important it is to our wellbeing.  One the biggest and most important communities in my life has experienced matters that made us work together, and soon after new matters that tore us apart.  The former was empowering, despite the sadness and grief that brought everyone together.  The latter stoked anger, division, and intolerance, disempowering us.  Two extremes in far too short a span of time.

It is during these types of situations that we are sorely tested.

Work together as communities.

Why did we form a given community in the first place?  Yes, there are communities we are born into and others we move into.  But there are also communities we choose for ourselves.  Whether it’s a religion, a fandom or social community, those which we choose are chosen because they provide us with something we need or want.  That can encompass a lot of different things, of course.

No matter how much we hold in common, we will have disagreements.  People do stupid things.  Everybody, and I mean everybody, is perfectly imperfect in their own way.  There are times when it is necessary to counter things that happen, and demand action.  So long as there is inaction, protest and positive resistance are called for.

This can take time.  This can divide our communities in unexpected ways.  As such, it’s imperative to be mindful of our words, our thoughts, and our actions.  When we work together we can build better.  When we break apart, everything can, and probably will, crumble.

I am not in any way advocating for accepting something you disagree with.  What I am suggesting is that we need to be more mindful of dividing and tearing ourselves apart.  When we allow ourselves to be broken, we make it ever more difficult to empower, and to build greater things.

Is there a way to work together for change rather than be torn apart?  This is something all-too important that we do not give sufficient energy to.  Consciousness creates reality.  When we are aware, we can manifest almost anything we can imagine.

Be mindful.  Remain aware.  Work together when you can with as many as you can, and we can change the negative messages and make this world a better place for everyone.

Work together to raise frequencies.

The collective consciousness can draw in people who are not conscious creators.  That’s how we manifest things we don’t want, because our focus and attention is to negativity.  When we work together, we can build anything we can imagine.  Did Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. change the message of racial hatred and intolerance with division?  No, he did it by bringing people together.  Buddha and Jesus advocated inclusion and love for one another.  These greats recognized that when we work together, we can make the world a better place.

Choose wisely when you are faced with difficulties, no matter what they are.  Don’t let yourself be divided and conquered by life.

Who do you choose to work together with for the paths you are walking?

This is the three-hundred-eighteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

Please take a moment to subscribe to my blog (even if you did so before the blog was reformatted).  Fill in the info and click the submit button below and receive your free eBook.  Thank you!

What Is Tenacity?

Tenacity, like patience, has never been my strongest suit.

One of the keys to succeeding at reaching the destination of any given path, though, is tenacious resolve.

What does it mean to have tenacity?  It is best described as the ability to stick-to whatever you are trying to make happen.  I often picture this as a dog with her jaws fastened to a stick she just will not relinquish.  She would rather hold onto it then let it go, even to be thrown.  That is tenacious resolve.

TenacityIn the steps of conscious reality creation (thought, feeling and action), tenacity is particularly important to feeling.  This is where unwavering resolve in feeling the desired goal, as though it is already complete, is so incredibly important.

Most of the great inventors who have changed the world had a singular vision.  They saw the thing they wanted to create.  Maybe they knew how it could come about, but likely they didn’t.  Still, they believed.  They felt it in their soul as being real.  Nothing would derail them from their feeling that they could make their invention happen.  That’s what it is all about.

Manifestation of anything we desire begins with thought.  I have this idea.  Then, we have to give that thought feeling.  It feels amazing to see this idea become reality.  Having the idea in my possession improves my lifeThis idea makes me happy.  Yes, the initial feeling is going to likely look ahead.  But visceral feelings in the here-and-now are how we consciously create reality and make the idea manifest.

From the thought and feeling there will be intentional action.  I am making a list of all the cool things the idea, manifested, will let into my life or I am inspired to take this action for the idea.

Tenacity is the difference between “Try” and “Do”.

How often do I refer to this quote from Yoda?  “Try not…do, or do not…there is no try!”  The reason Yoda tells Like this is because he needs to fully believe in no other outcome but what he is aiming for.  To mentally prepare to try can leave room for doubt.  Try is soft, and opens us up to letting go.  Well, I tried becomes an excuse to quit.

Doing is much more solid.  I did it is a bold, solid statement.  Even if it takes multiple attempts, I did it a dozen times before I got it done is still completion.

