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How Powerful Can Thank You Be?

Thank You are two of the most powerful words available to us.  Thank you is one of the most powerful phrases we can employ.

We frequently neglect just how powerful the words we use are.  Words matter.  What we say has an enormous impact on the world around us.

When we recognize how powerful our words are, we develop the power to make more of the world around us.  We can choose to alter our feelings, perspective, and world view with words.

This is true whether our choices are conscious or subconscious.  What we think about frequently develops feelings.  When we combine thought and feeling together, we can manifest almost anything we can think of.

This is why recognizing powerful words and phrases is important.  Because there is so much power within them, we need to use caution in our self-expression.

Awareness here is important, because when we are aware of our conscious thought in the here-and-now, we are better at having control over our lives.  When mindful of our conscious thought, we make choices about the words and phrases we energize, and that in turn effects what we manifest.

What are the most powerful phrases we have?  I certainly could not rank them, but in addition to Thank You, they include I Am, Please, You’re Welcome, I Love You, I Can, and I Do.  All of these are empowering phrases, capable of creating amazing things.

Gratitude is the keystone to conscious reality creation.  When we have gratitude for that which we have, material or immaterial, we let the Universe know we are appreciative.  Showing appreciation opens channels of positive energy, and empowerment, and that can create almost anything.  Gratitude for what we have creates room to bring in other things we want.

Thank You feels good, and shows appreciation.

Saying Thank You makes me feel good.  Hearing someone thank me for something makes me feel good.  Thank You generates positivity.  Gratitude for people, places, things, tangibles and intangibles alike says to the Universe, yes, I appreciate what is in my life.  Appreciation is both recognition and understanding.   Recognizing things for which to be grateful opens us to more understanding.  Consciousness creates reality.

When we are aware of this power, Thank You becomes a powerful phrase.  Everything in this universe at its core is energy.  Energy vibrates at a frequency, and like attracts like.  When your frequency of appreciation is high, you draw more things to you to appreciate.  You gain the ability to make more things to express gratitude for.

Because Thank You is so powerful, it is important to use this for the expression of genuine gratitude.  How frequently has Thanks Obama been used as a negative connotation?  Thanks for nothing is a statement of disempowerment.  As such, anytime we use Thank You in respects to things we DO NOT want, guess what we wind up attracting?

All of these powerful phrases work in this way.  When you say I Am Stupid it’s just as potent as saying I Am BrilliantPlease leave me alone carries a different energy than Please when asking for another cup of coffee.  You’re Welcome to do it better is equal in power to You’re Welcome spoken in gratitude.  I Can Do Nothing disempowers, whereas I Can Do Anything empowers.  I Do Not Know carries a different weight from I Do Know.  Even I Love You, while an expression of the most powerful energetic force in the Universe, can turn to negative when it is mistaken for obsession or possession.

Use Thank You to invoke empowerment.

As one of the most powerful phrases we have available to us, we are responsible for its use.  Using Thank You for genuine gratitude invokes empowerment.  We empower ourselves by expressing gratitude, and we empower those around us by giving it.

Human beings often fail to realize how much power we possess.  Because our society gets so caught up in fear and lack, we don’t see that the reality of the situation is one of joy and abundance.  We can choose how to feel, whether we let the fear overwhelm us or seek joy.  The Universe is abundant, the only lack we have is what we create for ourselves.

Employing these powerful phrases we have for empowerment can change the world.  Perpetuating the fear, anger, hatred, greed, corruption and intolerance we deluge our social mediascapes in only creates more things to feel negative towards.  Yes, there are bad people out there doing bad things on all kinds of different levels, and we cannot just ignore them.  But we can choose to change the conversation, direct it away from negativity, single-mindedness and lack to positivity, open-mindedness and abundance.

Thank You redirects the conversation.

This is why employing such a powerful phrase to express gratitude is so important.  When we are grateful we are more open, more positive, and better capable to see those who would disempower us for what they are.  When we recognize them as such, we are better equipped to resist them.  Because we cannot undo what is done, we need to work on being grateful for the material and immaterial we HAVE, while expressing thanks for those which we desire.  In this way, consciousness can create a better reality.

What are you saying Thank You for today?

 

This is the three-hundred-eighth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Please take a moment to subscribe to this blog!  Even if you have done so before, there is new material, and a gift with your subscription.

How Is Pathwalking Mindful?

When we are mindful of our thoughts, feelings and actions, we can walk any path.

The key to doing this is to work on spending more time in the here-and-now.  When we are mindful of where we are, at this very moment, we empower ourselves to best walk the paths for the lives we desire.

Mindfulness is awareness.  When we are aware, we have control.  Pathwalking is about taking control of the life we lead, so being mindful is imperative to success along the path.  If we are aware of what we’re thinking, how we are feeling, and from that what actions we intentionally are taking, we can make more informed and desired choices.

Being in the here-and-now, which I have discussed before, can be a particular challenge.  Why?  Because our society has this maniacal obsession with the past and the future.

We are constantly looking back at what was.  I know I am using this example a lot, but it’s really hard not to these days: Look at current American politics.  There is this obsession with taking us “back” to a time and place that never actually existed.  Recreating a nation of “values” and “morals” that existed, at best, in 1950’s television and movies.

On the other side of that coin, we’re frequently discussing the future.  We are looking ahead to things that don’t exist yet, even though they could.  We want to build this utopian world that might be possible, but is nearly equally as non-existent as the world that some want us to go back to that never was.

