The Ramblings of the Titanium Don
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Is What We Think Other People Think About Us What We Secretly Think About Ourselves?

What do we know about how others think and feel – especially about us? Even the most introverted people I know have interactions with other people along the way. Friends, family, coworkers, random strangers, and so on. No matter if you are an introvert, extrovert, ambivert, or uncategorized personality type, you do not exist in a bubble. Because of this truth, to a greater or lesser degree, you desire to make an impression on people. This is wildly variable, situational,

Are Your Feelings – Positive or Negative – Always Valid?

Yes, your feelings are always valid. But understanding them is another matter. You’ve probably been in a situation where you had an emotional response someone deemed inappropriate or disproportional. You were overreacting, taking it too hard, overthinking it, or what-have-you. It did not help your situation, did it? Chances are it increased it, or made you more stubborn and deepened the feeling. What’s more, they might have been correct. You were overreacting, taking it too hard, overthinking it, or whatever.

Why Does Getting Over Feeling Hurt Take So Long?

Even unintentional hurt that we are made feel tends to linger. Someone that I care a great deal about hurt me. Let me be clear about several facts in this matter. First – I know it was not their intent to cause me hurt. They were in their own odd headspace, and it made them less receptive to the impact their actions had. Second – Given our history, this should not have come as the surprise that it did. Yet

I’m Not Feeling at all Flustered and Stressed – You’re Stressed!

Yeah, that’s a lie. I’m feeling flustered and stressed. But what comes next is on me. Let’s talk about the great big elephant in the room. Feeling stressed. Virtually everyone deals with stress from time to time. Deadlines, pressures to do things from within and without, expectations, and many other things can be stressors in our lives. Even when you seek to carve your own path in life – it is not stress-free. I don’t care who they are –

How Much Space Exists Between Negativity and Positivity?

I’m realizing that more space exists between than at the extremes on either end. As an avid reader who enjoys nonfiction as much as fiction – I love to learn new things. A lot of what I read is along the lines of my writing – positivity, conscious reality creation, mindfulness, and the like. As such, I’ve read through lots of different people from all sorts of variable backgrounds and their ideas and practices. Though I’ve long been a practitioner,

You are Responsible for How You Feel

To some this is harsh. But being responsible for how you feel empowers you and doesn’t invalidate your feelings. Feelings are complicated. This is true for numerous reasons. Feelings are a matter of both how and what. How you feel and what you feel can have very different meanings, and even conflict. What are you feeling? This tends to be the name you put to the feeling you have. This can be challenging because there are lots of nuances in

Always Positive is Impossible

Always positive is impossible – but how long you remain in a state that is not positive is a choice you get to make. Many people dislike any push for positivity. Why? Because they feel it’s artificial. You are ignoring major issues both with yourself and the world at large. Positivity all the time, they will argue, is impossible. On the one hand, they are correct. Always positive is impossible. As a human being, you will have experiences that are

You Only Can Help You

You Can Only Help You It’s important to be there for your friends and loved ones…but this is more important. There is only one you. The only person who knows what’s best for you is you. Yet if you are a caring person, you are probably a giver. As such, likely you put yourself last. What’s more, it’s all-too-easy to believe that any other option is an act of selfishness. Of course you come last. Other people in your life,

Living in this Moment

Right now, at this moment, how are you feeling? One of the key tenets of the practice of mindfulness is being in the now. Rather than looking back to the past or forward to the future, often subconsciously, you put yourself in the now, consciously. When you are conscious of where you are, what you are doing, and what you are thinking and feeling that is practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness is awareness, primarily of yourself…but that also better opens you to

Current Thoughts and Feelings Are Changeable

Thoughts and feelings are changeable. Whatever you are thinking and feeling is yours, and yours alone, and there is positivity in your power to change them as you desire. Today is a grey and chilly day. As I sit here at my desk, pondering what to write about, drinking my 3rd mug of coffee, I am feeling some trepidation and dis-ease. It’s not that I am feeling negative – I just am not feeling a topic in the positivity realm

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