Even if, at the conclusion, you didn’t get the end result you intended, you did the thing.  Failure still teaches.  Yoda states this rather plainly, too.  “The greatest teacher, failure is.”  Often we learn more from failing than we do from succeeding.

How does that work?  When I started working after college, over my career I have worked for a lot of different companies.  In multiple instances, I watched them make mistakes and do things poorly, so I was unsurprised when they failed.  It is my belief that I learned more about how to run a business and manage people by seeing how NOT to run a business and mange people.  Those failures were excellent teachers.

Still, for a long time I continued to bounce from job to job.  Often something about a given job just wasn’t the right fit for me.  I recognized that I should probably be my own boss.

Over the years I played with numerous business ideas.  I even started a small business for a multitude of small business consulting options.  I can come up with a lot of reason why it didn’t work out, but the truth is – I lacked the tenacity.

Tenacity gets the job done.

Because I didn’t give my business the attention it deserved, it didn’t go anywhere.  It didn’t fail, it just didn’t do anything.  I had a job here and there, but I didn’t push.  There was some attempts to promote and market myself, but in truth all I can say here is that I tried.  And because that was all the energy I gave this idea, and I didn’t just DO for my business, it faded out.

It has now been six years since I began Pathwalking.  This has caused some very positive changes in my life.  Yet I am still not exactly where I want to be.  Why?  Tenacity.  I try a lot, but I don’t do as frequently.  This inaction keeps me where I am…not quite where I want to be.

I have the thought.  I know how it should feel.  That is where I get stuck.  Sometimes this is self-sabotage, rooted in my long-time fear of abandonment due to success or failure.  There are times I lack the necessary ambition to push when I know that I should.  There are as many excuses as drops of water in the ocean, but the truth is I need more tenacity.

To that end, I am blogging here three times a week, and have redesigned the concept of the entire blog.  Every other week I am writing up some sort of blog post to my author website, too.  Still, I could be writing more than I am, and researching options to better promote and sell my novels.  This is where I need to work on being more tenacious.

If I am going to walk the path to becoming a best-selling author, I know what I need to do.

No room for doubt, be tenacious!

Recently, I completed a 21 day course from Jen Sincero for changing a habit.  As she points out, 80% of the people who pay for such a course do not complete it.  Why?  They do not use their tenacity to see it through.

Pathwalking to achieve conscious reality creation requires a lot of stick-to-itiveness, or rather, tenacity.  Recognizing this, I can see what more I need to do to manifest my desires.  I know where I need to focus my feelings with more willfulness.

I am writer.  Which means that I need to work on everything that will hone my craft.  Tenaciously.

What have you pursued tenaciously?


This is the three-hundred-seventeenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

Please take a moment to subscribe to my blog (even if you did so before the blog was reformatted).  Fill in the info and click the submit button below and receive your free eBook.  Thank you!

How Does Loss Effect You?

Loss is a part of Pathwalking.

Because life is ever changing, and because we are not static creatures, we will experience losses along our paths.  Some are good for us, some less so.  The hardest loss to take is that of a friend or loved one.

When we lose people, grief is different for every one of us.  In a society where we often look at the “norms”, how we grieve is one of those things that no two people manage the same.

LossSome people go numb.  Others get really angry.  Depression and sadness are typical.  Almost any emotion you can think of may come from loss.  There is no right or wrong way to feel this, even when you might feel nothing.

This week has been a challenge because I have lost two people who held different places in my heart.  The world has dimmed some due to their absence from it.

I know how I handle grief is unique to me.  Overall, I think about the impression people have made on me when they were here.  Yes, I will miss them, but I tend to give most of my energy to remembering the good moments I was fortunate enough to share with those I have lost along the way.

For me, there is a detachment that comes of my grief.  I tend to take a more clinical approach to my losses, and while I am sad that someone is gone from my life, I think because of how I see everything as energy, I don’t think of them as truly lost.

“Luminous beings are we…not this crude matter,” Yoda said.  And I believe that is the truth.  When we leave these earthly vessels, we become a new form of energy.  As such, nobody is truly lost.

Grief over loss, whatever form it takes, can alter our paths.

Often, when we suffer a loss, it will cause a certain amount of reflection.  When it is a permanent loss, such as death, this can shift how we approach our path in life.