Here and now is where we have balance.  But when we live in the here-and-now, we have to pay attention to the world around us.  That would require accountability.

Being accountable is being mindful.

Another problem in modern society is a major lack of accountability.  Everyone finds someone to blame for this, that or the other thing.  We blame our parents for our emotional issues as adults.  Hell, the President tells outright lies and is seldom called out on it.  We almost take pride in avoiding being responsible for our feelings, thoughts or actions.

The sad truth is that accountability is not tremendously important in this society. Why does that matter?  Because when we do not take responsibility for our own actions, let alone our thoughts and feelings, we haven’t the strength to consciously create reality, let alone anything else.

When we are aware of what we are thinking, it allows us to be mindful of what we are feeling.  When I am thinking, damn this society is screwed up, that leads to my feeling sad, depressed, and angry.  If I do not accept this, and don’t take accountability for it, I can’t change it.

When I do take responsibility for how I am thinking and feeling, I can take control of them.  Rather than focus on my negative thoughts, I can instead think, if I write about conscious reality creation, that can be shared to spread more positivity.  From there, I will start to feel good about what I am doing, and that in turn will put me back in control.

When we think and feel negative, then act from there, consciously or subconsciously, we tend to create other than what we want.  Further, if we are not accountable for that creation, creating something new and better becomes that much more challenging.  This is why we need to be mindful of thoughts and feeling.

The mindful path is where we are now.

Being in the here-and-now allows us to truly be mindful of everything.  When we aren’t looking back to the past or ahead to the future, right here, right now, we just ARE.  This is the ultimate awareness, and this is where our paths can be found, traversed, and changed.

This is the hardest lesson for me much of the time.  I get caught up in all these outside influences, and lose track of the here-and-now.  When I work to be in the now, I can do more with my thoughts and feelings, and with that take better actions.

How do I stay in the here-and-now?  I need to ask myself more frequently, What am I thinking?  What am I feeling?  How am I feeling?  Where is my mind?  What am I thinking about?  What am I focused on?  Any one of this questions will snap my attention to the now.

It is so stunningly easy to lose track of the now.  Start browsing through Facebook or Twitter and see how long it takes you to get lost in social commentaries.  Watch how easily you can become flustered by news of idiocy and amoral politics.  Before you know it, you’re angry, feeling depressed, and your subconscious mind is driving the bus.

During the day, as we go about our activities and routines, it’s really easy to let our subconscious take control.  Because we tend to be utterly unaware of things, in particular our own hearts and minds, this becomes more and more the norm.  But we can do something about that.  We can be mindful of what we are thinking, how we are feeling, and what actions we take from there.

Being mindful is not as hard as it first appears.

This is my challenge for putting Pathwalking into practice for the next week.  I am going to ask myself at least two of the above questions three times a day for a week, and WRITE IT DOWN.  Not only will this keep me mindful of what I am thinking and feeling, but the action will make me accountable for it.

The goal of this practice is to make myself more aware in the here-and-now.  I believe that doing this will let me be a far better Pathwalker, and allow me to truly consciously create the reality I want to see.  Care to join me in this endeavor?

Are you mindful of your thoughts, feelings and actions?

This is the three-hundred-seventh entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Please take a moment to subscribe to this blog!  Even if you have done so before, there is new material, and a gift with your subscription.

What Is Reality?

Reality is how we perceive the world around us.  It both is and isn’t that simple, of course.

No less an authority than Albert Einstein said, “Reality is an illusion, albeit a persistent one.”  What that means is that what we perceive as our reality is different for everyone.

To me, this thoroughly supports the notion that consciousness creates reality.  Since the reality we perceive is completely individual, and a persistent illusion, isn’t it completely logical that we can create our own?

We can all agree that our perception of the world around us is what we name reality.  We can see it, smell it, feel it, touch it, hear it, even taste it.  Yet there is more to the world than just that which we can sense.  Everything is energy, and energy is constantly flowing all around us.  This is also, I would argue, real.

As children, we are less invested in accepting the reality we’re presented with.  How many kids have imaginary friends that are almost completely real to them?  The wonder that children view the world with, before we tell them the what of things, is impressive.  The world a child considers to be real encompasses numerous illusions that, as they get older and “educated”, fade away.

I am in no way saying education is bad.  Quite the contrary, the more we know, the more we gain.  The issue is not education, it’s losing a sense of wonder with the world around us.

So many people feel “trapped”, or “stuck” or otherwise held back from things they want by the reality they perceive.  They have lost sight of wonder and joy be becoming entrapped by a world they think is beyond their control.

Conscious reality creation transmutes the illusion.

I am always seeking new wonders in this world.  I love hiking in nature and coming across a beautiful, tree-lined path or rocky river offering me never-before-seen vistas.  It is from these experiences that I still believe in a wondrous world, full of endless possibility.

When we lose sight of that, and get caught up in the world as we currently perceive it, we are disempowered.  Once that happens, it’s difficult at best to move past, and regain a sense of curiosity and possibility for what could be.

Pathwalking is my ideal for creating a life I most want to live.  Rather than let the world as I currently perceive it be that which I live in, I want to consciously create a better reality.  It is my desire to change how I perceive my world, and manifest one more to my liking.

If this which I already perceive is but an illusion, then changing it is a matter of practice.  It’s up to me to change what I sense, and create something even better.

