The Ramblings of the Titanium Don

What if Suffering is More of an Honest Thing than a Bad Thing?

You keep using that word. Maybe it doesn’t mean what you think it means. In our fear-based society, probably the thing we fear the most is suffering. Realistically, more often than not, the fear of suffering is far worse than any suffering is or will be. Allow me to prove this to you. Have you ever had a boss or a loved one say, “We need to talk,” with no context? Did you then start to become concerned about what

When the People Who Share My Heart Don’t Get Me?

How do I handle this along life’s paths? My family largely doesn’t get me. They love me, I know that. But they don’t get me. What does that mean? I do things, take approaches to matters, and live in ways that cause them to scratch their heads, wonder how I can possibly be content or happy this way, and probably question my sanity. My dating habits and relationship choices in my 20s and 30s made no sense to them. That

How is the Unusual More the Usual Than the Unusual?

Who decides usual from unusual, anyhow? I have never been called normal. Not by any stretch of the imagination. Being unusual is my usual. As a kid, I was different from those around me on many levels – both physically and emotionally. As a teen, because of where I grew up, I was a good head shorter than most of the other boys my age. Unusual tended to be an apt descriptor for me. Like most teens and twenty-somethings, I

Are Your Feelings – Positive or Negative – Always Valid?

Yes, your feelings are always valid. But understanding them is another matter. You’ve probably been in a situation where you had an emotional response someone deemed inappropriate or disproportional. You were overreacting, taking it too hard, overthinking it, or what-have-you. It did not help your situation, did it? Chances are it increased it, or made you more stubborn and deepened the feeling. What’s more, they might have been correct. You were overreacting, taking it too hard, overthinking it, or whatever.

How Important is it to Know What Is Your Why?

What is your why – in this context – is not about the overarching meaning of life. Every single human life matters. All lives are important. Each and every one of us is endowed with some scientifically amazing attributes. These allow us to experience our world like no other animal on Earth. When we are first born, our lives are lived wholly in the now. All we know is waking, sleeping, and being. During this period, we’re just like the

Is It Empowering to Acknowledge That I Know That I Don’t Know That?

Recognizing that I don’t know that opens me to options to learn, grow, and control change. There are some things I know a lot about. And there are even more things that I know a little about. This can be both incredibly useful – and slightly dangerous. Useful, because I perceive what I realize to the extent that I know it. Be it something I know a little or a lot about – what I already discern has limits. There

Nobody Gets Me – And That’s Okay

Overcoming the desire for people to “get” me is ongoing. I’ve spent a lot of my life trying to make an impression on people. Some of those people are or have been close to me. Family, friends, coworkers, etc. Others have been far more removed. You might be among them. Like most teenagers, I worked hard to “fit in” to this group or that. Mind you, I was never a popular kid – I was (and still am) a geek.

I Don’t Need You to Understand My Path

It’s my path, my life. Nobody else needs to understand – nor approve of – the choices and decisions I make. Like most people, there are numerous choices and decisions I have made along the way that were imperfect. Less-than good. Wrong. Bad. And worse. Part of the human experience is the choices and decisions you make. Some of them will lead to amazing discoveries, incredible experiences, and ultimately success. But then, some will lead to awful discoveries, lousy experiences,

The Positivity of Understanding

Now more than ever, there is a tremendous positivity in understanding. Unfortunately, 2020 has shown that people are frighteningly good at being unreasonable. For example – those who consider mandatory mask orders and social distancing to be violations of civil liberties. What they are telling me is that efforts to keep more people safe in the middle of an incurable pandemic are unimportant? Do they have some form of immunity so that they can walk around without a mask or

Communication is The Key

Communication is the key. When you have a problem with someone, you ultimately have the ability to address them about the issue. We human beings are gifted with a myriad of means to communicate. We can talk, text, use hand gestures and body language, and even a combination of most of these to express ourselves to one another. You can tell people things they did not know, or help them to understand your point of view. Or you can choose

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