Expected or unexpected, losing a loved one can create a pretty major change in how you continue on.  Everybody needs time to adjust to such a change, and when we are understanding of this we can be of the most help in these times.  Some adjust quickly, some not so much.

Whether or not a loss alters the paths you are walking, it is important to keep moving forward.  It is my belief that the people we care about and lose would most want us to keep on in their absence.  They would want us to continue living, growing, and choosing paths for ourselves.

Again, I am not in any way discounting grief.  My point here is that it’s important to still go on, keep living our own lives, and let the memories of those we have lost strengthen us.

It is my belief that everyone we encounter in our lives serves some purpose.  Friends, lovers, acquaintances, coworkers, even random drivers who cut us off on the highway teach us things.  They enter into our lives for a finite period of time, and have some sort of impact on us.

Losing the people we care about also impacts us.  The light that they shared with us is gone.  But I like to remember that the fire has only dimmed, because they will live on in my memory.  Whether this will impact my path or not, I will occasionally turn my eye to that fire, and let the memories warm me.

Loss can provide strength.

In the immediate aftermath of a loss, we feel grief, hurt, anger, numbness, frustration, rage, depression, fear, and/or any combination of these.  We can and will experience almost any conceivable emotion.  When we accept this, and let the feeling flow through us, we can let go of what we do not need and hold onto what we do.

Consciousness creates reality.  Because we have control over only our own individual existences, things can and will happen that will throw us off.  We will find ourselves focused on things that are negative.  These feelings are no less valid, unless we let them dominate and control us.

Nobody’s life is entirely absent of negativity.  In part this is because we need to feel the bad to appreciate the good, and everything in between.  Whatever form grief takes for you, in time it will fade.  It may always leave a pang, because there is a hole in our hearts from these losses.  But we can and will go on.

Sometimes loss will strengthen our resolve.  We want to do better than we are now.  It can cause us to choose to live bigger, love deeper, and take on the world in order to best effect it.  In the memory of those who are gone, we can improve ourselves, and feel more empowered to control our lives.

I will miss the two I lost this week.  But I know that both would encourage me to continue on with my dreams, my goals and aspirations.  I will do everything I can to be the best me I can be, and honor their memories.

How do you handle loss?


This is the three-hundred-sixteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

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How Does Praise Empower?

Everybody likes to receive praise.

When you do a thing, and you do it well, receiving praise for it feels amazing.  It is incredibly empowering, and it serves as an affirmation of the choices you make along the way.

For whatever reason, though, our modern society eschews praise.  We have an almost surreal talent for criticism, but when it comes to praise, we seem to display something of an aversion to it.

PraiseI suspect that one of the reasons for this is because there is a backlash borne of false praise.  When we over-emphasize the celebration of mediocrity, and heap praise for simple participation, we disempower in the interest of inclusion.  We praise all, or we praise none.

Yet we are almost obsessed with criticism.  Now don’t get me wrong, there are situations where this is completely called for, like politics.  An example of where this is over-the-top is when it comes to celebrities.  There is an entire industry of media focused on what they wear, their level of fitness, whom they are dating, and so on.  Snarking at celebrities is accepted as the price they pay for being public figures.

Unfortunately, this carries over to everyone else.  People tend to criticize and comment on the people in their lives with far more negativity than positivity.  What we forget is that, while we don’t actually do these things maliciously, they impact the people around us and lower all of our frequencies.

Consciousness creates reality.  When you are focused on the flaws and negatives of the people around you, that is what you draw more of to you.  It does bounce back.  Heap criticism and comments at people, and they will be returned to you.  This, in turn, makes nobody feel terribly empowered.

Praise raises our frequencies.

Everything in the universe is based in energy.  All energy has a frequency.  Low frequencies are made of low feelings, low energy.  High frequencies are made of high feelings and high energy.  The low makes us feel bad, the high makes us feel good.

This is why praise matters.  A lot of work environments people experience involve trying to avoid criticism and disapproval, thus cultivating low vibrations and frequencies.  Avoiding getting judged by our bosses and coworkers is not empowering, and doesn’t feel good.

When we work in an environment where praise is given for jobs well done, achievements that are made, and good performance, we are empowered.  This type of environment cultivates high vibration and frequencies.  Working for reward is empowering, and feels good.