I know you might be thinking to yourself, what is it with this hooky-spooky mumbo-jumbo?  Einstein meant something totally different with that statement.  Sure, I’ll give you that is possible.  But then, consider this:

Just over a hundred years ago, the first commercial airline came into being. Horse drawn vehicles still outnumbered cars.  There were no satellites, cellular phones or fitness trackers.  That reality was long ago changed, arguably far more drastically than any prior hundred year period.  The illusion of our world shifted considerably into what we have today.

Anyone can change their world.  Anyone.  Some changes are going to be colossal, wide-ranging, and life-changing.  Most, though, will be individual, but could be equally life-changing.

Whose illusion of reality is it?

Relationships change our reality.  So do new places we live, jobs we work, and locations we visit.  How we each perceive these things is wholly unique.  The way I see the world differs from your way, or that of any other.

This is why we can choose our illusion.  You and I possess the ability to consciously create our reality.  When we empower ourselves, and recognize this for the truth, there’s a lot more that we can do than we currently believe there to be.

Unfortunately, one of the big challenges with this is our fear-based society.  Everywhere we turn we see lack, are told there is not enough, and that we need to be afraid of *insert racial group or religious entity or other nonconformists here*.  To add to this, whenever someone violates or otherwise does something that is not the “social norm”, we tend to scoff at it.  Rather than support the new, frequently we warn of dangers and pitfalls.

Everyone makes poor life choices.  This is part of the human experience.  Frequently, we believe that our choices are more limited than they actually are.  We get worn down by the lack and fear of our culture, and accept the illusion before us as truth.

The world has been changed before.  It will be changed again.  Change is inevitable.  We have the power within us to direct change, rather than be a pawn of it.  We do it all the time, but much of it we take for granted.

When you change your clothes, hair, job, or car, you alter the illusion of your reality.  It is a small alteration, but everything is built up from the small stuff.  If you find yourself dissatisfied with larger matters, you have the power to take control over it.

What do you want your reality to look like?

 

This is the three-hundred-sixth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Please take a moment to subscribe to this blog!  Even if you have done so before, there is new material, and a gift with your subscription.

Why Might You Set Aside Your Path?

Once in a very great while, your path will need to be set aside for that of another.

I know that I am constantly writing about how, to consciously create reality, we have to choose for ourselves.  This is always true.  But every now and then our own path is not as important as the path of another.

How does that work?  We all have people in our lives who are important to us.  They are loved ones, close friends, people we care about who we will take actions to help when needed.  Because we are human beings, and we are social animals, this means that occasionally we may find our own path shunted off to a side for theirs.

This is the kind of thing that will happen in very specific circumstances.  We need to care for someone who is ill.  There is a move happening, and either we are going along or assisting with completing that.  Something has happened to our loved one that requires our support, and that cannot be ignored or neglected.

This is why Pathwalking is not a selfish act.  Because while each and every one of us has our own paths to choose, we seldom are completely alone in this life. There will be times that our own paths take a back seat to reality.

The important thing to know about this is that the path is not being abandoned.  Rather, we are placing it further back in our agenda of activities we partake of day to day.  Instead of the paths we walk being the primary activity in our life, they are relegated to secondary or even tertiary, depending on the situation.

No path is greater than any other.

My path is not yours.  Nobody can choose the path of another, unless you cede the choice away.  Most importantly of all, nobody’s path is greater than anyone else’s.  What this comes down to is that every path anybody can walk is equally important to any other.

I am walking a path towards becoming a more influential and financially prosperous writer.  That’s probably not yours.  Maybe your path is to create a household of love and joy.  Perhaps it is to be the best at the job you do.  Yours could be to travel to a specific exotic locale.  It’s entirely possible your path is to complete your daily to-do list.

No matter how seemingly grand or miniscule the path is, it’s not more or less important than any other.  Paths differ because people differ.  I am not you, you are not me, and so on.  Because that’s the case, this is where I at least see proof that we live in an abundant universe.

There are more than seven billion people on this planet alone.  There may be similarities amongst our desires, but how they feel to us, what it takes to achieve them, and the why likely differs dramatically.

It’s for this reason that, while we certainly cannot alter anyone else’s path unless they let us, we can still influence them.  When someone sees you do good, or succeed at a similar goal to their own, they can be encouraged or discouraged by that.  You may not even intend to have an influence, but since nobody can feel emotions like anyone else, this is outside of all control.

This is why we sometimes set our own path aside to help someone else on theirs.

There are a couple of important things to keep in mind if this occurs.

There needs to be no bitterness, hostility, anger, upset, or negativity about setting your own path aside.  If you make this choice but feel badly about it, then chances are you will resent the person whom you are setting yours aside for.

Perfect example.  This particular Pathwalk has appeared later in the day than I normally post.  Why?  Because it was more important that I help someone I love with a path they must walk.  I am in no way upset about this, it was more important to be there for my loved one than to do what I felt that I needed to do.  I set aside mine for a bit, but now I am returning to it.

This is the other major thing about this process.  While it is a good thing to be there for those we love and to set our own paths aside for a time to do that, it is important that we do not forget those we desire.  I am not advocating allowing loved ones to suffer or be in distress, but it’s important that you not neglect your own path.

This is why it’s key to set aside your path out of love, and with the intent to return to it.  It should not be for long, unless it happens that you need to change it anyhow.

No one is on a path completely alone.

Because we have people in our lives that matter to us, we’re never truly walking a given path alone.  From time to time we will walk along the path of another without having to set our own aside.  But there are also times where ours takes a backseat.  This is part of regular human interaction, and how we help our loved ones with the paths they are walking.

