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Empathy is not a weakness.

Empathy is not simply about understanding how someone else feels.  It is about understanding that, like you, other people have feelings, too.

We all have desires, we all have wants, we all have needs.  Some are similar, such as food, shelter, clothing, companionship.  Yet even with the similarities, they still will vary from person to person.   The foods and quantities of food vary, the desired shelter differs, we like different clothing based on our individual tastes, and we don’t all want the same companions.

Empathy is not just about feelings.  But it is very important to acknowledge that everybody feels.  Even the most robotic people we know still have feelings.  They may lock them away, or let logic be more dominant, but they are still there, still present.

The thing about empathy is that we are frequently approaching it from a place of lack, rather than abundance.

What does that mean?  Let’s look at empathy in regards to refugees.  Many people see them as parasites, people who will come in and take and take, and so they push to keep them away.   They believe there is not enough, whether that’s space, food, shelter or jobs, and so they want to keep them out and keep them away.

But if you see empathy as a part of abundance, then we can see in ourselves how awful it would be to lose our homes, lose our way of life, maybe even our loved ones, and be forced to flee.  We see these people not as parasites, but as people much like us, who just want to come and have a new place to call home, a safe place to live and work and just be.  We see that our place, our nation for example, has more than enough space, food, shelter and jobs, and we want to help them and bring them here, as we would want them to do for us were the roles reversed.

That is really what empathy is about.  How do I want to be treated?  If you see a world of lack, then there is an insufficiency of any number of things, tangible or otherwise.  But if you see a world of abundance, then there is more than enough to go around, and endless possibility.

I rarely get political when Pathwalking, but in regards to this topic I feel it is unavoidable.  In addition to the divide-and-conquer attitude of those in power in the United States currently, there is a major lack of empathy.  Repealing the Affordable Care Act will take away the ability for many people to maintain their health, and the reason given for this action is lack of some sort or other.  Where is the empathy for those who are sick, broke, struggling to be well?  Everybody wants to find love and companionship, so how do legal actions that work against LGBTQ people allow for that?  Immigrants?  Refugees?  The poor?  Anybody struggling to make ends meet?  What happened to caring about people?

Even worse, it has become increasingly acceptable to be rude and impolite.  Does anyone like it when people are rude to them, or treat them inhospitably?  Since I am pretty certain the answer is no, then how come people are either tolerating or themselves becoming increasingly rude, disrespectful, and argumentative?

It is not a weakness to be empathetic to other people, because that is simply acknowledging that we do not want to be treated that way, either.  Empathy is sensing how we want to be made to feel, how we want to be addressed, and giving just what we want to get.

Walking your own path is no reason to lack in empathy for others.  My path is not your path, your path is not his path or her path, and our paths are not their paths.  If, however, we are approaching the paths we are on from a place of lack, then we are in danger of lacking empathy for the paths of others, because we could see that there is not enough for all of us.

But if we approach the paths we are on from a place of abundance, we will have empathy for the paths of others, because we can see that there is enough for us all.  What we seek upon our paths differs, and in an abundant universe there is more than enough for each and every one of us.

We all need to see that empathy is a strength.  By being able to put ourselves into other people’s shoes, we can see what makes each and every one of us great.  We can see endless possibilities, and we can work together to remove limitations, lack and hopelessness.

With a bit more empathy, we can work together to build a much better world, and we can overcome the fear, the hate, and the intense negativity of those who prefer us divided so they can conquer.  The golden rule is not wrong, it is the truth of empathy – Do unto others as you would have done unto you.

Empathy is a strength.  Being empathetic towards our fellow human beings makes us better people, better citizens, and most of all better to ourselves.  Empathy empowers.

How do you want people to think of and treat you?

 

This is the two-hundred seventy-first entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

Positivity: The Future is Not Yet Written

The future is not yet written.

This is one of the most amazing, positive truths we can face.  Why?  Because it means that everything is still negotiable, and that even if we find ourselves on a less-than-desirable course, we can change it.

It is easy to get caught up in believing that the future is set in stone.  Lots of people work very hard to sell you on the notion that there are limited possibilities for the future, and that we have to accept the limitations associated with that.  Yet it’s totally not the truth, because the future is still ahead of us.

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Always in motion is the future,” Yoda told us.  Because there are nearly endless possibilities for that which is coming up in our lives, this is totally the truth.

Because most of us are not so good at living in the now, we are constantly looking to the future.  We see where things are heading based on society, politics, world situations, and sometimes even vague and utterly untenable omens, signs and prophecies.  We keep looking ahead, thinking forward, and building expectations for the future based on frankly limited notions or ideas that are by no means set in stone.

Today we may find ourselves in situations we’d rather not be in, some within our control, some not.  We can only do so much to change the politics of the nation, and there is nothing we can do that will change how other people think, feel and act.  We can, however, choose for ourselves if we want to face a future of negativity or positivity, so why do we get so focused on futures we do not want?