I can’t think of anyone who does not prefer to be rewarded over being penalized.  Being given an accolade feels good and empowers us to continue to perform at high energy.  When we receive penalties and judgements if we do not meet a given standard, we are disempowered, and likely to continue to find little or no satisfaction in what we do.

Is it easier to criticize than to praise?  No.  However, I think because a lot of energy was given to praising for simply participation and averageness, praise comes less easily.

Again, it’s important to look at our society.  Everywhere you look people are being criticized and judged for anything you can imagine.  While some is justifiable, like in the case of our government, much of it is not.  While the majority is not intended to be mean, it still lowers the vibrational frequencies of our energy.  Thus, we are great at making ourselves and others feel bad.

Like pretty much everything in the world, starting small can snowball.

Be aware of whether you are offering praise or judgement.

It starts with us.  How often do you wind up talking about someone you care about or love critically?  Does it come rather easily?  Is your criticism more observational than malicious?  How does it make you feel?

I love my friends and family, but I am frequently being critical of things they do.  It doesn’t come from a place of spite or intentional meanness.  I think it’s a matter of comparison to my own thought processes on a given situation.

The challenge is to be aware.  Oh, look, something else that comes down to awareness of the here-and-now.  When I am thinking about the people in my life, when I am critical of their actions, I am lowering all of our frequencies.  Ergo, it is up to me to consider this, and change my reactions consciously.

One of the best ways to do this is to find reasons and means to praise.  If I can offer praise I am raising all of our frequencies.  Praise makes everyone feel good, and when we feel good, we choose more wisely, and I believe consciously, our thoughts, feelings and actions.

Recognize false praise and constructive criticism.

Two words of caution here.  First – false praise.  Praising for mediocrity can be as disempowering as criticism.  Wow, you got out of bed this morning – good for you! is rather mocking.  This is where we lose the power praise can generate.  Praise can still be for simple things, such as you look good today or I like that shirt on you or you are raising incredible kids.

Second – constructive criticism.  This is a real thing, and can actually be empowering.  Criticism feels bad.  That pie you baked wasn’t very good makes you feel lousy.  Thank you for baking that pie.  Could I offer some flavoring suggestions? might still be awkward, but opens the door to dialogue rather than judgement.  There are times people need help to improve in some way or other.

Praise can be incredibly empowering.  When you are walking a path you have chosen for yourself, praise goes a long ways to make the journey better.  Consider how criticism and praise make you feel, be aware of how you are thinking and speaking about people around you.  Raise everyone’s frequency by offering praise.

Like I said in Positivity this week – You are amazing.  No matter if we know one another or not, I want you to know that I believe you are amazing, and can do incredible things.

What praise have you offered of late?


This is the three-hundred-fifteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

Please take a moment to subscribe to my blog (even if you did so before the blog was reformatted).  Fill in the info and click the submit button below and receive your free eBook.  Thank you!

Why Start Pathwalking?

Why did I start Pathwalking six years ago?

When I decided that I needed to blog weekly, I came up with this idea.  Pathwalking is the living, breathing process of using consciousness to create reality in order to manifest the life I most desire.

Consciousness creates reality.  How do I know this?  Because I have done it.  I know that when we are aware and totally present in the here-and-now, we can build our existence however we most desire for it to be.  We are only as limited as we believe or disbelieve.

One of the largest issues I have faced with this process has been my ability to be in the here-and-now.  Often, I find myself thinking ahead or looking back.  More dangerous than that, though, I allow myself to become distracted with things happening way outside of myself in the here-and-now over which I have no control.

You don’t have to spend all that much time on Facebook or Twitter to encounter messages of lack, intolerance, hatred, and numerous other forms of negativity.  Truth be told, if we spend too much time focused on this, not only will we lose hope, but we will also believe the world is an awful, terrible place going straight to hell in a handbasket.

StartYes, there are some pretty terrible things happening out there.  Greed, corruption, a lack in compassion and empathy appear to be at an all-time high.  Things are difficult for many people in the world today.  But the truth of it is…things are not nearly so dire as they may appear.

How can I say that?  Because the vast majority of people out there are simply going through the motions and living their lives.  They experience triumphs and tragedies along the way, but overall they simply live.