Have you had to set your path aside from a loved one?

 

This is the three-hundred-fifth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Please take a moment to subscribe to this blog!  Even if you have done so before, there is new material, and a gift with your subscription.

 

How Do I Interfere With My Path?

There are always things which will interfere with your chosen path.

Many of these things are beyond our control.  I can’t do anything about current government stupidity, hurricanes, foreign wars, and the overall negative attitude of other people.  Yes, I can write letters to the leadership, support hurricane relief funds, and take other proactive actions.  However, it’s important to recognize that this is limited, and needs to be proactive rather than reactive.

Why proactive?  Because if we are constantly reacting to the world around us, this reflects our subconscious being in control.  Consciousness creates reality, and if we are allowing our subconscious to do the driving, then we’re not taking control as we can.

This is where we get into the other things interfering with your chosen path.  You and me.  We will often do things, say things, think things that are actually contrary to the path we’re walking.  This is generally subconscious, which makes it more challenging to overcome.

I have written before about self-sabotage.  This is when I will prevent myself in some way from achieving a desired goal.  I get in my own way, and interfere with my path.  This will come from my fears of success and failure, and ultimate abandonment.

Even knowing, logically, what this is and where it comes from, it is rather easy to let the subconscious get control.  How does that happen?  Let’s say I am scrolling through Facebook, and I see an article about another terrible thing the government is doing.  This gets me upset, and if I don’t consciously release it, it lingers.  Anger, frustration, and subconsciously I am questioning, why bother?  If it’s all going to hell anyhow, what’s the point?

We allow things to interfere with us.

Before I know it, I find myself in front of the keyboard, and uninspired.  I am frustrated, I can’t focus.  Take a break, find a distraction, and then suddenly my day has flown by.  If I begin to question whether I accomplished what I wanted, and the answer is not what I desire, this may upset me.  If I don’t take hold of that, it can spiral out, and the next thing I know I am angry, questioning my purpose, skills, abilities, and worth…and my path has gotten away from me.

Does this strike a chord for you?  This is one of the largest forms of interference in our paths.  Rather than being kind and forgiving to ourselves, we are hyper-critical, self-doubting, and feel as if there is no worth in the path – or worse, no worth in ourselves.

As Admiral Ackbar would say, “It’s a trap!”  Getting stuck in your own head, subconsciously, can be detrimental to your path.  If we allow our subconscious to drive the bus, we cede our control, and interfere with the path we wish to walk.

Consciousness Creates Reality.  This is why it’s so important to be aware of our world.  When we don’t take an active role in being open and aware of the world around us, we inadvertently allow our subconscious to run the show.  Over time, this can cause us a great deal of distress, and will get in the way of any given day, let alone a desired path.

Yes, outside influences can effect this, but only if we let them.  Whether it’s personal, such as a loved one pissing you off; or societal, such as American politics, this can create negativity which the subconscious uses as fuel.

We can control our subconscious.

What it all comes down to is the majority of that which interferes with us is on ourselves.  We control how angry, upset, and how long we hold onto negativity.  When we believe things are bad, and that we are unworthy subconsciously, we interfere with manifesting our desires.

How do we deal with this?  First and foremost, we need to work on our awareness.  Yes, this is going to be somewhat challenging, but the more we do this, the easier it will become.  We tend to be all go go go, and thus seldom pause to analyze.  Many of us tend to be even less conscientious of this when it comes to ourselves.

I have mentioned previously the value in asking questions of ourselves.  How am I feeling?  What am I thinking?  What am I doing?  All of these simple questions of ourselves bring us to the here-and-now, and ultimately tap into our awareness.  When we are aware, we become more capable of seeing and dealing with any interference in our paths.

One of the problems with this is taking the time to actually ask these questions of ourselves.  Isn’t it amazing how quickly a day can just slip on by?  You’re working on things, or trying to work on things, and before you know it, the day is through.  Yet if we take a few moments, maybe once every two hours, to ask these quick questions, we can better be aware, and consciously create desired realities.

Is it really that simple?  I believe that it is.  Trouble is, in the interest of deep thought we humans seem to love adding unnecessary complexities.

There are things that interfere we will have to deal with.

Sometimes things happen that will interfere with your path, totally out of your control, that you won’t be able to just use awareness to rid yourself of.  Car accidents, a nasty headcold, getting fired from a job, dumped by a relationship, someone’s death, and the like happen.  They cannot be denied, and they can have unexpected consequences which might alter your chosen path.

How much any such thing interferes with life can still be your choice.  Recovering from injury and illness will take time, but attitude can help.  Modern medicine is incredible in many ways, but having a good attitude and keeping positive rather than negative can assist in healing.  Also, if you are feeling bad, do you really want to do anything that makes you feel worse?

When we are aware of our feelings, and we take the time to be conscious, we can manifest amazing things.  Any interference can be dealt with, when we take hold of it and choose to do so.  This can often be a challenge, but I believe that this can also lead to new and incredible realities which will make us feel good.  Let’s not let ourselves interfere with ourselves.

Do you recognize when you interfere with yourself?

 

This is the three-hundred-fourth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Please take a moment to subscribe to this blog!  Even if you have done so before, there is new material, and a gift with your subscription.

 

What Do I Choose?

What I choose is what is best for me.

Nobody but me can choose what I want for my life.  Why?  Because there is nobody else inside my head.