Consciousness creates reality.  The Law of Attraction is clear: Think and get emotional about terrible things, horrible futures and that which you do not want and guess what you will get from that?  Prepare to be disappointed, because that is what you are expecting.  We all have the ability to choose what we focus on, and to work on seeing positive possibilities for ourselves in the now, and from there to develop a desirable future.

Today the world is full of division, fear-mongers, hatred, selfish leaders, greed and corruption dominating the conversation.  The future is not yet written, tomorrow we might be visited by aliens from across the galaxy who rid us of these awful things and cure all of our diseases and end poverty and take us to see worlds beyond our imagination.  It’s possible, because the future is not yet written.

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The future is not yet written.  This is an excellent thing!

Finding positivity is not hard, but it does require action.  Knowing that the future is not yet written, you can work in the here and now to create something amazing.  When we recognize that the future is not yet written, we can take control of our here and now to build the best future possible, and in doing that we empower ourselves.  When we feel empowered, we often spread that feeling to others around us, and as such can build more positive feelings in the collective consciousness.  We can use the positive feelings this generates to dissolve negative feelings.  When we take away negative feelings, we open up space to let in positive feelings, and that is something we can be grateful for.  Gratitude leads to happiness.  Happiness is the ultimate positive attitude.  Positive attitude begets positive energy, and that is always a good thing.

 

This is the one hundred sixty-second entry of my Positivity series.  It is my hope these weekly messages might help spread positive energies for everyone.  Feel free to share, re-blog and spread the positivity.

In relation to Positivity, check out my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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Crossing the Bridges: Getting to the Other Side

I can see across the bridge.  So how come it feels like I will never get to the other side?

Look familiar?  I don’t know anyone who has not dealt with this sort of thing.  You know where you want to go, you’ve a pretty good idea how to get there, you are on your way…yet it seems like you will never manage to arrive.

The metaphor of Crossing the Bridges can feel very literal at times.  I am where I am now, I was there yesterday, and I see where I want and need to be tomorrow.  Equally as real is the frustration over the perception of the inability to arrive where you intend to.

Knowing all of this, what can I do to help myself reach the other side of the bridge?  The short answer is to start feeling how it will feel to arrive.

This is, of course, frequently easier said than done.  I find that as much as I know how this works, and I am clear on the mechanics of it, I nevertheless struggle to see the world I consider ahead of me in the now.

It is for this reason that I get stuck, and from there get frustrated about my life.  I have a plan, I have a vision and bridges to cross and goals, and yet I never manage to reach them.  Why?  Because I always see them ahead of me, forthcoming, eventual…and not in the here and now, already accomplished and won.

I keep returning to this point because I still do not fully grasp it.  I know from experience how this works, I know that this can be used to manifest much awesomeness, and yet I still find myself struggling to shift my mindset and to think about and feel what I want to achieve as though it is done.

A lot of this is focus related.  I am aware that I suffer from an acute case of what I call ADOS – Attention Deficit Ooooooooooooo, Shiny! Syndrome.  I see something, I give it some attention…and then almost without knowing it my focus scatters, and I am looking at something else.

Some of this is the result of poor habits.  I allow myself to get overwhelmed, rather than chunk down activities so that they get done in smaller blocks and spurts, and instead get distracted.  I watch TV, I goof off online, I just let my mind wander to…whatever.  Instead of using the time I have more effectively, I fritter much of it away on pointless endeavors.

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That’s not to say there is entirely no value in distractions.  Life is too ridiculous to be constantly taken seriously.  We need breaks, we need distractions, we need to allow ourselves to relax and get chill.  Of course, what’s more complex is when one distraction leads to another, and the distraction gets all my attention and focus.

Right now, Politics is a pretty massive distraction for me.  I am deeply distressed by a great deal of what is happening here in the USA, not to mention other issues around the world.  I strive to do my part to effect change, but it is far too easy to let the situation get control of my time, attention and energy.  This, in turn, does nothing positive to my mindset, making me angry, frustrated, and otherwise discontent that I can only do so much to alter things.

Major distraction.  This, along the way, keeps my focus and attention away from what I want to work on.  It’s hard to manifest the life I desire when I am frequently giving my attention to things I really DON’T want.

What this tells me is that I need to make some fundamental changes to my habits.  I have been attempting to do this for a while now, but not with enough intention and actions.

This brings up probably the worst habit I have.  Often, rather than really put in the work I know I need to do, I will half-ass it.  My ambition only goes so far, before it peters out, and I continue to give it effort, but not all that I should.  I got through most of my education this way, to be perfectly honest.  Just a small amount more energy and effort and I could have had a far more impressive GPA.  I do not fully apply myself, and while my work may be good, it could still be much better.

This is, in part, a matter of self-sabotage.  Due to my twin fears of both success and failure, I subconsciously step back when I should step-up, because I am afraid that if I give it my all and succeed or fail I will somehow suffer.  If I do merely a sufficient effort, there is less pressure to succeed or fail, which is another factor in what holds me back from manifesting my goals.