We can start to look for the better things out there.

The news media, whatever form it takes, is going to aim at sensationalism.  It really doesn’t seem to matter if there is bias or not, they are going to shout something loud and intriguing to get your attention.  More often than not, they will spin negatively, because getting people angry, no matter which side they are on, sells.

Yes, it sells.  When the sales pitches are fear, lack, scarcity and us-versus-them, usually we are having something sold to us.  And let’s face it, when we are told there is a limited supply or that we don’t want the other guy to have an advantage over us, we tend to buy.

It is for this reason that it’s so important to start being aware of our own lives, right here, right now.  Why?  Because the only thing we have any control over, directly, is our own lives.  It is our individual thoughts, feelings and actions that we can have any true influence over.

Rather than be concerned with things out of our control, we need to alter our focus to those things we can change.  What I am thinking about, feeling through and intentionally acting upon is going to allow me to manifest my life.

Unless, of course, I let my subconscious do most of the heavy lifting.  When we do not work in the here-and-now and be mindful of how we think, our subconscious will take over, and we will wind up not being where we want to be.

I have refined the process of Pathwalking over the years, but I am still developing it.  I expect, because this is how life works in general, that I will always be developing it.

Start now, not later, to change focus.

I recently signed up for an online course by Jen Sincero, author of my favorite self-help book, You Are A Badass.  She is witty, clever, funny, and an engaging writer and speaker.  The course is in releasing old habits that do not serve for new ones that do.

There are several habits I hold onto which I believe are interfering with my Pathwalking.  One of the primary methods for building new habits is repetition.  As such, I have created what Jen Sincero calls a “Mantra of Mightiness” that I am repeating frequently, in order to better empower myself.

Conscious reality creation will start to become manifestation when you see only one outcome.  You may not know exactly how you will get to the place you want to be, and the total details might be vague.  But there is no doubt, no second-guessing, no other option but success in manifesting what you are desiring.

This can be ginormous.  It can also be microscopically small.  But that doesn’t matter, because the more we consciously create our realities, the better realities we can make for ourselves.  This, in turn, can show other people they, too, can do better.

Pathwalking is not just a philosophy, but a practice.  The best way to start is to become aware of your thoughts in the here-and-now.  Once you have this awareness, you can examine your feelings as well.  After that, it gets easier to find intentional actions to take.  It is from intentional actions that we manifest that which we are desiring.

Another key factor I need to reconcile myself with is that this needs to start fresh every single day.  When I start letting my day go by rote, and routines and patterns set in, my subconscious will be doing the driving.

Start anew every day.

Every single day is new.  No matter how similar today may be to yesterday, it’s a new day.  There are differences, and variations to everything.  Some of these are noticeable while others are not.  The really cool thing about this is that no matter how awful the day before was, today has the potential to be whatever you want it to be.

I know things outside of our control happen all the time that can make any given day unpleasant.  We are emotional creatures, and bad things happen because that’s the nature of the Universe.  Bad things happen so that we will know the good things.  When we start by anticipating bad things, we set our subconscious loose to run the show.  Right here, in this moment, in the here-and-now, we can sit down in the driver’s seat and take this bus anywhere we really want to be.

I hope that this new year brings you down an incredible path.

What new thought processes will you start today?


This is the three-hundred-fourteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Please take a moment to subscribe to my blog (even if you did so before the blog was reformatted).  Fill in the info and click the submit button below and receive your free eBook.  Thank you!

How is Purpose the Same as Intent?

Action with intent or purpose is far more powerful than action for the sake of itself.

Consciousness creates reality.  In order to use this to manifest the end goal or desire, we need to think, feel, and then take intentional action.  I have spent a lot of time writing about thought and feeling, but less on action.

Action needs to have intent.  It needs to be done with a purpose in mind.  Action simply to complete the trifecta with thought and feeling does little to energize conscious reality creation.

Why does this matter?  Because in order to manifest our destinies, we have to energize the process.  If we do not give it energy, we haven’t gotten all that far past the thought.

Everybody gets ideas.  The range in size, shape, color, usefulness, and so on.  This is how things get created to make the world a better place.  Idea is another word for thought.  Thought is the starting point for creation of any kind.