People question people’s life choices all the time.  I don’t know if it’s a schadenfreude thing, or a judgement thing, or something else.  We talk about it all the time, and we frequently discuss how we might have chosen differently, or comment about disagreeing with choices that have been made.

It’s important to recognize that nobody can choose for us.  Period, end of story.  I am the only one who can recognize what’s best for me, and I have to live with the choices I make, and don’t make.

Why do we frequently question other people’s choices?  I think sometimes it’s a matter of self-reflection.  Other times, it simply feels easier to look at what other people choose, and comment on it, rather than examine our own choices.

Many people are terrible at choosing and deciding about their lives.  I am certainly guilty of this myself.  Going back over my life, there were numerous times I decided not to decide, or didn’t make a choice because I feared the outcome.

What have I been afraid of?  Ultimately, I feared being abandoned, shunned, and rejected by almost everyone.  I feared success and failure equally, because I thought either would leave me forsaken by everyone.

I am still struggling with this.  While I strive to put on a confident exterior, inside I still fight the demons of my fears.  While I could put the blame on my combat with depression, that feels like a cop-out.  I have chosen to walk my own path, and though others might question this, I still believe in it.

Choose for you.

Deciding is something that can be scary.  Why?  Because when we analyze any given choice, it’s possible to see multiple angles and various outcomes.  To decide literally means in the Latin it originates from “to cut off.” A decision cuts off many, if not all alternatives, and directs you in one way.  In especial when there is more than one choice, knowing if you made the right decision becomes a concern.

Maybe that’s why we question the choices other people make.  Perhaps we’ve made a similar choice and got an unsavory outcome.  It’s possible that we had a similar choice, and in our own analysis of it saw no good coming of it.  Or maybe we had that choice, did not make it, and regret that.

Our society strives to undo that which we dislike.  Again, while I hate to get political, let’s look at Congress.  Rather than fix the Affordable Care Act in a reasonable way, they keep trying to undo it.  Instead of taking forward steps, they are going backwards.  Sadly, tons of progress made in the past decade is being undone all because of spite on the part of petty politics.

Anyhow, this is indicative of the state of our society.  We want to undo what we dislike, rather than do something different.  The Universe does not undo.

Consciousness Creates Reality.  I cannot stress this fact enough.  We might focus on undoing a thing, but the Universe doesn’t recognize this.  I don’t want x or we need to undo y the Universe translates as give me more of x and y.  Ever notice how when you focus on something you really do not want, you seem to get an abundance of it?  That is conscious reality creation.

Choose what you want to manifest.

You are the only one who can choose what is best for you.  Yes, it is almost habitual to comment on the choices other people make, but we can’t change anyone else’s choices.  The only person’s choices we effect are our own.

I know that there are people who do not understand what I want to do with my life.  Frankly, sometimes I get concerned about what I am choosing.  But I know that I am better off making choices and deciding on things for myself than just letting life live me.

I have never taken easy paths, but I have been so afraid of being rejected that I have frequently abandoned them.  Didn’t make use of my theatre degree, did not pursue a career in radio, never became a teacher.  After a long time, I have decided that I am a writer, and I will make my living doing that.

This is not an easy choice.  Working on my own requires me to be better at self-discipline, and making the optimum use of my time.  I would prefer not to return to the corporate world, because life is too short to spend most of my day somewhere sucking my soul dry.  Certainly if I can find the right environment in this respect, that is an option, however.

Because I alone can choose for me, it is up to me to take necessary actions to manifest the life I want.  I believe we live in an abundant universe.  As such, there is more than enough of everything I want to consciously create.  I am not taking anything from anyone else in doing this, and I am worthy.

Choose fearlessness.

FDR said “Only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”  When I allow my fear of failure, fear of success, and ultimate fear of rejection to overwhelm reason, it is imperative I keep this in mind.  Our fear response is necessary when it comes to the tangible.  That’s how we avoid getting eaten by lions and mauled by bulls.  But the intangible is immaterial, and is not a fear to concern ourselves with.

I am the only one who can choose what is right for me.  Only I can decide to allow intangible fears to get in the way of my choices.  It would do us all well to keep that in mind, the next time we question a choice either made by ourselves or made by another, for whatever reason.  We can all work together to be better than we are.

What do you choose for your paths?

 

This is the three-hundred-third entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for, and my personal experiences with, walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

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What’s Your Opinion?

Everyone is capable of having an opinion.

Being entitled to an opinion, however, has frequently been carried to a dangerous and unhealthy extreme.

What’s the difference?  Let’s say that it is my opinion that the moon is made of green cheese.  We know of course that it’s not.  We have physical evidence returned from the moon to disprove me.  When you show me a moon rock, and explain to me that the composition of the moon is not cheesy, I should be capable of accepting that my opinion has been disproven.

Our modern society, however, believes in being entitled to your opinion, and as such denies fact.  How else do you explain flat earthers?  Science deniers?  Anti-vaxxers?  Facts to the contrary are being blatantly disregarded in favor of “popular” opinion.

Yes, some opinions are mostly harmless.  If you are five foot two and want to believe that you are tall, or you are old and want to believe you are young, it doesn’t cause harm.  The trouble comes when you try to force an opinion on others and inflict damage.

Look at American politics.  This administration ignores science and economic fact for opinion on numerous topics, and seems to be striving to return us all to the dark ages.  Despite a broad lack of support for eliminating the Affordable Care Act, the Senate very nearly succeeded at taking it down.  Opinion is overwhelming fact.