I have to give this my all.  I need to strive to put more energy into my goals, and not to let myself get distracted or self-sabotage.  I have habits in need of changing, and I know what they are and where to begin.  I will strive to better chunk-down my time, so that I give the work I want to do more focus, and I will take a closer look at my bad habits, and work on replacing them with better ones.

This will be another interesting challenge.  Thanks for reading along.  I will keep you abreast of my progress.  As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

GOAL LOG – Week 9:

Diet:  I am being more mindful about what and how much I am eating.

Exercise: Two days of fencing, one at the gym.

Writing:  The three blogs got written, but I got started on editing Harbinger over 2 days.

Meditation:  I meditated 1 days last week for about 8 minutes.

Gratitude: I wrote out 5 things four days last week.

 

This is the twenty-third entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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We live in an abundant universe.

Society, however, strives to contradict this fact.  We endlessly are bombarded with messages of insufficiency, wanting and lack.  It seems like everywhere we turn we are told there is not enough money to go around, dwindling resources, too little security, and overall an insufficient amount of this or that to accommodate everyone.

Worse, even where lack doesn’t exist, there are plenty of people who use the fear of lack to maintain control.  If we don’t keep them out they’ll take all your jobs; they are taking all the resources from us; there is not enough for everyone, so because this group is different we will deny them benefits; and so forth.

Whether this is an actual deficiency of things or just the fear of lack, the effect is the same.  We believe that life is hard, that we have to frequently struggle for the jobs/money/lovers/power/status because there is not enough to go around.  Many of those in power use precisely this to remain in power, because fear is an amazing tool.

Lack and fear are closely tied together.  Fear of lack in particular gets used frequently to “justify” denial of rights, denial of funding and outright rudeness.  And because like attracts like, the more of this we see and experience and give thought and feelings to, the more we are creating, despite the fact that nobody actually WANTS to be lacking or afraid of lacking.

The truth of this matter is that we live in an abundant Universe.  All of the things we find lacking are artifice; more of that which is lacking can be found, or an equal or better alternative will become available.

I know that in the current political and social climate, at least in the USA, that seems like a lie.  But this is the truth of the nature of the universe, whether we believe it or not.

We live in a world of abundance.  There is plenty of food, water, and air to go around.  All lack is artificial, created by governments and nationalisms and borders and money and other divisions of our own creation.  Yes, we should protect it from pollutions and poisons, but that is another artifice of our own creation that disturbs the true abundance.  Without these divisions, working together, there would be plenty for everyone.

How do we combat the dominant lack mentality?  Like all things related to ourselves, this has to be an inside job.  It’s easy to look outside of ourselves to find solutions to problems, to make changes.  But while looking outside of ourselves can provide us with ideas and concepts to work from, we have to make any necessary changes from within.

A lot of us have gotten caught up in trying to do things to help change the world.  Writing about truthful things, making calls to leaders, writing letters, attending protests, rallies and townhalls and so forth.  But if we neglect our own need for abundance and positivity, we will soon deplete our own energy, and begin to feel that lack mentality overtake us.

I have been contending with this for a long, long time.  I strive to see the world as abundant, I work hard to envision, to think about and feel prosperity and abundance for myself, my friends and my family.  But then I get caught up in the rhetoric, my bills come due, and my bank account never seems to be sufficiently full, save for very short spans.

Knowing that to create abundance I have to think about abundance, as an exercise in Pathwalking in Practice, it is time to add another daily question.  Joining How am I? What am I thinking? What am I feeling and Am I thinking about things ahead of me, or in the now? I am adding Do I feel abundant?

This is a starting point.  But I need to do more, in order to reset my mind to abundance.  In especial if the answer is “No”, I need to take action to start thinking about abundance, so that I can begin feeling abundance and take inspired actions to manifest abundance.

Like my daily gratitude, I need to make positive statements of abundance, and not just think them out, but FEEL them out.  These statements should be written out, and will include I have more than enough wealth; I have more than enough love; I have more than enough time; I have more than enough space; and anything else I feel should be abundant in my life.

I will write out three to five of these, at least twice if not three times a day.  As I write them, I will pause, and strive to FEEL them.  This, like gratitude, can’t just be a rote thing.  I need to think about this, to feel it, and from there I will find the inspiration to take intentional actions.

Of course this is easier said than done, but walking my own path in this life is worth every effort.  I need to remind myself that I live in an abundant universe, and this action of Pathwalking in Practice can do no harm, and will further my work in manifesting the destiny I want for myself.

Can you see your life with lack, or abundance?

 

This is the two-hundred seventieth entry in my series. These weekly posts are ideas and my personal experiences in walking along the path of life.  I share this journey as part of my desire to make a difference in this world along the way.

Thank you for joining me.  Feel free to re-blog and share.

The first year of Pathwalking, including some expanded ideas, is available here.

If you enjoy Pathwalking, you may also want to read my Five Easy Steps to Change the World for the Better.

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