Some people, however, over-power thought itself.  We get caught up in the idea that positive thinking will make our lives better, or that we can think ourselves to a better place than we already are at.  Thought gets treated as a quick fix.

While it’s true that positive thinking matters, and we are able to think things into being, it is only one step in the process.  It is the starting point for everything else to work off of.  This is the first step in a multiple step process.

Modern society has become obsessed with quick-fixes.  We want to lose weight now, get rich quick, connect online instantly, go zero to sixty in less than three seconds, and so on.  One step is all we want, requiring more takes too long.

Acting with purpose drives our manifestation ability.

The notion of intent can feel challenging sometimes.  You need to intend a result, and sometimes in the process of conscious reality creation you just don’t know what you will get.  This is why thinking about intent as purpose or an objective might feel more empowering.

So we have to take steps.  First, yes, there is thought.  Once the thought has come into existence, you need to feel it.  Thought by itself is merely a notion, speculation, or something equally interesting, but ultimately powerless.  But when you attach feeling and emotion to the thought, now it gets energized.

I think I can provide a really clear analogy of just how this works.  Thought is a lamp.  Feeling is plugging the lamp into a power source.  Action is not just turning the lamp on, but the flicking of the switch to turn it on.  That is intentional action; taking an action with purpose, with the goal in focus.

Due to the instant gratification/quick fix society we live in, this can feel like a lot of work.  I had an idea, and now I need to feel it and do something to make it happen.  How the hell do I figure out what that something is?  I think this is why many good ideas never get realized.  We know the what, but not the how.

I have previously written about getting caught-up in the how of things.  Conscious reality creation for manifestation of any given goal often hasn’t a clue about how to make this happen.  But this is part of why action with purpose matters.  You’ve had the thought, you are feeling it out, and from there some logical, intentional action may come to mind.

Action with purpose might be smaller than you think.

I know that I frequently think that the things I want to manifest are pretty big.  Let’s face it, becoming a best-selling author and high-demand self-help personality are pretty large goals.  The very notion of creating this feels enormous, somewhat overwhelming…and possibly impossible.  And don’t even get me started on the how.

The thing to keep in mind (yes, I am in part reminding myself here) is that everything big starts out small.  The Universe is getting bigger every second, but it began mind-numbingly smaller.  Yoda said it well when he said, “Size matters not.”  As such, a purposeful action to empower manifestation might take far less effort than we think.

How so?  Let me get personal.  I desire to become a best-selling author.  The books have been completed and I have published them.  Now it’s a matter of getting them to sell.  This is the path I desire to walk.  I have only the vaguest idea of how to do this.

Thought: I AM a best-selling author.  If I keep saying “I want to be” that puts it ALWAYS in the future.  That’s the nature of conscious reality creation.  So now I need to change the thought to the here-and-now, and bring it into the present.  I AM a best-selling author.

Feeling:  With those words on my mind and in my heart, what does this feel like?  How does it feel to be a best-selling author?  I need to visualize my name on a best-seller’s list, feel how excited that makes me.  I need to feel how it will feel to be in demand to do signings and talk about my work.  In the here-and-now, I need to feel how wonderful this achievement feels.  Not down-the-line, not eventually…I need to feel it, right here, right now.

Purposeful action is empowering.

Action: I need to write, not type, the phrase “I am a best-selling author” over and over.  I need to fill a page with this.  As I write it out, I need to feel it, as though it really is happening, here-and-now.  I could write out an interview about my process and my work, explaining how I have made this happen.  Maybe I should brainstorm ideas for marketing my books.  All of these are intentional actions.  All of these actions have a purpose, and are a step in the process of manifestation.

If this feels foolish, ludicrous, or like total hooky-spooky crap…then this won’t work at all.  I recognize that this might not work.  But every step counts.  Doing these small things have the potential to lead to bigger and better things.  These actions with purpose could open channels I have not considered before that will help me along to my goal.

Thank you for walking the path with me today.

What actions with purpose are you taking for your goals?


This is the three-hundred-thirteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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How Does a Pathwalker Be a Giver?

Givers get as much as they give.

A lot of people do not recognize this for how powerful it is.  But the power of giving, when it comes from a place of abundance, actually creates more to be given.