How did we get here?  When did we leave the age of reason behind and allow for faulty opinion to be the basis for policy and directing our society as a whole?

I have no answer.  However, I have thoughts on how to begin to change the conversation.

You can only control your own opinion.

This can be really hard to accept.  Why?  Because if our particular opinion is based in fact – for instance, it’s my opinion that the Earth is round.  Science agrees with me.  I admit that I cannot fathom how anyone in the 21st century believes otherwise.  For centuries now the vast majority have accepted the reality of a round planet.  How can anyone possibly deny this and believe otherwise?

Because some people feel they are entitled to their opinion, they are unwilling to let it go even when disproven.  They think they are right, and they will not hear or accept otherwise.  They get stubborn, even belligerent when you try to show them they are factually mistaken.  You can’t talk to them, and you won’t change them.

When we have fact on our side we tend to get into arguments with these people.  Why?  Probably because we cannot fathom how they can hold onto a ludicrous, non-factual notion.  Of course, to add insult to injury, usually arguing with people “entitled” to their opinions only causes them to dig in their heels.

This is why it’s important to recognize the only opinion over which you have control is your own.  I am the only one who can make up my opinions, and that is that.  I can argue until I am blue in the face, but when someone has decided their opinion is a fact, even with irrefutable proof otherwise, I will fail to change their mind.

Of course, this can get particularly ugly sometimes.  White supremacist marches, disempowering a protest with false patriotism, or name-calling and expressions of anger over a difference of opinion gets ugly.  More so in the face of opinions contrary to facts.

Working around false opinions can be done.

It’s not easy, but it’s possible.  How?  By working with others who believe in fact.  Marching for Science, for Women’s Rights, standing up peacefully against the KKK and white supremacists are all steps in that direction.

We tend to take a stand against the thing we do not want, including opinions.  While resistance is not futile, and often vital, it’s imperative that we stand FOR something.  The more of us who stand together in support of a thing rather than against a thing, the more we can affect the collective consciousness.

When we argue with those who hold opinions lacking in fact, we allow them to empower their opinion.  We end up giving them a forum to spout their non-factual opinion, and strive to legitimize it.

Recently, an acquaintance wrote an attack against a community I am part of with an opinion counter to fact.  Rather than argue with that person’s opinion, the majority of the community stood up for the fact of the matter.  From there, friends and acquaintances of the community also stood up for the fact.  Rather than an outpouring of anger and argument against the attacker, we’re seeing positive support for the attacked.

Sure, there is still anger and hurt over this opinion that was expressed.  Yet I think the outpouring of support for the attacked rather than countering the attacker with fact goes much further in generating a better outcome.

How does opinion matter to your path?

We all form opinions.  It’s human nature, because we believe in things.  We have faith in things.  The important thing is to recognize that while you are capable of having an opinion, you are not entitled to it, even when you are factually correct.  When we let go of our entitlement to opinion, I think we open ourselves up more to spreading fact and changing opinions that are held which are counterfactual.

This is challenging, but I believe it’s totally worthwhile.

What’s your opinion on holding opinions?

 

This is the three-hundred-second entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Will Your Path Make You Happy?

What is important to me is that I live a good life, and am happy more often than not.

We all have different priorities.  Nobody’s emotions are exactly the same.  While we may give our emotions the same names, odds are how they feel to each of us differs.

Taking that another step, what makes me happy is going to be different from what makes you happy.  Not just because of how it may feel differently to each of us, but because the what of happiness is such a wide perspective.

Right now our society is beset by people who care about nobody but themselves.  Business leaders and government officials have been particularly selfish and uncaring.  Many see the world as a pie, but a singular, small, limited pie, with only a few slices to go around.  Rather than use their ability to produce unlimited pie, they hoard what they have and try to convince everyone else that this is the truth.

There is not enough pie to go around.  I am going to take this all for myself, and none for you.  Of course, if they viewed this as limitless instead, we would all have more to share, more to give, more in general.

The Universe is vast beyond our ability to comprehend it.  Further, the Universe is abundant.  This is not a place of lack and want, it is a place of more than enough and plenty.  It’s important to recognize this because I believe that a tremendous amount of our unhappiness comes from feeling lack.

We all want to feel.

This is something we often deny.  I think one of the reasons for the popularity of the notion of Vulcans in Star Trek is the lack of emotion.  When you don’t feel emotion, you don’t feel want, and as such you don’t feel lack or loss.  Emotions are viewed as weakness, and showing them often is considered socially unacceptable.

Thing is, like it or not, we are emotional creatures.  Humans feel things.  Good and bad, happy and sad, ecstatic and angry, and everything in between – having emotions is part of the human experience.  Taking this out further, I believe that the thing we most want from our lives is to feel positive emotions.

Why do you do the things you do?  Because at the end of the day, you want to feel good.  Yes, this is a generalization, but I believe that most of us want to experience good things in our lives.  We want to be happy, or at least content, with the lives we lead.

It’s all well and good to just be.  If that makes you happy, then more power to you.  But if you are displeased with life more often than otherwise, I am pretty sure that you are probably working to find ways to be more content.  Means to be happier.

Pathwalking is about choosing for ourselves how our lives are to be.  Yes, that involves working towards goals, some of which are material.  But even the material goals are meant to be part of something more, something greater.  My goal may be to become a best-selling author, but WHY I want to achieve that is because in the end, I believe that that will make me happy.

Happy and nature versus society.

