The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
Explorations of Conscious Reality Creation, Mindfulness, and Other Matters
Yes. Everything you do matters. To and for you. The world is a crazy place. Here in the United States, the Presidential election is about to start. Caucuses, primaries, debates, and a whole host of lengthy, largely unpleasant bullshit will be dominating the news cycle over the coming months. Due to the probability of the GOP running a traitorous criminal as their candidate – and showing time and again that ethics matter way less than winning and having control –
Yes, you. The other day I felt particularly down. I was chewing on thoughts about recognition from others that hadn’t come, how few of my friends and family have bought my books, and how it often feels like nobody cares what I write and share here. My therapist was sick, my wife is going through enough of her own crap that she didn’t need mine on top of it. There is nobody among my friends I’m presently close enough to
Empowerment is not a zero-sum matter. When you’re empowered nobody becomes disempowered. One of the most dangerous false narratives in our society today is around what equates to selfishness. In many respects, nearly every act of self-care, self-focus, and anything else that puts you first is considered selfish. If you don’t give enough time, energy, work, and what-have-you to your family, friends, and community – before self-care – you’re being selfish. This false narrative is the bedrock of a far
It’s because you are always with yourself, all the time. But that’s just the start. Nobody is ever, truly, alone. Why? Because no matter where you go, there you are. Or in other words – you always have yourself. Here’s the thing – your entire life, you have yourself. That means that you have all that you are, good, bad, and otherwise, always with you. For many people, that’s disconcerting. You have yourself – but isn’t that a lonely proposition?
Everyone will be selfish from time to time – and admitting to it is empowering. You most likely strive to be a decent human being. It doesn’t matter if you have lofty goals and huge ambitions – or just want to live a life you’re more often content than miserable with. Odds are, you’re a decent person. Sure, you’re flawed. We all are. Nobody is perfect, save that everyone is perfectly imperfect. That means you will mess up, fail, get
Yes, you absolutely can practice self-care while still caring about others. I’d like to debunk a few myths here. First – self-care is NOT selfish. Period, end of story. Yes, elements of self-care might appear selfish from without. Saying “no” for your mental health, refusing to participate in the drama of others, and no longer doing things that hurt you mentally and emotionally will appear selfish to others. Note – true selfishness involves intent. Malice of forethought. An action taken
We all get one life experience each in these bodies. What are you doing with yours? Like it or not – we have a finite time in this existence. The finite meat popsicles we call our bodies are the vessels that house our infinite souls. The substance may be eternal – but the vessels are not. Are we here just for basic subsistence? Or is there more to this life experience than that? I believe that we’re here for more
If not now, when will you decide it’s time to experience life for all it has to offer? We all get one shot at this specific life experience. Whether active or passive, we experience life every single day. That’s comprised of, Everything that you think, do, intend, and feel. All that happens to you – inside or outside your control – is part of your life experience. The people, places, and things you interact with are elements of your life
It’s okay that I don’t know – because it means I’ve something new to learn. Recently, I had a discussion with a friend about learning new things. In this instance, we were talking about a personal lesson regarding a mutual acquaintance. Said acquaintance, whom I only trust as far as I can throw (which isn’t far) did something hugely upsetting to my friend. It was behavior I’ve seen from that person before – so it came as no surprise to
There’s tremendous positivity in taking control by taking the wheel. I used to be something of a control freak. Truth be told, I haven’t entirely let that go. For example – when we take a trip, I like to be the driver. There are several of my friends – and my wife – whom I have no problem taking the passenger seat to. But given the chance – I prefer to drive. Most people, I believe, desire at least a