Pathwalking is about finding the path for ourselves.  Taking control over our own individual destiny, making use of conscious reality creation to manifest the life we desire to live.

One of the key reasons behind Pathwalking, at least for me, is to make the best use of the skills I have.  I want to use my talents not only as a writer, but as an empathic intuitive to do some really cool things.

As such, there is a lot of giving involved in this.  I don’t just want to do the things I want to do for myself.  I want to share them.  To be a giver, I want to put myself out there to do what I can to make the world a better place.

We are living in particularly trying times.  There is a constant, seemingly never-ending flood of negativity, lack, and artificial competition washing over us through social media.  Resisting and countering this can be trying at best, and sometimes utterly exhausting.

Paulo Coelho wrote a book called Warrior of the Light.  I cannot recommend this book enough (alongside The Alchemist, which is one of my very favorite books).  The notion of a Warrior of the Light is very similar to Pathwalking.  It is full of anecdotes for how to achieve our individual destinies, and do good in the world.

I have often written about how Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  To properly define this, it is necessary to understand the fundamental difference between a giver and a taker.

What’s the difference between a giver and a taker?

I mentioned this briefly in this week’s Positivity post, but it totally bears repeating.  A giver will give their time, their energy, their assistance from a place of openness, abundance and a desire to make a difference.  This is sometimes great, and sometimes small.

A taker, on the other hand, takes the time, energy and assistance from others and hoards it.  They express no gratitude, and expect you to give them more and more, with little or no thought about anyone but themselves.  They also generally believe in lack, and that there is not enough to share with anyone else.  If they do give, they do so expecting something in return.

To be a giver requires a lot less than most people think.  Smile at a stranger.  Hold a door.  Let that guy into your lane on the road.  Seemingly insignificant bits, perhaps, but they add up, and they build positivity.  They also feel good to do.

Some takers are unintentional.  Upbringing, poor examples, various and sundry other issues.  Most, because they believe there is finite amounts of most things, take and hoard because they believe that if they don’t, there won’t be enough.  Takers are usually selfish.

This is why Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  Most of the people seeking to walk their own path in life and consciously create their own reality, are givers.  Why?  Because working in the here-and-now, as Pathwalking frequently requires, makes us more aware.  When we are aware, we see our impact on other people.  To manifest abundance, we need to think, feel and act on abundance.  This, frankly, makes us a giver.

Further, by giving, we tell the Universe that we believe there is more-than-enough.  A giver expresses their belief that because of the abundance in the Universe, you can share.

Being a giver is both tangible and intangible.

There are many tangible things we can give people.  Hugs, money, and numerous other items.  Most giving, frankly, is intangible.  Smiles, ideas, a shoulder to cry on, and so forth.

A lot of people see selflessness as this enormous, grandiose gesture.  The thing is, it can be.  But for the most part, it’s little things.  Being selfless means being a giver, and that takes much less than people realize.

My friend needs help researching something.  I provide a contact to someone with the knowledge to help.  A loved one needs to vent about a situation.  I call, and we talk.  You, like me, are trying to manifest your destiny.  I share my struggles and my path to help you work on yours. In all of these scenarios, I am not asking for anything in return.  There are no conditions associated with what I do.  This is what being a giver is all about.

This is one of the biggest and most important differences between a giver and a taker, the selfless and the selfish.  A giver seeks nothing in return.  A taker expects something for anything they give.  The selfless person gives because it feels good to give.  The selfish person might give, but they do so to prop themselves up somehow, and do so to gain something in return.

It is important, however, to recognize the difference between giving and sacrificing.  Giving is from a place of abundance, and is about sharing plenty.  Sacrificing is from a place of lack, and is about going without in order to let another have something.  Sacrificing is nearly as unhealthy at being a taker.  Sure, you give, but you then go without because you think there isn’t enough.  Going without to give is not healthy giving.

A giver recognizes an abundant universe.

I give because I believe that there is plenty where that comes from.  Whatever it is, tangible or intangible, giving makes me feel good.  It is a lot easier to find and walk any given path when I can share my work on it.  That is a big part of what giving is all about.

Givers get as much, maybe even more, as they give.

What do you do to be a giver?


This is the three-hundred-twelfth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Please take a moment to subscribe to this blog!  Even if you have done so before, there is new material, and a gift with your subscription.

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