We have been presented with a pretty standard expectation of what life should be.  There is a widespread belief on the part of our society for what we should be doing, how we should be living, and what we should expect.  While on the one hand we encourage people to dream and strive to grow bigger than they are, on the other hand we discourage them from stepping away from the common.  Often we tell them that taking their own path is fraught with risk, and an unacceptably low chance of reward.

Is it any wonder our society often seems kind of schizophrenic?  We tell you that this is the land of opportunity, but then we advise you not to take a chance.  You get told that you should strive to be more than you are, but then people tell you they’re afraid you’ll fail.  We play on fear so frequently that we find that state of being to be perfectly ok.

I for one do not want to live in a state of fear.  Life is too short and too full of possibilities for me to accept that fear should dominate me.  Yes, things can happen to you when you take a risk…but things can also happen to you when you DON’T take chances.  We often are lead to believe that it’s better not to try at all than to try and fail.

Do you know what our world would be like today if many of the great innovators had accepted that?  If they had not tried and failed and tried again, so many modern conveniences we take for granted just would not exist.  Sometimes failure is the best teacher.

In the end it’s all about emotions.

Frequently the things we want are material.  From the physical like cars and homes and jewelry to the abstract like good jobs, great relationships and wealth, these are tangible things.  Yet why do you think you want the tangible things you want?  Because you believe they will make you happy.

This is part of why we all want different things.  What makes me happy is going to be different from what makes you happy, him happy, her happy, them happy, and so on.  We all want different things, and even when we want similar things they may be for different reasons.  My point is, the things we want are actually manifested tangibles of the intangibles we truly desire.

I do not know anybody who wants to be unhappy.  Even the people I know who seem to take some sort of pleasure in being frequently miserable do not actually desire for that to be their state of being.  In the end, the paths we walk are lead to a good emotional place.

Acknowledging this can go a long ways towards understanding ourselves better.  When we recognize that we have emotional needs, I believe we can do better with our self-care.

Last and certainly not least – you deserve to be happy.  Really, truly, you do.  You are worthy of having a good and happy life.  I know that may be hard to believe sometimes – I certainly struggle with it.  But it is unequivocally true.

How do you think the things you want from your path will make you happy?

 

This is the three-hundred-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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What Do You Take-Away From This?

What you take-away from a less-than-desirable situation is important.  Seeing the good you learned from the bad is the key to this.

We all have bad experiences.  There are going to be things that happen that are infuriating, complicated, difficult and unpleasant.  Life cannot always be perfect.  Frankly, if it was, I think we’d all get really really bored of it.

When bad things happen – and they will – what you take away from them is important.  If you find yourself angry, resentful, distressed or feeling otherwise negative, that will impact you negatively.  However, if you can find good that has come of it, you can generate positivity instead.

What you take-away from any given situation is actually totally yours to control.  Since you are the only one inside of your own head, you get to choose how you feel after anything good or bad happens.

Certainly there are automatic and gut reactions to things.  You get angry, you get hurt, you feel annoyed by what happened.  In the moment, hard not to feel such.  But, after that, you choose how long you hold onto it.  You get to choose how far you take that feeling.

As such, if you are feeling negative about something initially, when you focus on that, you’ll get more.  Consciousness Creates Reality, so focus on what you don’t want, you will create more of it.  This will manifest further bad feelings, and complicate whatever it is you are trying to achieve.

A thing happened.  It produced a negative response and emotion in you.  The take-away is entirely yours to choose.  Acknowledge it, then let it fester and likely draw more negatives…or acknowledge it, and figure out what you can learn from it that’s a positive.

Initial reaction is not what you take-away, unless you choose that.

First, let’s make note of a couple things.  We all make mistakes.  Everybody screws up from time to time.  What’s perfect about everybody is that nobody is perfect.

The bad or annoying or unfortunate thing has happened.  Made me feel negative.  Yup, that’s how it is.  Now, what have I learned from it, and what can I take away from it?

Let’s explore a couple examples:

  • You have credit cards in collections because you rang up too much debt. What is your take-away?  Negative: I am a total screw-up, and a failure.  Positive: I now know I need to be more responsible with my money. 
  • Your relationship/marriage/partnership failed. What is your take-away?  Negative: I suck at relationships.  I never get it right, I am unworthy.  Positive: I learned what does not work in a partnership for me, and can work to avoid that in the future.  I am wiser and worthwhile.
  • You have a crisis, great or small, to deal with. What is your take-away?  Negative: Why do I always have to deal with this crap?  Why me?  Can I just live without an emergency?  Positive: I am the eye in the middle of the storm.  I can handle anything, and am stronger because I know what I am capable of.  I’ve learned something useful from this.

You get to choose just what it is you take-away from everything that happens to you.  That being the case, you get to decide if you want to hold onto and create more negativity, or let-go of the negative and create positivity.

Take-away what you want to manifest.

Conscious Reality Creation means that we strive not to be a victim of circumstance.  Things can and will happen outside of our control, but that does not mean we have no ability to react to them at all.

Emotions are entirely on you and me.  Nobody but you can feel what and how you feel, and as such nobody can make you feel a certain way or no.

Pathwalking is about choosing for ourselves.  I know that I prefer to have some modicum of control over the life I am living.  Every situation is going to present you with a chance to have a take-away, but what that will be is up to you.

This week, for whatever reason, has been rough for me.  Not sure why, but I have had a hard time focusing and achieving what I want to.  I was sleepy, and could not easily concentrate on writing and editing.  Some things got done, but not as much as I wanted.

