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Am I Worthy and Deserving?

I am worthy and deserving of awesomeness in my life.

It’s interesting how often I need to remind myself of this.  There have been many instances where I do not feel as though I deserve to have the things I desire in my life.

Worthy and DeservingCrossing the Bridges is the most personal of my weekly posts.  I am exploring not only my philosophies and approaches to life, but my actual, factual life.

In Positivity I pointed out that YOU are amazing!  Part of the reason for this is because recognition of worth is something we take too often for granted.  Along this same line, Pathwalking involved looking at the empowerment of praise.  Praising can raise our frequencies.  Higher frequencies are associated with better feelings.  I don’t know anyone who doesn’t want to feel good.

For much of my life, I have struggled with my self-esteem.  Some of this is borne of depression, some of it is life experiences along the way.  Recognizing my own self-worth, and deserving of good things has proven to be challenging at times.

While getting outside validation of my worth can help, it’s really a matter of me recognizing my own deserving.  Am I worthy of success, abundance, and overall good things in my life?  Logically, I know the answer is yes.  But feeling it is where the challenge often lies.

Feeling emotions has been a struggle for me most of my life.  Sure, there are several instances from my past I can point to for this, but they do not matter now.  No, I am an adult.  I need to take responsibility for how I feel.  When I am not feeling right, it’s up to me to work in the here-and-now to adjust that.

There is never a quick-fix when it comes to this.

Recognizing being worthy and deserving is not a selfish act.

One of the other issues that comes from this is a fear of being perceived as selfish.  We are socially so inundated by stories of unbelievable greed and selfishness, it’s hard not to see any act that does not help other people as one that’s not selfish.

Taking care of ourselves is not the same as being selfish.  Being selfish comes from a lack mentality.  It’s the notion that there is not enough to go around, so I have to hoard what there is.  Greed is of the same ilk, and a monetary form of selfishness.

When I say I am deserving and worthy of awesomeness in my life, I am also suggesting that you are, too.  But in order to have more to give, I need to have some for myself.

We live in an abundant universe.  This is not an easy thing to recognize, because our society is hyper-focused on lack and scarcity.  Consciousness creates reality.  The more we focus on what we don’t want, the more we are in danger of creating.

I am a good person.  Maybe I am not always the best office worker, and from time to time I can be stubborn.  But I am a good person, with a good heart.  I want to live a life with abundance and prosperity.  Not just so that I can have more of the things I want, but so that I can also give more.

The awesomeness I am worthy and deserving of is both tangible and intangible.

Nobody but you can determine your own worth.  Yet regularly, we turn to peers and loved ones for affirmation.   The thing is, even if they tell us we are worthy, we might not feel it.

This is why I am stating in the open that I am worthy and deserving of a good life.  Because everyone is.

We are worthy even when we screw up.

Every single one of us is perfectly imperfect.  Part of the human condition is that we’re going to get it wrong.  We will cause someone to feel hurt, or disrespected, or unloved.  We will make mistakes.  There will be foul-ups both great and small along the way.  These are the lessons that help us to grow.  They do not lessen our worth.

I have been reciting a new Mantra or Mightiness, as Jen Sincero calls it, for almost two weeks.  As often as I am putting it out there, I need to do so even more.  It reminds me of my worth, and that I deserve to be abundant and happy.

There is always work to be done.  This is actually a good thing, because that work is how we grow.  I have a lot of things I am aiming to do with my life.  I know that I can make them happen.

Abundance and prosperity are things I am worthy and deserving of, just the same as you are.  It is ok to be aware of this.  Awareness is consciousness, and consciousness creates reality.

As always, thank you for crossing the bridges between my worlds with me!

 

This is the sixty-eighth entry of my personal journey, the Crossing the Bridges series.  My collectively published writing can be found here.

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Pathwalking 118

Other people do not determine your worth.  You do.

The old adage is true – you cannot please everyone all the time.  You are going to do things that are going to upset and alienate and maybe even infuriate other people.  It cannot be helped – this is just a part of human nature.

Choosing your own life and walking your own path is going to have pitfalls and perils, ups and downs and so on.  People will not understand you, will not understand your actions, and will not accept that you have the right to choose for yourself.

Because we have a deep need to be accepted by others and to win approval for our actions, it is easy to let others determine our worth.  It is stunningly easy to let the opinions of others overcrowd your thought process and determine for you your worth as a person.

It is hard when those people are random acquaintances, but even harder when they are friends.  Harder still is when they are dear, close friends or even family.  They likely do not mean to judge you, they believe in all likelihood that they have your best interests at heart.  Still, that does little good when your worth as a person gets called into question and makes you feel bad.

You ARE worthwhile.  You are deserving of the good things in life you desire.  You have incredible value as a person, no matter what anyone else believes.

This is one of those great universal truths.  EVERYONE has worth.  Everyone has value.  Our morals may be different, our beliefs may not align, but that does not lessen anyone else, or you.  We can agree to disagree, and frankly we should.  No two people are alike.  But even with that said, we all have worth.

There are an incredible array of negative messages constantly broadcast about the worth and worthiness of people.  The haves versus the have-nots.  The rich versus the poor.  The religious versus the atheists.  We wind up in competition to determine worth.

People love competition.  The professional sports industry, be it baseball, football, basketball, soccer or what-have-you generates obscene amounts of revenue.  People get obsessive about rooting for their home team and choosing their favorite players.  We see competition played out in massive events where the winner takes home an impressive paycheck and often hero status.

We love to make competition personal.  We wind up competing with people for jobs, for love, for power, for things both consequential and inconsequential.  The outcome of that competition is often the basis of where we get our idea of worthiness or worthlessness.

Competition between two teams for entertainment is one thing, competing with one another for inconsequentials is quite another.  We have somehow managed to convince ourselves that we live in a world of lack, a world of not enough, a world where artificial limitations become the accepted truths of life.

We find ourselves determining our worth based upon our homes, our jobs, our associations, our education and other tangibles.  We also determine our worth based on social status, education, intelligence, wisdom and other intangibles.  We use these things to also determine the worth of others, and pass judgment from there.

Pathwalking is about choosing the life you want to lead.  The thing is, those who do not choose their own paths are no less worthy of finding happiness and contentment than those who do.  People who allow others to control their lives for them are no less worthy than those who wrest control for themselves.

This is not to say that everyone should necessarily get a trophy just for getting out of bed every day.  Mediocrity is a far cry from exceptionality, and we should not just reward everybody for the sake of sparing their feelings.  However, winners or losers, brilliant or middling, fat or thin, short or tall, everyone has their own worth.

Not only do other people not determine our worth – remember that likewise we cannot determine the worth of others.  There is no need to compete, there is no need to compare what makes any of us more or less worthy – everyone has worth.  Everyone has value.

You are a worthwhile person, and you deserve to have the life you most desire, to walk the path you want to choose, and to enjoy everything life has to offer.  No one but you can determine this to be true.  Choosing your own path to know your own person and discover and live a life you want most will only work out when you accept that you ARE worthy of it.

Do you believe you are worthwhile?

 

This is the one-hundred eighteenth entry in my series. These weekly posts are specifically about walking along the path of life, and my desire to make a difference in this world along the way. Thank you for joining me.

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