That was Monday.  When Tuesday rolled around, and I felt much the same, I began to get upset.  I was angry at myself for being lazy.  This in turned led to self-annoyance with my inability to achieve what I had intended to do, and I was getting down on myself for ever perceived misstep.

Last night I reconsidered what my take-away was.  Rather than berate and ultimately self-sabotage myself, I now know I can work on means to improve my focus, and to accept that we all have off days.  I can choose to stop seeing what is not working in my life, and focus instead on what is.

Conscious reality creation goes deep into one’s core.

To manifest what you want from life, it can’t just be a side thought, it has to be your only thought on the matter.  When I was recovering from injuries all I focused on was total healing.  All conscious reality creation works from complete, hyper-focus.

Today I am feeling the best I have in a while.  Staying mindful of the take-away from my situation is doing wonders for my psyche.

What have you taken-away from your life situations?

 

This is the three-hundredth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Please take a moment to subscribe to this blog!  Even if you have done so before, there is new material, and a gift with your subscription.

 

 

Who Gives You Permission?

You need nobody’s permission to walk your own path in life.

But you will receive an awful lot of advice, and help both useful and not from people.

When you decide to walk your own path, if, like mine, it is in any way unconventional, people will question it.  When enough people question what you have chosen, inevitably YOU will begin to question it, too.

We all have people in our lives who feel they have carte blanche in regards to advising and giving permission for us to live our lives a certain way.  Some are at a completely surreal level, so remote and removed from our lives that, truly, they have only as much power as we give to them.

A perfect example, and I mean this with no offense or disrespect, is God.  It does not matter if you view God from a religious standpoint of Judaism, Christianity, Islam or any other mono-theistic practice – some will argue you need his/her/its permission to do pretty much anything you might choose.  Without God’s blessing, some might argue, you have nothing.  Don’t even get me started on how some religious leaders will use some form of permission from God to oppress, be intolerant, deny science, or whatever meets their personal agenda.

This leads to the next surreal level, still remote and removed, where permission might be passed down or not.  Leaders in government, religion, and business love to tell us what we can and cannot do.  Sometimes they use the law to do this; other times they use tradition or obscure rules.  Many workplaces have specific rules about what we can and cannot wear, some of which is logical while some it just arbitrary and controlling.  For some, to feel empowered, they do all they can to disempower all others.

You don’t need to seek anyone’s permission.

The plain and simple truth is that when you are choosing your own path, you don’t need to seek anyone else’s permission to do so.  This is YOUR life, and nobody but you can live it.

Now we come to the people who are not-so-far removed.  Friends and loved ones.  The people who are directly a part of your life often feel they have every right to opine about your choices.

If what you are choosing is in any way unusual, people may feel the need to remark about it.  Unusual, by the way, is a loaded term.  For some it is about anything we choose that is well outside the norm, such as a career choice requiring some major life changes or a big move or doing something unlike anything you have done before.  For some, it’s as simple as not within their worldview perspective.

Everybody has a different view about how life works, yet we readily ignore this fact.  Since we are constantly inundated in our society with black or white, good or bad, either/or, up or down, Republican or Democrat, and nearly any other extreme you can think of – we find ourselves set in competition against one another.  Realistically, of course, the majority fall somewhere in the middle between any two extremes.

In many ways, because of this, people feel they have a duty to keep us in the expected path.  Society says you go to school, get a degree, get a job.  From there you get married, have kids, send them to school, then retire to a warmer clime.  Deviation from that path is deviant, and suspect, and you have permission to warn people when they stray.

Well-meaning permission changes nothing.

The thing is, because we all make our own choices in life, the only person we have to get permission from is ourselves.

Please keep in mind, I am not advocating for breaking any laws, outright anarchy, or blowing-off loved ones.  What I am saying is that you, and you alone, know what will make you happy in this life.  That being said, it’s entirely up to you to choose what will be best for you.

It can be very useful to get advice and consult with friends and loved ones.  It certainly is helpful when you have people to support you when you strive to take control over your own destiny.

I believe, to some degree, the need for permission comes from our childhood.  As children we have to get permission from our parents to do something different, to borrow the car, to stay out past curfew and such.  This gets so ingrained in us that we still feel an inherent need to seek permission when we take on something new and/or different.

Your path belongs to you, and you alone.  You may feel that you should get somebody’s permission to do whatever it is you are doing, but in truth, you don’t.  The only person who needs to approve of you and your life is you.

We are social creatures.  Even the most introverted still seek validation and comfort from without from time to time.  When our choices go outside of comfort zones, ours or those of others, it can be scary.  It can be pretty daunting, too.  Know that you are not alone, and you don’t need to get approved by anyone else.

Permit yourself to be all you want to be.

Our time on this planet is finite.  I want to experience it as fully as possible.  In order to do that, I am consciously creating my reality by making choices I intend to allow me to manifest a great life.  Even when I am faced with naysayers and well-meaning negativity, I know what I want to manifest.  I give myself permission to pursue my passion and strive to live my dream.

This, in turn, will not have a negative impact on anyone else.  The Universe is abundant, and my achieving goals will not deny anyone else the chance to do so, too.  There is plenty of what we want, since we all want different things.  We do not need approval or permission from anyone outside of ourselves.

Do you feel a need to get permission to walk the paths of your choosing?

 

This is the two-hundred ninety-ninth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas for and my personal experiences with walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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